Help me. Every evening I say tomorrow I’ll eat healthier...

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I have four stone to lose and I’m really unhappy with my weight. I think about it all the time.
I have two children (2 & 4), I work full time in a pressured management role & I cosleep with my youngest who still breastfeeds so I’m sleep deprived.
I just can’t do it, I can’t eat healthily. I eat crap, I don’t know what to do.
I just need help but I don’t know where to start so sad with the way I look and the lack of clothing I have and the state of my stomach I’m 26 years old and feel so undesirable and frumpy.
I want to be a slim, happy mum (I get so jealous of slim mums especially if they have 2+ children) so badly but I don’t do ANYTHING about it. What is wrong with me?!

I'm the same.
I've been saying for the past year, Monday I will start afresh.
It never happens.
I have 4kg to lose and hate my body in the daylight and how flabby and I used it has become. I can't look in the mirror with any love nor proudness toward my body anymore. It's all relative, 4kg isn't a massive amount but it's how we feel about ourselves that's the most important.
I'm going to try writing my intentions in my diary and see if that has any weight to it ?

Same here ! I’m 40 this year and the idea of being fat and 40 is getting to me!
My baby is 10 months old and from the summer I have gained 1.5 stone!! I was suffering with PND so not eating much but since then I haven’t stopped and I’m back in work bursting out of my clothes!! I wonder what’s wrong with me as well. I could be out walking/jogging now but I’m watching Love Island and I’ve eaten loads of Jaffa cakes. I need a KICK UP THE ARSE. I have 5 stone to lose 😫😫😫😫

I'm the same however I am using my fitness pal and it is working. I'm.pretty much eating the same but have knocked takeaways on the head and am replacing crap with fruit between meals. I'm surprised at the difference it's made, I'm on week two and I've dropped 5 pound already (it's always more to start). Logging what i eat makes me think about what I'm eating so I'm less likely to eat shite all day.

It's taken me a long time to get started though, my DP is doing it with me which us helping. We both have about four stone to lose.

Just redownloaded my fitness pal & I’m buying a diary tomorrow (have been meaning to do that since 1st jan to be fair). I want to write down positive things I am doing each day, be it exfoliating & full body moisturising (as never do that). Need to look after myself more.
Feel so low. 4 stone feels like so much to lose, it will take so long 😂 (got to laugh or I’ll cry). Glad to know I’m not alone but sorry others feel the same, it’s a horrible cycle of despair

I lost loads of weight on maternity leave so went back to work 2.5 stone lighter then I am now. I’ve ballooned since my promotion. I am massively stressed 90% of the time to be fair, it’s draining

When you say it, prepare the meals for the following day. Works for me

Once you lose a few pounds it will motivate you to keep going. Good luck.

Have a look at (on social media). Most diets fail for a reason. Rebelfit is run by a personal trainer who has seen the damage yo-yo dieting causes and helps people to change their attitudes and perspectives. I’ve been doing it for 4 months and I’m finally starting to feel better.

Bigger picture: you're sleep deprived. You're breastfeeding. You have 2 little children. You're working full time. You work in a high pressured job/environment.

Maybe there are other factors at play that you haven't mentioned (relationships with partner/your parents/wider family/friends/colleagues/community, your living situation, your financial situation etc etc).

I think resolving some of these things might be your key. Until then, just change one thing in your eating habits tomorrow (I will eat only 1 biscuit with my mid morning coffee rather than 4 - that would be my change, haha) and bloody hell let yourself off the rest of it.

I think @grasukdesim is right, it sounds like you have a lot going on, a lot of stresses. Lots of people eat more when they're stressed - I read somewhere that it's an evolutionary thing, to prepare you for fight/flight (something like that?) So maybe you could see if there's any way to reduce your stress?

Also, it sounds like telling yourself you'll start tomorrow has become a habit/ mantra that makes you feel like a failure every single night. I think your diary is a great idea - you could reframe things to consciously congratulate yourself for anything you did that was healthy (not just eating a healthy meal, but the self-care you've mentioned or even just being mindful while you ate a sweet treat...)

You're doing so much, and on broken sleep. You should end every day celebrating how well you cope! Feeling better about yourself might help shift any weight you'd rather not be carrying, rather than the other way round

Hats off to you for keeping your shit together, you’re doing a lot better than most!

Have you tried slimming world or weight watchers? As in e actual classes. I find the only thing that motivates me is the thought of humiliation at weigh in. I mean don’t get me wrong, they don’t actually shame you obviously but I do it to myself.

Say I will start today, and start today. Not tomorrow, not next week. Today. Make one small change today.

Could be to just eat 2 biscuits, instead of biscuit after biscuit (like I did, every time I'd have a biscuit, I'd have 6).

Could be to drink a big glass of water before eating a meal.

Could be to do a 5 minute work out you find on YouTube.

Just something today. Then tomorrow, do the one small change again. Maybe fill half your plate with salad and giving yourself a smaller portion of potatoes or pasta.

Maybe switch to brown bread/brown rice/brown pasta.

Maybe take the stairs instead of the lift, or get off the bus one stop early, or park the car furthest from the shops.

Make one small change today, and you are one step closer. Nothing drastic, as you have a lot going on. Just one small change. You can do it!