Hi there i hope this is OK to post here, I usually post on aibu. Plz delete if not allowed.
My husband and I are overweight/obese. We both need to lose at least 5 stone each to be a healthy weight. We are currently trying to eat healthy and move more. I've lost nearly 2 stone so going in the right direction.
My biggest problem is our sex life. We have been together nearly 20 years but we are only in our 30s so still pretty young. We do not have a sex life. We are always too tired etc. I adore him and I want to get back on track with it but our main problem is our size and fitness levels.
I have zero flexibility, zero stamina, I also suffer with hip and back problems.
He has zero flexibility, zero stamina and also suffers with back problems. Both as in one wrong move can cause the back to spasm for weeks on end.
When we do have sex I am really uncomfortable, my hips hurt so bad, I cant hold my legs up etc. Its all such a mess. I hope things will get better as we lose weight but any advice for now in the mean time? I really don't want to be in a sexless marriage. We used to be very sexually adventurous, now it's just missionary position and I can't wait for it to be over due to pain. I feel too embarrassed to talk to him about it also