In agony.

[Mybabysmylife]

Hello. Recently maybe 2 months nearly now I started getting very bad back pain. In both my pregnancy's I had sciatica and spd. Second pregnancy it was a lot worse. I've put on abit of weight in lockdown and it's really got me questioning if this is the reason I have the back ache it got so bad I couldn't walk! I'm 16st I have started since January doing a lot of walking everyday taking my kids too 2 different nurseries. I just cannot diet or eat healthy! I've tried dieting for years now I have anxiety and depression and I get so excited at the start of new things but then half way down the line of dieting I get bored and stop.. it's a vicious circle. I'm always always tired so I can never be bothered to make food for myself I go all day without eating then just eat a sandwich for tea or noodles. I'm on my feet all day cleaning taking kids for a walk zoom classes etc. When it comes to tea time for me I just simply can't be bothered. And more so now I'm in pain with my back everyday! Sorry just wanted a rant and to see what people have done for sciatica pain?

I think loosing weight would help your pain. It's really difficult with two young children but perhaps start by recording everything you eat on an app?

Can you get some healthy ready meals just for you? I'm not as busy as you, as my kids are older, but I can relate to feeling like you cannot be bothered. Good luck

I too think you need a food diary.
A sandwich or noodles once a day would be very few calories.
Also eating a healthy breakfast and lunch may help with the tiredness. Currently you're running on empty all day and back pain will be worse if you're dehydrated.

It sounds as though you haven't found the right diet, if you're getting bored. You should aim for a wide variety of foods that are low in fat and sugar - plenty of vegetables and lean meat (or equivalent protein if you don't eat meat).

Have a look online at the things that are listed as 'free' foods on popular diets such as WW and Slimming World (not saying you should join, just suggesting this as inspiration for a greater variety of foods). Go for 'cook from scratch' meals rather than ready meals. One option if you struggle for time in the week would be cooking at the weekends and freezing portions that you can quickly heat up in the week.

I just simply can't be bothered.

I know it's really difficult, I spent a long time struggling to lose weight before I finally got into the right mindset. But the thing is, you presumably can't be bothered with the pain and exhaustion either? Which is more exhausting? The thought of continuing as you are, or the thought of tackling it?

If tackling it genuinely seems like more effort than living with it, then you continue as you are. But if living with it seems more difficult than tackling it, then you're already half way to making a change.

I had struggled for years until I had the lightbulb moment that actually my life was harder continuing on the path I was on than changing the path I was on.

And I don't mean to be flippant and say it's easy, it's just willpower. It's not easy, and it's not willpower either. But knowing that you're actually taking the easier path (long term) makes a big difference to how it feels.

Your all so helpful! Thankyou all! I sit here and think I hate myself I want to leave my partner because I don't feel good enough i think he would find much better , he's never gave me a reason to feel that it's my own self been insecure about the baby weight. I get motivation then I get bored I've never been for " tea" so by time I put my 9,2&3 year olds to bed all I want to do is sit down I don't want to move after that. It's like I never ever get motivation long enough. I have pictures in head of me skinny and THAT doesn't even last long enough to motivate me. I just want to do this!!!