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Would this annoy you if you were trying to lose weight?

7 replies

Movinghouseatlast · 15/07/2021 19:19

Background is I have put nearly 3 stone on during my perimenopause and now menopause. I have tried to diet many times, I do lots of exercise, nothing seems to work.

Ironically my partner has lost lots of weight during this same time. He is now a 30 inch waist. We have become a couple where the bloke looks great older ( silver fox!) and the woman looks a bit shit. I look like a mother in law from a crap 1950's seaside postcard.

I have started doing meal replacements lunch and breakfast with a normal dinner ( Mindful Chef) in the evening. I thought I would never do this!

He is kind of not eating much himself as I just can't make him food and not have any. But I feel he isn't taking any responsibility for his meals and keeps saying that he doesn't feel hungry. He makes no effort to think what to have at lunch time. I don't think it enters his head.

Today, he had no breakfast as he forgot. Then at lunchtime he had a bowl of my low calorie granola. He has eaten around 250 calories all day. I have had 600 calories ( I did Zumba so had to have a snack) and I am so bloody miserable with hunger.

We had a row about it because I said he would eat if I prepared it and he agreed that he would. So if I wasn't strictly dieting he would have scrambled eggs or whatever for lunch and porridge for breakfast.

I just can't go without food like he seems to be able to. I feel so hungry and miserable on 600 calories, he thinks one bowl of granola is all he needs all day. He says it's full of goodness!

I don't know what the point of this is really. I should just let him get on with eating what he wants to eat I suppose.

OP posts:
NickyOy · 15/07/2021 19:22

Why on earth are you trying to exist on 600 cals per day? It's not sustainable so of course you will be miserable. Don't worry about what he eats, he's an adult and can fend for himself. I would really look at something like slimming world with proper food you can both eat, I guarantee you won't feel hungry.

GreyhoundG1rl · 15/07/2021 19:24

You are both under eating quite dramatically. There's no way a grown man can survive on 250 calories, that's just daft.

Movinghouseatlast · 15/07/2021 19:55

No 600 cals up until now! Having a Mindful Chef dinner for 600 more cals and a glass of wine!

OP posts:
GreyhoundG1rl · 15/07/2021 19:56

@Movinghouseatlast

No 600 cals up until now! Having a Mindful Chef dinner for 600 more cals and a glass of wine!
Oh, good!
reallyworriedjobhunter · 15/07/2021 20:02

He is a grown up. He can make himself his own lunch.

EgSk · 16/07/2021 10:20

I went from 86 kilo to 67 kilo in 6.5 months , ate plenty and never went hungry . Keep up the exercise, eat sensibly ( but definitely eat) and you’ll see results . Don’t compare yourself to your partner . Take pride in being healthy instead , something your partner is not doing if he’s not eating ,

FlatteredFool · 16/07/2021 11:00

Your partner sounds like he's headed into eating disorder territory and like he's competing with you to eat the least.

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