I need a kick up the arse

[Bobbiepin]

I was calorie counting from Feb to April and was doing really well, slow consistent weight loss but I stopped. I don't know why. I'm bigger than my clothes, and hiding food from my DH. I'm ashamed of what I'm eating.

I keep beating myself up thinking how much further I would be if I hadn't stopped and its making my hate myself. I'm starting again, going back to the calorie counting properly tomorrow but had a salad with salmon for lunch.

Please will someone kick me up the arse and help me get back on track. There's been so many milestones over the last month that I wanted to be slimmer for and they've all been and gone with me exactly the same.

It's so difficult isn't it? You don't need a kick up the arse. You need a hand to get up and a bit of gentle encouragement. Don't see it as all or nothing. Perhaps setting aside your worst habits, mine was eating huge bags of crisps, rather than rigidly sticking to a very low calorie diet. Also adding in some exercise. How much do you need to lose? I'm 35lbs into losing 60lbs. A marathon rather than a sprint

It’s a new start. Try and focus on the good you’ll be doing yourself now and every day going forwards that you’re eating healthily. Whatever’s gone before doesn’t matter-you’re doing such a good thing by starting now.

There’s a good series on all4 called 21 day body turnaround which showed how much difference you can make in a really short time by changing your habits. It’s only three episodes. I found it really motivating.

Good luck.

Thank you, it shows I'm in a bit of a bad place when your message actually made me tear up.

I'm not going super low calorie, my total daily energy expenditure is 2100 and I'm dropping to 1500, slow and steady. I weight lift usually twice a week and I usually run but haven't in a while because the high pollen really aggrevates my asthma. Looks like I'm not a summer runner! I would like to lose 30lbs so just over 2 stone although the number on the scale is less important than how clothes look. I was under a dietician years ago (when I lost a lot of weight due to illness) and we agreed that 10st was a healthy weight for me.

@Bobbiepin I could have written your post! I started the year off really well and lost almost a stone. By March I'd given up and I suspect I've put almost all of it back on.

Perhaps we can have a mutual kick up the bum support thread!

@scaredsadandstuck your user name sums it up perfectly! I need accountability, which is why calorie counting helps but my ADHD means being consistent with Something long term is really difficult.

I'll kick you up the arse if you kick me up the arse.

I'm exactly the same, been doing ok and then the past few days I've gone completely out of control. Today is a fresh day!

[quote Bobbiepin]@scaredsadandstuck your user name sums it up perfectly! I need accountability, which is why calorie counting helps but my ADHD means being consistent with Something long term is really difficult.[/quote]
Aww my user name is a bit depressing isn't it. I keep thinking I should change it!

Staying on track is so hard, so adding ADHD into the mix must make it even tougher.

I have considered getting hypnotised. I read this article about it the other day www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/jun/01/is-your-willpower-failing-i-tried-hypnotherapy-and-it-worked-almost-too-well

Is that just lazy?!

Not at all! My mum had hypnotherapy and it helped her with an addiction but when I tried it they said I'm not "open to it" so it won't work!

I'm making an appointment to go back on the ADHD meds. Not been on them in 16 years so it's a big step but I need it. Also, appetite suppression is a side effect so hopeful for that (now that IS lazy!)

@WitchDancer exactly. Get back on track for the rest of the day, what do you have planned for dinner?

Leftover Chinese from last night and some salad. I love a salad when it's warm weather thankfully.

What is everyone else having?

Not sure, we have some turkey breast cooked off so will inevitably involve that and trying to resist the cake in the kitchen!

It’s going to be some sort of mushroom pasta here. I measure carbs to make sure I’m not going overboard with the potion. Everything else is easy to judge by eye.

DS has a mate over and they're getting Domino's, as is husband. I've resisted as there is chicken in the fridge that I can use to make a salad with 😇

Well done! I had some cake and some low cal ice cream but cous cous and veggies for dinner so hoping it balances out!

I had an ice cream after my salad 🤣

I've had a coffee and a wagamamas donburi bowl today but I'm craving chocolate biscuits. Could eat half a pack!

It’s ok OP. Tomorrow is a brand new day. Don’t dwell on it and start afresh tomorrow. I fell off the bandwagon and had KFC recently. Now I’m slowly coming back on track again.

Start off with smaller goals instead of trying to reach for the moon. That’s where I was going wrong before. I have about two stones to go but I know getting to my dream weight will take a lot more effort than I’m putting in at the moment. So I’m just slowly focussing on losing at least 2lbs a week so that I know I’m making process.

I can polish my halo today. Everyone else had pizza and I had paella with salad and then a low fat chocolate mousse thing from Morrisons for pudding. I'm well within my 1,200 calories, and have enough left for a pack of iced gems later if I fancy something sweet.

The scales went down this morning so that's boosted me a little. I know early days is water weight etc but I'll take it.

@WitchDancer that's great, well done! 1200 sounds quite low though, have you calculated your tdee?

@ExitChasedByABee you're totally right. My next goal is to weigh less than my DH who is only a couple inches taller than me but svelte and slim. Why are men built so differently?

Morning Bobbie!

I'm doing Noom and 1,200 calories is what they suggested based on my height and weight. I could go more calories if I wanted a slower weight loss but I want this weight off! I've lost 6lb in 2 weeks, which included 3 days going completely off the rails, so I'm well happy.

Wow amazing progress, well done. What is noom? I keep seeing adverts for it.

Noom is basically calorie counting and encouragement to move more. It is different in that it looks at the psychology of why you overeat and gives you a lot of suggestions as to changes you can make to your diet.

You can try it for 1p for a fortnight, so thought why not, and have been pleased with it so I thought I would carry on.

The only thing that I'm still getting used to is the weighing in every day - it's supposed to remove the fear of the scales apparently. Maybe it's good as I can see what's going on.

Set teeny tiny goals, lots of them and recognise every achievement. I'm an excel junky so a good spreadsheet really helps me.

This is my achievements to show what I mean about recording everything

Oh and forgive yourself when you slip. I took May off of dieting and put on 17lb in one month. It doesn't make me a failure, I lost it once i can lose it again!

I love a good spreadsheet too, that's a great idea Half!

I agree about forgiving yourself too. It's ok to have a bad day from time to time! It's going to take me at least a year to get to target so to never slip up is extremely unlikely.

Beautiful spreadsheet! I like the idea of weight to go to healthy etc, I'll definitely look up what that is for me.

Unfortunately I know why I overeat, it's just being able to overcome it that's the problem. Lots of work going in to that.

I also weigh in every day, I've got into the mindset of treating it like data. I k ow it goes down after I run and up after weights so when I track it and can see the general trend going down I know its working.