So summer has arrived once more and I am yet again a big fat wobbly sweaty mess.

[KeepFuckingOff]

15th year running for me. I dream of summers spent frolicking in a beautiful sundress on the beach or at one the big London parks, pick nicking and sunbathing, gorgeously tanned and just enjoying life.
Reality; spread eagle on my bed in front of the fan trying in vain to stop my flab sticking together and dreading the chub rub that is inevitable in this weather for a human whale.
I will never ever lose this weight ever. I don’t know why I’ve started this thread, I think I just needed to finally admit it to myself.

[Kleptronic]

Swap potato for celeriac dauphinoise in a cream sauce. Swap mashed potato for mashed swede with mozzarella. Swap chips for swede fries. Swap crisps for pork scratchings. Or if you don't like them, cut a babybel into 4, separate widely on a plate, microwave for 1 min; cheese crisps. Or, have cauliflower cheese with your main meal.

[LikeSilentRaindrops]

@ClownTent I could be your body double by the sound of it want to buddy up? I could definitely do with some 1-2-1 accountability. PM me if so

[Crazzzycat]

I’m ready to get flamed here, but I really wouldn’t worry too much about those carbs.

May be I’m projecting here, but I think your problem is that you just don’t believe you can do this. So when you have a bad day, it appears to confirm everything you already thought of yourself, e.g that you’re weak, a failure, or whatever. But you’re really none of these things. You’re trying to take control of your life, and that by itself proves you are stronger than you think.

For me, I only started being able to stick to a diet once I gave up on all the self-loathing and learnt to be a kinder to myself. I’m not a failure for getting fat. I have had a lot to deal with over the years and eating was my way of coping. That does not make me a failure. I just did what I could to get over a difficult time 🤷🏻‍♀️

Be kind to yourself when you fall off the wagon. You’re making some pretty drastic changes and you’re only just getting started. So of course there are going to be times when you eat a bit too much, or feel like packing it all it. If you pick yourself back up though, I guarantee it will get easier over time!

You can do this. Good luck!

[KeepFuckingOff]

Thanks that’s very kind I do hate this mindset I have, it’s just so hard to stop beating myself up over every little slip.

[mooncuplanding]

crazzzycat

You are right - you will get flamed!!!

It is such bad advice with no understanding of the biological processes involved in metabolising the different macros. It is not all in the mind!!!

[Crunchymum]

I swore last summer, I wouldn't be fat this year and guess what..... I am even fatter.

Next June I turn 40 and I am now a month (and -8lbs) into my "lose 52lbs in 52 weeks" regime.

I cannot be this fat next year!!!

[pistachiomousse]

It's carb addiction pure and simple. Ditch the carbs and your life will change beyond recognition. There's loads of great spud alternatives such as mashed cauliflower with cheese and butter or a previous poster mentioned lots of others. You get to eat fat instead of carbs so cheese, berries and cream, steak and mushrooms with a pepper sauce with buttery spinach. Once you get into it it's so easy and your appetite disappears. Look for Neris and India's idiotproof diet on line - it changed my life and theirs and it's a really funny book to read. You can do this!