I’m posting on this section because I’d appreciate some advice, although I’m prepared to be flamed as well. The summary is that I’m so frustrated (almost angry) with my DH about his weight gain and genuinely worried about his long term health.
I try to get him to see the doctor once a year for a general checkup (we’re in the US where an annual checkup is common). He isn’t keen and skipped last year,. Back in 2018, he was told then that he needed to lose about two stone, his blood pressure was increasing and now was the time to make some changes.
Then he went again last week and he’s gained nearly another stone.☹️ I know it’s been a shitty year, but he just won’t take it seriously. He hasn’t had the blood work done yet but I’m afraid of what it will reveal, as I suspect he’s now pre-diabetic (there’ve been various signs).
What the heck am I supposed to do? I’ve tried to be supportive and do things together like daily walks and cycling together, but he needs to make some serious changes, like not drinking bloody beer and cider several times a week. He doesn’t drink to excess, but it’s like he refuses to acknowledge that beer is packed with calories.
He’s not depressed, we’ve been able to WFH so our finances are OK. Family life is fine, we’re OK as a couple, although our sex live has taken a nose dive because he puffs like a steam engine unless I do all the work.☹️
He has so many plans for the future and I’m both scared and somewhat angry that they won’t happen, because he’s buggering up his health.
Sorry this is a rant, I just have to tell someone and I don’t feel comfortable sharing my concerns with people IRL. I don’t want to hurt or massively criticise him, I just want him to make changes before something bad happens. I’m also aware that he wouldn’t be happy if I gained a lot of weight, but it seems I just have to tolerate it.