Need to lose 8st and I hate my body! Motivation needed

[Swags12]

I currently weigh 18stones and classify as obese. I would really love to be slimmer and reach 10 stones which is a healthy BMI for me. I feel so jealous when I see why sisters fitting in well into nice clothes, getting compliments about their looks whilst my relatives always telling them not to become like me and it just really upsets me and lowers my confidence and self esteem. Ive tried many times to stick to portion controlling and eating healthy but I just quit after couple of days. Tried going on walks but get so tired quickly and I feel so embarrassed that people might laugh at me and talk behind my back since where I live everyone knows each other as it’s a small town. I can’t even exercise at home because of the little space and it’s really overcrowded so no privacy. Gym is out of the question as I can’t afford it. Can someone give me suggestions on how I can stay motivated to lose weight, I feel so upset about what I’ve done to my body and I’m only 20 years old I have stretch marks all over my body and feel sick when I look at myself when I shower. Please help me stay motivated to lose weight and any tips for me to lose weight.

I appreciate anyone who replies to this.

@Gettingthereslowly2020
Thank you, your words are truly motivating and I’m going to start with small goals instead of longer goals to stay motivated and tonight I’m going to do more research.

@FatGirlShrinking
Thank you for the suggestions I’ve looked into cauliflower rice and I’m going to buy some and give it a try.

@ilovespinach I tried intermittent fasting and find it really good so I’m planning to do this and actually stick to the hours.

[quote Swags12]@Gettingthereslowly2020
Thank you, your words are truly motivating and I’m going to start with small goals instead of longer goals to stay motivated and tonight I’m going to do more research.[/quote]
Remember, the small changes you make now are going to make a huge difference in a year's time. It's an exciting time for you to make positive changes and see what progress you can make

@TooExtraImmatureCheddar thank you for the post and I do still live with my parents at the moment and the food mainly cooked is rice and curry as I’m south Asian but lots of vegetables included.
I think I already follow the rules you suggested as I don’t eat any sweets as I hate it and crisp I have it like once a month. Junk food I need to cut down as we get takeaway once a week or 2. I don’t usually snack just have my 3 meals and I hardly have any sugar. I think my main issue is portion control and doing little exercise.

@TheStirrer well done on losing 6 stones that’s incredible and I’m going to start going on walks from tomorrow and build it on slowly. I hope you do well losing your last 3 stones.

@Gettingthereslowly2020
Thank you and this time I’m actually going to stick to it and make changes as I realised if I don’t change now I’m never going to be happy with the way I am. Thank you to all those who replied I really appreciate it.

Best of luck OP

I was similar weight to you last year and ,managed to lose 2.5 st this year. Had November and December off but starting the new diet tomorrow.
I don’t do any particular exercise but have a Fitbit and find it easier when I do more steps. You don’t have to go out running, you can just move more inside, my house has been much tidier this year as every time my Fitbit tells me I need more steps I get up and find a job to do.
Then on the food front I have found the fasting diet the easiest. I just drink no sugar squash till 2pm, have a light lunch, then dinner and this means you can have a small snack. By restricting your eating to within a 6 hour window you can eat a decent amount and still lose weight. I honestly haven’t been hungry whilst doing this and tbh I think not eating for 18 hours means your stomach shrinks as I find a smallish lunch really fills me up.
What is your daily routine like, do you work at a desk or do you have time to be more active?

Break it up into little goals. Therefore losing 8 stone won't feel so daunting.

This.

How I've done it before: starting at 79kg I would set a goal to drop to 12 stone (76.2kg, 168lbs). After that the goal would be 75kg. My next goal would then be 160lbs (72.5kg) rather than 70kg. Essentially I'd pick the smallest increment downwards to make it feel achievable. I jumped from stones and pounds to pounds to kgs. For me that really took the pressure off.