Self Sabotaging

[LittleBirdBlu]

Why oh why do I do this?

Started dieting last Monday, by Friday I'd lost 3lb's!! Yay!! But to celebrate I've spent the whole weekend eating crap...ffs I'm too scared to weigh myself tomorrow now

I know the feeling. Do you think that you were too restrictive during the week, and that lead to a binge? Maybe try allowing a little more during the week within your calorie allowance, and think of a different way to celebrate when you've done well.

Good luck! Don't give up now

Can you prepare yourself in advance and think up a non food related treat? Might work

You need to fond a different way to celebrate. I give myslef goals and buyyself something when reaching the goal. Just some smaller thing which makes me happy. Once I got nice tea(not a food😁), next time small plant, some candle etc

Food isn't a treat for eating less food. It takes a while to get it into the head.

Just want to add that all these treats cost me less than food treats. So win, win😂

Yes I definitely need to reward myself in a different way. I'd already planned to eat treats as it was movie night with my daughters on Friday, and I thought I would just have treats on Friday but then yesterday & today I was still eating crap! In fact tonight I just thought oh well and ate even more! I'm dreading the scales tomorrow now, but I need to just forget this weekend and start again tomorrow. Gosh it's so hard to lose it, but I've got 2 stone to shift so it's got to be done.

It helped me think about food as everyday food and sometimes food, rather than diet food and treats. Kind of takes away that "must eat all treats" brain farts.

I do this too...feel good about myself after being so good so then use it as justification to go and be naughty - it’s crazy really when you think about it. I don’t know why I do this to myself, I really don’t 🙄

It's natural. People, not just people actually, want to be rewarded.
We want to be rewarded at work in form of wages and bonuses or gifts if we do really well.
We wanted to be rewarded when we were at school and did well.
We get reward every year for surviving - birthday presents😁

Do - get reward is life.
So it's no surprise when we do dieting good we want some immediate reward.

Don't fight it. Control it😁 Beeswax cadles are great just fyi. Pretty smell and apparently filter air or something 😁

Because diets don’t work and it’s your body’s way of trying to keep your weight stable should the perceived famine continue. Read why we eat too much. Quit sugar, reduce refined carbs but, other than that, just eat well. You’ll lose weight slowly and keep it off.

I sort of agree with the poster above, but I think it goes beyond that. Human bodies have not evolved beyond the survival feast/famine mode and so your body wants you to put on weight when you can.

For me, accepting that my body wants me to be slightly overweight but that it's in my power to over ride that for my long term health doesn't mean I don't love my body or feel comfortable in myself. It means I know there won't be a significant famine and so I don't need that extra weight just in case.

Last year when I lost weight, I "rewarded" myself with massages. As bodies and weight change, little things pop up as issues so it was a win-win.

I ought to book myself in for a massage soon again. Is there something like that you can use as a different reward?

Cutting out sugar will help no end as well. Once you get over the hump, you realise you stop craving it.

Oh yes sugar. I had gestational diabetes and was pretty good at avoiding sugar before that but had to restrict what I ate so so much to the point that I couldn’t even eat fruit unless paired with high fat and protein, I’ve gone the other way and become a total sugar fiend now - I really need to get a grip on it!

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Because diets don’t work and it’s your body’s way of trying to keep your weight stable should the perceived famine continue. Read why we eat too much. Quit sugar, reduce refined carbs but, other than that, just eat well. You’ll lose weight slowly and keep it off.

I definitely need to quit sugar. I lost 4 stone 3 years ago, by quitting sugar and I went low carb, I was going through a tough break up too which kind of helped. But over the last year I've put 2 back on, and I'm finding it so hard to cut out the sugar this time.

Absolutely agree with SchrodingersImmigrant, eating more is not the right reward for eating less, you need to find something different to celebrate your little victory with. Self sabotage can also happen due to the amount of stress, i.e. I find myself eating more when I'm nervous about something, so keeping an eye on things that can ruin your mental balance is also important