I’m disgusting please help

[Beebers111]

I’ve just seen a video of myself. I look enormous. I’m 5’4 and a size 16, I weigh around 13.5 stone.

I didn’t realise how huge I look, in the video I’m eating dinner at a party and I look disgusting. I actually thought I looked ok and loved my dress etc.

Other people must think I’m repulsive.

Please help me what is the best way to get started and stay on it.

Some PP need to take a look at themselves - this is the OP talking about how she feels. Not about you.
If you’re happy in your size, well done. Jog on.

Last spring I was 13 stone. I’m also 5ft 2. I was very uncomfortable in my own skin and bursting out of all my clothes.

I started by cutting down and then doing intermittent fasting. I also started walking A LOT. As I got fitter I started using the exercise bike at home and doing online exercise vids.
Last few months I have been doing TEAM RH and eating higher protein and fibre and using weights. I’m toning and shrinking all the time.
I’m now under 11 stones and have gone from a size 16 to a 12.
It’s taken a huge effort and it’s a learning curve to find what works for you!

It can be done. Set small targets and get them done rather than thinking of how far you have to go!

@Beebers111 please come back. I am bigger than you and took absolutely no offence at what you're saying. Please ignore those who were unkind. I understand that you were not saying that about all people.

The way you're feeling is totally normal unfortunately but it's not good and won't help you to keep going like this. It's bloody hard and I totally get what you mean about being the odd one out in your family.

Please have a look at some of the positive methods and resources other posters have mentioned. You can get through this

The op isn't describing other people as repulsive or disgusting, she's talking about how she feels about herself. Give her a break, she feels bad enough as it is without people wading in on her about something else.

OP at the start of the year I weighted exactly the same as you and I'm an inch shorter, I fully understand how you are feeling. I joined slimming world the 2nd week in January and I'm now a stone lighter. Still got a way to go but I feel better for being in control.

And just for info, I didn't think the op meant I was disgusting at the start of the year either.

Please be a friend to yourself. Would you call a friend repulsive? The kinder you are to yourself, the stronger you'll feel and more able to tackle the issue.
You're just overweight. It's not a crime or a profound moral failing.
Eat well. Move more. Drink water. Care about yourself. I bet you did look lovely in your dress - that's probably what your companions were thinking.

Sorry I didn’t humph off. I’ve been at meetings this morning.

As I pulled up to work this morning someone in my family had screenshotted the video of me eating the canapé and zoomed in and made a comment along the lines of you take your food so seriously! You know laughing face emoji etc. Then my whole family piled in and someone said well your hair looks nice.

I was crying for a good 20 minutes in the car and then to be told to piss off!

I am not body shaming others. I’m really not I know full well how it feels.

Welcome back OP. Sorry about all the nastiness you have received. The main Question is what do YOU want to do about it?
Do you just want to loose weight or do you want to work on other things as well like your own body image.
What kind of foods do you enjoy?
Are you active?

I just want to give you some encouragement that I have been your weight twice after 2 babies and I am the same height as you. I lost 4 stones each time by eating less and walking more. If you want to, you can start now and I am positive by the end of the year you will be in a better position. Take care.

I want to lose weight and feel better about myself. I’m the largest in my family and a family of people who do nothing but complain if they even put on the smallest bit of weight.

I feel useless. I had a big op before Christmas and was house bound for at least four weeks so at least half a stone piled on then. Now I can’t seem to get below 13’5

I have a family very similar to yours OP. The way I looked seemed to take priority over how I was feeling. They didn't complain as such but went as far to say to me my now EX partner cheated on me a left me and my DD was because id put on too much weight.
I didn't think I was fat at the time and I had a brilliant image of myself but continuous knocks to me confidence really carved deep into me and the sadder I got the more I put on. The uglier I felt. The more weight I put on. My deep routed issue was that, I as a person was sad.

Im a strong person and I'm willing to bet you are too! Get into your fight mentality. You WILL do this. Not for them but for yourself.

I reported the poster who seems to think she is the talk police. She has no right to tell you to leave the thread.
It helps to share and ask for encouragement. Good luck and keep posting

I feel exactly the same OP. I’m just over 12 stone so not grossly obese but definitely overweight for my frame. I was a size 8-10 until my late twenties as that is my ‘natural’ Shape but years of poor eating habits, lack of exercise and 2 babies within a year have finally caught up with me! The worst thing is my stomach - it honestly is horrific. Stretch marks etc but it’s like my last baby bump just turned to fat rather than disappearing. I am so self conscious of it and cringe every time I get undressed.

Sometimes I think I look ok in the mirror but then I will see a photo or catch myself at a bad angle and am filled with self-disgust- even more so when I compare it with photos of how I used to look. This isn’t a reflection on others who are overweight /obese - I don’t actually have the same thoughts about them. Other people seem much better at ‘carrying’ excess weight well and looking stylish and confident. I just find it so bloody hard to stick to healthy eating. I have no excuse, I just can’t seem to drum up the willpower despite feeling massively uncomfortable and down about my size and the fact none of my clothes fit. I basically live in leggings and baggy t-shirts, it’s very depressing. I think I’m addicted to sugar too (not an excuse but I literally can’t stop eating chocolate/cakes etc!!)🤦🏼‍♀️

I’ve actually booked a personal shopping /stylist appointment - I was going to wait til i lost weight but then thought I might as well try to find some clothes to make the best of how I am now. Could you try something like that?

Sorry I don’t have any useful advice but I’m here in solidarity with you!

Well I downloaded couch 2 5k and managed 3 runs thought i was going to puke.

I then left it 4 hours and did 3 more runs.

6 minutes intermittent running and I’m also passed out.

Will try again tomorrow

And for full disclosure this is the screenshot that was sent to me. Without my head where I’m snaffling canapés.

You're really not big!

Wtaf

Can I just say, from what I can see in that picture, you look absolutely beautiful! Gorgeously dressed and your figure looks nice too. This isn’t just me trying to be kind, this is the honest truth!

You really need to work on your self esteem OP

My god you look beautiful!

What an amazing dress and you've the loveliest hair. You do look so glamourise and classy.

Please don't fall into the trap of self loathing it often leads to eating more.

Stick with the couch to 5k. I've got a client down from a 22 to a 16 in 4 months training 3 times a week with her being sensible about portions and eating real unprocessed food. We do some light weights too to build up her strength and tone.

With your diet just do something that us sustainable. Don't fall into slimming world or WW. It's a fab business modal. You always put the weight back on and end up going back.

@Bloomburger Does that mean no processed food whatsoever?

It just means be sensible. Anything with multiple ingredient not whole food but food full of crap that will give you a short term fix. I try not to have food made up of more than 3 ingredients.

That was v unkind of your family. Sod them!

Agree that you look nice in that pic, nice sparkly top or dress, glam etc.

If you decide to work to lose weight for looks/health reasons, do it for yourself and don’t discuss it with your family.

Thanks to whoever recommended the Miriam Margolyes programme - it's really good. OP you look lovely in that photo and are beautifully dressed. Your family member sounds like a complete arse. Although exercise helps, it's mainly about what you eat. For me, cutting out white carbs is the only way because my appetite disappears so no willpower is required. People often mistake hunger for carb addiction as the more carbs you have the more you crave.

@Beebers111. I have been doing the 800 diet by Michael Mosley. It is hard to start with but I have stuck to it for ten days now and lost 11 lbs. It works for me because I can see the scales come down, and I know I feel fitter as I have cut out sweets etc. There is a book out all about it is you Google. The food is really healthy and tasty. I think it changes your opinion of what you enjoy eating. Good luck.