Addicted to takeaways

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Hi everyone feel stupid writing this but thought it might be a good start. Everyday I wake up with the thought in my mind that today is the day that I'm going to loose this weight but the smallest things can knock me off track. An argument with my OH is usually my main triggers. I usually make the kids some dinner then put them to bed and order a takeaway. Just feeling sad or really happy usually puts the thought in my head to order one. A lot of the time I order one and don't really enjoy it I just feel the need to order it.

Really would appreciate any tips or advice on where to start. I know we're in lockdown now and I'm the in the "vulnerable category" so I can't even go food shopping anymore and make the right choices So Oh is just buying crap.

I feel so angry with myself I ordered one tonight and had a few mouthfuls and put it to the side. I feel disgustingly fat and I make myself feel sick when I see my body in the mirror.

How often are you arguing with your OH? It isn't uncommon to eat your feelings, OP.

I think identifying the takeaway trigger properly, and tackling that first.

Why not just eat with the children? Eat the same size portion as them and factor in a supper later, or think of it as intermittent fasting and just find distractions after they've gone to bed (a soak in the bath, painting your nails, colouring book, knitting)

Oddly, we’ve found that coronavirus has helped us quit the takeaway habit.

I can’t say that I won’t be back on them again after but at the moment I’m concentrating so much on meal planning and not wasting food that we’re not having any takeaways. (Also slightly scared of getting the virus from one.)

But I’ve been making sure we have lovely takeaway style extras to go with the meal eg if I’m cooking stir fry one evening we’ll also have spring rolls and prawn crackers with it. Basically making more of a treat of it because:
A) Food is bringing me a lot of joy at the moment.l want to eat nice things.
B) I have the time to.
C) It’s more expensive than regular meals but still cheaper than a takeaway.
D) It’s more fattening than regular meals but still less fattening than a takeway.

No idea what I’m going to do after. But that’s what I’m doing at the moment.

Would strict meal planning help you?

Past few days we have started getting on each others nerves now. I find I eat a lot more with him being home too. I do cook I cook most days but will still order a takeaway on the evening sometimes I will just order a piece of cake. It's like im never satisfied.

@RedRed9 I believe it probably would I would need all the ingredients in the house too. As I find it I don't have something I will just order a takeaway.

I'm just so tired of hating myself I use to be so confident and happy and now I just wear frumpy clothes or pyjamas.

Ok, well to me it sounds like you really are at the point where you want to make a change. Especially as you aren’t even enjoying the takeaways.

Can you make it harder for yourself to order them? Delete the app or leave your phone upstairs or in the car so it’s more inconvenient?

If you are on the vulnerable list can you get a supermarket delivery slot or click and collect? Take back some of the control about what’s coming into the house.

You need to meal plan. Either so you are all eating together or so that you are cooking for your children and then again for yourself. It doesn’t have to be lentil salad. The BBC Good Food website is a good place to start. It sounds like you don’t have a good relationship with food and eating and you need to get to the point where eating is something enjoyable and not something you are doing in secret.

Your relationship doesn’t sound like it’s making you happy. You are talking about it like arguing is the norm and it shouldn’t be that way.

I agree with @PeacockPies

Why not try it for a week: put time and love and effort into cooking for a week. Make meal time a lovely event for yourself. Just one week and then see how you feel at the end of it.