Please can anyone help me

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I've ballooooooned seriously balllooooooned. I'm depressed, I'm very depressed due to what is happening - day 35 of pain. Sounds like I have carpal tunnel both my wrists and hands are causing horrendous pain. I can't wash dishes, I cant hoover, I can't mop, I can't clean the bathroom, I can't deep clean, I can't use scissors, I can't peel an apple or orange, I can't do us lovely tasty dinners. Sometimes my wrists don't work and my daughter has to brush my teeth. I could go on. My daughter has been helping wash dishes and do some cooking. My feet, toes all hurt and especially when i walk.I have nerve damage which keeps me awake with twitching. My hands and wrists hurt day and night . I yelp. I am waiting for a referral for a nerve conduction test. Being in pain and depressed I just sit and eat and eat and don't stop. I'm not able to exercise, I'm not doing anything so I expect I'd have to be on a very very low calorie diet. But I also feel hungry all of the time. I hate myself, I hate the pain. I cry a lot. Can anyone give me any wise words, any encouragement? Should I not eat any snacks and just have my breakfast, lunch and tea? Anyone who can reply and give me any kind, wise words of support I would be so grateful. Thankyou.

Oh OP! I didn’t want to read and run. Can you get the pain sorted out? It sounds so debilitating. Is there something the doctor could give you that would help?
It sounds like serious dieting is off the cards at the moment but could you try to maintain your weight rather than necessarily lose anything? I think that getting the pain sorted is the first thing you need to do. X

No advice - need some myself - but you are not alone. After an initial period of fretting and eating less, I have settled into awful snacking habits. It must be horrendous for you with the added nerve pain. I've had nerve problems in the past but waited so long for the conduction test that they had cleared up by then, and I never got to the bottom of it. I think sticking to just your meals is a good plan - I'm going to try to do that too.

Thankyou for the replies. Yes it is very debilitating and I'm very depressed with the pain and turn to food. I'm so miserable with my size now but I just want to eat the biscuits, and the cake and the chocolate. I feel like I just dont know how to be healthy at the moment and I feel so down because my hands aren't working well and I'm in pain with my wrists, and burning, tingling, prickling , pins and needles. Then my feet start hurting, my toes, my soles of my feet, I feel like my bones hurt. My legs twitch and I get twitches all over. I'm just sitting and getting fatter and fatter. What on earth can i do - (seriously seriously limit my food intake I know) my daughter helps me but I feel so bad, I don't like to expect too much of her. I can't hold a cup of tea in my right hand, I can't chop things up. I'm struggling using my own hands to put my make up on. I can't drive with this. The gp is referring me for nerve conduction tests but they aren't taking referrals at the moment. I go between ibuprofen, codeine and paracetomol. The doctor prescribed gabapentin for nerve damage which I had terrible side effects to. I've got tramadol but they make me spaced out. I'm upset I'm getting bigger and bigger wish I could do something about it but I'm miserable and sad and want to be doing things but I'm just comfort eating. My daughter cut the grass yesterday as I couldn't do it. Thankyou for reading.

Your daughter sounds great. Are you able to get food deliveries from supermarkets? You can buy chopped up frozen veg that means you don’t have to do any chopping. I think anything too drastic is likely to make you feel worse at the moment but how about simple stuff that is natural and tasty and won’t leave you feeling miserable.
Breakfasts could be full fat Greek yoghurt with fruit and nuts or eggs in the microwave with wholemeal toast. Or porridge made in microwave with fruit and nuts.
Lunches you could have pre-cooked fish or chicken from the supermarket with bagged salad and potato pre-cooked or cooked in microwave. You could have something similar for dinner or get those pre-prepared chicken breasts that just need to go in the oven. I know pre-prepared stuff is expensive so apologies in advance if you’re on a tight budget.
Alternatively do you think your daughter might be up for cooking for the both of you? No worries if not but if so, there are lots of nice recipes online and lots of ingredients are cheap, like tinned tomatoes.
I think that due to your pain, don’t go too low with the cals at the moment. I really hope you get it sorted soon. It’s awful how this pandemic has made it harder for people to get medical appointments. My heart goes out to you.