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Feeling pretty low

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typingcake · 31/12/2020 10:44

I’ve put on so much weight since lockdown in March. Every piece of clothing I own is either too small now or I’m bursting out of it.

I had my 2.5yo toddler home for 17 weeks and I had to stop working because whilst my husband isn’t a key worker they insisted he work Monday to Friday 9-5 with no flexibility. My business suffered, my mental health suffered and I had a mini breakdown in July. (Away from the eyes of my child I should add, I had a fab summer with him tho I’m sure he could sense my despair)

Since nursery reopened we had a string of aggressive behaviour where my boy physically attacked me several times a day and had 4 hour screaming fits where he would also hurt himself, it took 7 weeks for him to settle back into nursery and for that to ease off. I tried to talk to family about it but was labeled dramatic and told that all children have tantrums and I’m not the only mother going through it (their children are older and didn’t turn 2 in a pandemic… with zero visitors and no support).

I had to call my health visitor and I was referred to the NHS nursery nurse to do the triple P workshop via zoom for behavioural issues. Nursery were amazing and worked with us to try and diffuse the tantrums and support my boy best we could.

There have been 2 other spikes in behaviour linked to a disruption in his routine.

So I’ve been back at work, sharing my studio space with my husband, desperately trying to catch up on projects that are 5 months delayed.

I’ve not exactly been able to get out of the house. I’m just so caught up with work and then chores and by the time my boy is in bed at 7.30 I’m too exhausted to do anything.

I’m comfort eating and not exercising and I’m sure I’ve gained 10-15kg.

I just feel quite isolated and a bit pathetic that I’ve let myself go.

OP posts:
typingcake · 10/01/2021 13:06

I’ve actually gained 18.7kg.
I weighed myself yesterday.
Can’t speak to my husband about it because when I do he just goes silent and doesn’t offer any support.
Reached over to get something yesterday in one of my dresses and it tore at the arm pit.
Still feeling pretty low.

OP posts:
Peony2021 · 10/01/2021 13:15

Aw hun you are definitely not alone in these feelings - they are happening across the world in varying degrees 😞 I'm so sorry to hear about your business suffering last year and I'm sure you have been extremely stressed out about your son. I can only imagine the strange effects all this has had on little ones, despite trying to shield them from it all.

I completely understand your comfort eating, I had done it myself from 2016. I piled on around 7 stone after my mum died (I was 24, engaged a week before that and looking ahead to the future wondering how on Earth I was going to cope). I just kept eating and eating. My husband and family were amazing but I couldn't get out of the funk. Lockdown actually managed to get me moving a bit more, and I discovered that just being outside for a walk really helped my mental health during the whole thing. I'm also trying to conceive which has put some extra pressure on us.

Could you carve out some time for yourself, to listen to a podcast, have a walk, have a bath, do some yoga? I have also tried online meditation (I couldn't stick with it but heard others rave about it for easing their mind). Sending love - don't forget to look after yourself. Also, there's a few lovely threads here for the weight loss / fitness / feeling good about yourself aspect. I've joined the one about losing at least 4 stone and we are a friendly bunch if you would like to join in ☺️ xx

KellyTLC · 10/01/2021 13:24

Hey @typingcake you certainly are not alone!

This last year had been a complete shit show!

We are all just trying to survive with our lives being turned upside down.

I’m a female lifestyle coach, I help busy mums lose weight by making simple and sustainable tweaks to their lifestyle, so happy to chat and help in any way I can.

I think @Peony2021 has hit the nail on the head with her advice of trying to carve out some time for yourself. Sounds like you’ve had a tough time.
I do this when my 4yo watches the kindle, helps me recharge.

Please don’t be too hard on yourself.

Kelly xx

Mychildkeepswhining · 10/01/2021 13:42

Just to say OP that I totally understand and can truly sympathise with your post - I went through the same with ds last year and nobody I spoke to got it. He would bite, hit, scratch both me and himself and have epic screaming fits etc . I was regularly dropping him off at nursery with my face scratched or a black eye. In the end I had to decide to stop sending him. The stress it was causing me just wasn't worth it. It went on for 6 months despite people telling me it would stop and he just needed to get used to it ! It didn't and he didn't. I've no advice tbh but I just wanted you to know that I understand how hard it is and what it does to your mental health. Flowers

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