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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

OverEaters Anonymous

27 replies

snowwonder · 21/08/2007 14:34

This threasd has been started to help those us with overeating problems....

We will suport each other and advise each other and maybe we can find a solution to the addiction that takes over our lives....

ALL WELCOME.....

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Wisteria · 21/08/2007 14:36

CBT will work for you I would imagine. You need to change the relationship you have with food, CBT changes the thought patterns associated with it I think. A lot of GP surgeries support Cognitive Behavioural Therapy now from what I understand.

ChipButty · 21/08/2007 14:36

Do I win a prize for inventing the name?!!! (No chocolate though, please!) Seriously, though, I wish everyone the best with their personal journeys - it's a long road. CB XX

loisstella · 21/08/2007 14:42

I'm sceptical about CBT - I may have had a particularly crap therapist or maybe I wasn't 'ready', but I did a year of it and it made absolutelly no difference to my eating habbits.
OA actually did help me a bit more. Still not a 'normal' relationship with food.
Bein pregnant and I guess the responsibility for another human being's health has changed the way I look at food at the moment (she brags at just 5 weeks pregnant).
It ain't easy!

Wisteria · 21/08/2007 14:44

A year is not a recommended stretch for CBT, 6-12 weeks, sometimes a bit more being the norm - think you may have had a dodgy therapist. Glad you have found a way though.
Nothing works for everyone though x good luck and congrats on your pg xx

Giana · 21/08/2007 21:42

Nice intro snowwonder

Someone said (I think it was Paul McKenna) that if you self-medicate with any substance, be it alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, FOOD, you risk it turning into an addiction. And thats so true. Anyone who eats compulsively has major hurdles to overcome. Everyone here said its not easy, and thats so true.

Only those of us who struggle with it know how all-consuming it can be.

I too attended therapy for 2 months at a specialist eating disorder clinic. Because I turn to food in order to lift my moods, I was told to think more positively. I always knew I had a fairly negative outlook on life, but was amazed at how many negative thoughts filled my mind.

My Therapist gave me an exercise to do. I had to buy a little notebook and write down 5 x positive things that happended to me during the day for a week. I went back to her a week later with my notebook pratically empty. After the second day, I had given up. I couldn't find any positives about my life.

That was a big turning point for me. She encouraged me to look for the positives, i.e. simple things, a baby smiled at me today, or the sun is shining. Now I do this everyday, and I am much more positive.

Has it stopped me turning to food ? Not all the time, unfortunately. But it has made me much more aware of why I turn to food when I do. I think thats where you have to start really.

Talk tomorrow.

bigknickersbigknockers · 22/08/2007 08:00

I am glad this thread has been started, I too have major problems with overeating and really want to do something about it.

Giana · 22/08/2007 18:02

How bad did things get for you all ??

My eating was out of control for more than 13 years (wasted years!). My weight ballooned to over 18 stone. I was miserable. The more miserable I felt, the more I turned to food. It was a terrible vicious cycle.

I always felt very peeved that other eating disorders were well publicised (i.e. anorexia & bulimia), but not compulsive eating. Its still not given the same priority. Probably because people still view it as having a lack of willpower/control - greed even.

snowwonder · 22/08/2007 21:10

at my heaviest i was 17,5....

it anoys me to that enough isnt put into it,
my gp once said to me that i would get help in my area if i was anorexic/bulimic... but the local primary care trust wont put much money to obesity.....

so how are you now giana? what is your weight now and how do you manage your eating?

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Giana · 22/08/2007 22:54

I'm 15 stone now. I'd love to lose another 4 stone. I lost the first lot by doing Lipotrim (I think you call it Lighter Life over there). I'd love to do it again, but its very tough going!

I've kept the weight off by not going back to binge mode basically. I still have my off days, or off weeks even, but I always manage to get control of my eating before it gets totally out of hand.

If I go back to 19 stone, I know it would kill me. I have asthma, so my health wasn't good at that weight. I couldn't walk down street without becoming breathless, so I'm determined to keep it off, and lose even more.

How did you lose ?

loisstella · 23/08/2007 12:11

Hi guys, I was 17,5 - nearly 18 really stone up to 2 months ago. Lost 1,5 stone since - because I was concerned that the weight would prevent me form egtting pregnant. Bizarrely - I got pregnant pretty quickly, and so I am now 16 stone, I might well gain that one and a half stone (if not more) over the upcoming months.
However, since I've been serious about pregnancy - and now that I am - I am feeling a huge responsibility to be healthy - more than I ever have been. I am very hopeful for the future!

bigknickersbigknockers · 23/08/2007 12:23

My problems are at their peak now.
I am 13.5 st and have never been heavier.
My ideal weight is 11.5 st and i just cant stop eating.
I dont know where to get help.

MascaraOHara · 23/08/2007 12:27

Hi, I am an overeater. Nobody would believe me though as I'm not 'big' as it were. I do compensate in the gym but if I'm honest I have a real issue with food (and shopping) I can be good in short bursts and then I just become worse than before - with both.

bigknickersbigknockers · 26/08/2007 08:24

I have decided that tomorrow (Monday0 I am going to take control of this problem once and for all. I will keep you informed

LoveAngel · 26/08/2007 13:27

I didn't realise I had such a bad relationship with food until after my son was born. Up until then I had always been very slim and so my long history of 'comfort eating' hadn't seemed like a problem. After my son was born I suffered from PND and that's when I faced up to the fact I was eating compulsively, for comfort and an escape from my negative feelings. I gained a lot of weight and my eating habits got even worse - I could happily polish off two family sized bars of chocolate and a whole cheesecake in one day and still crave more sugary stuff. I lost a lot of weight eventually (3 stone) but not in a good, healthy way, as I started smoking heavily again, which supressed my appetite. However, as soon as I quit smoking I gained 20 lbs, and about a montha go I decided I had to sort this problem out asap. I want to lose weight, but I also want to change my diet, attitude towards food and my whole lifestyle to something that will make me happier and healthier. I think dofferent things work for different people, but for me (so far) exercising on a daily basis has helped enormously. It is giving me more energy and self confidence and helping me to feel loads more positive about myself, which helps kerb (although hasn't entirely eradicated) my desire to binge. Its tough, though - perhaps tougher than giving up smoking, which is one of the hardsest things I have ever had to do.

snowwonder · 02/09/2007 09:20

hi everyone

just back from a week away. >>> cooked brekkies everyday,

i have really got to do something now so i have emailed a local person about some therapy, it will cost quite a lot but i feel it is worth giving it a go to maybe hopefully work..

i feel like going to my gp again>>> i have been before and talked about diets etc, but i feel like admitting that i have a problem with food, my mum has the same problems and got very heavy and had a gastric bypass>> i dont want this for me

does anyone think i should discuss with my gp. the only thing is last time i was there i was lighter than i was now and that kills me with embarasment????

oh no i am off to weigh myself to see the hoffific damage of my holiday

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snowwonder · 02/09/2007 09:20

hi everyone

just back from a week away. >>> cooked brekkies everyday,

i have really got to do something now so i have emailed a local person about some therapy, it will cost quite a lot but i feel it is worth giving it a go to maybe hopefully work..

i feel like going to my gp again>>> i have been before and talked about diets etc, but i feel like admitting that i have a problem with food, my mum has the same problems and got very heavy and had a gastric bypass>> i dont want this for me

does anyone think i should discuss with my gp. the only thing is last time i was there i was lighter than i was now and that kills me with embarasment????

oh no i am off to weigh myself to see the hoffific damage of my holiday

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Hanfi · 02/09/2007 09:40

Is this a weight loss support post for anyone? I am 27 weeks pregnant and not dieting now, in fact the other way round really, but only seem to be able to keep my weight anxiety down by making plans for weight loss post baby. I will be signing up in earnest by mid dec, baby due 3rd Dec. This is my second baby, (what does ds etc stand for?)and lost it all last time, just tend to focus all negative energy on how fat I am and then lose confidence. I can see it all happening and the hormones don't help.

Blossomhill · 02/09/2007 09:42

Can I join? I eat for the sake of it eating. Think about food non-stop. I hate the control it has over me.

snowwonder · 02/09/2007 09:48

everyone is most welcome...

although i guess this thread is more then just dieting.... as if i could do that i would!!! but i cant as food controls me and i hate it for that but love it at the same time....
and this thread is about supporting each other the best we can and offer sloutions to stop our problems

it is ironic that i actullay lose weight when pregnant..... and i am heaveier now then the day i gave birth 4 years ago

ds- means dear son

dd - dear daughter

think there is a list on mumsnet home page of the abbreviations....

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Dior · 02/09/2007 09:57

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snowwonder · 02/09/2007 10:09

dior- you are a lovely gorgeous person... and i really feel for you, i have followed your story... when my ex left me i lost a lot of weight, and he hated it because i did look so much better and he knew it.. and started to have second thoughts but it was to late for me i wasnt prepared to go backwards> life had to move fowards...

i wont say anyomore on here as i know you have a thread..

i hope you get some support from this thread..

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Theclosetpagan · 02/09/2007 10:31

Can I join too. I have been an overeater since childhood (crap childhood at times due to acrimonius divorce of parents and sexual abuse so no wonder I took refuge in food).
At present my eating is pretty under control (only for the past month) and I have lost 11lbs. However, I am not dieting (apart from the first week or so when I drank the Slimfast stuff) - am trying Paul McKenna's programme - only because it is the only thing I've never tried before.
I've had counselling from the Eating Disorder Association locally but that has ended. I'm pretty much clued up about why I eat when I do but that knowledge doesn't always help when I am in the throes of despair.
I am still classed as obese on the charts and am trying so hard to keep the eating under control - so far it's been working. It's good to find others who know what it's like.

Dior · 02/09/2007 12:56

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Fimbles5 · 02/09/2007 18:47

Hello everyone - I am so glad I have found this thread as quite frankly my hubby has had enough, and I desperately need someone to talk too. You may have come across me on other threads, I am the one who starts the diet Monday, and only manages until mid morning before I start eating my way through the cupboards. (I am the one who is told don't buy the rubbish when you shop, but still I go and buy and then eat all the bad stuff). I don't know where to turn, have tried most diets I know, but always give up after a day or too (if I even last that long). I am so down about my appearance and need someone to guide me, I know I would feel so much better about myself if only I could stop eating. Perhaps we could all do this together. Plan to start diet tomorrow!!

Dior · 02/09/2007 22:20

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