So fat I'm ashamed.

[sofatitsshameful]

Ok so I've name changed for obvious reasons.
I have just come across a sore red mark where my tummy folds between my hips. I so so ashamed of how fat I've let myself become but somehow don't have the motivation or stamina to do anything about it.
I get out of breath walking short distances or uphill at all, I want to be better and fitter and slimmer.
Don't get me wrong I have never been a size 10! I was a toned 14/16 before I had my children and now I am a size 22 and lumpy and bumpy and horrible.
How do I save myself from
Myself?

Hi op I don’t have any advice to offer but I’m in exactly the same situation. Currently the heaviest weight I’ve been after being off work sick with horrendous dizziness all last year.
Have just recently gone back to work and hoping that somehow will help. I have no willpower or motivation at the moment. I stepped on the scales yesterday and was so ashamed of my weight.

1. Wack some sudocrem on the red bit.

2. Don't go on a diet, they don't work! don't eat in between meals, have 3 decent meals a day and do a spot of exercise. Accept that this will take a couple of years to sort out ... and before you know it you'll be much slimmer and happier 👍🏻

... and 3) don't beat yourself up, you're fat not a nasty person, it's nothing to hate yourself over - just something to gently address.

Hi thanks for commenting. I not going to do a random diet (girl at work is currently on day 3 of the potato diet 🙄) it's not my meals it's the shit
Between them, chocolate and snacks.
I've just been looking at cross trainers so I won't be seen by anyone whilst building up my stamina.

Potato diet? wow, yuck.

It's about finding a way of eating that fits your life so you can maintain it. For me it's low carb. I'm rarely hungry and don't feel like I'm dieting. It works for me but that doesn't mean it will for you. Research and decide what looks doable. I use my fitness pal to pre plan the day before, ensuring I spread out meals throughout the day to prevent binges.

Good luck. Take a look at the community section on mfp and look at the success stories. 12 months from now that can be you!

You say the crap inbetween meals is your downfall, so cut that out .. make sure your actual meals are things you enjoy and look forward (not 'diet' meals '

That would be a great start

I could be the one typing your exact post OP!

I'm in the eat less and move more camp, we can do this.

No faddy diets. Ur not going to be able to keep it up. Good food for ur body. Cut ur portions. Get ur feet moving. Don’t berate ur self if u slip. Just back in it the next day. It’s a lifestyle choice. And these work so much better than a silly diet that just leaves u wanting more and unhealthy food. This is what I did.

First thing to do is spend a few weeks counting all my calories. It will give u an idea of where the over eating is coming from. And how many calories there is in food.

Potato diet sounds vile.

Start a food diary. One on your phone in best so it can keep track of your calories. It'll help you identify problem areas.

So first day done with. No snacks and nice healthy meals. Also did 20 mins on cross trainer not much but better than nothing.
I've prepped my lunch for work and am leaving my purse/cards at home so can't go buy anything on a moment of weakness. I am feeling positive and focussed so we'll see.

Well done @sofatitsshameful

Hi, I am trying mindful eating approach to stop myself binging on crap.

Maybe this might help you too? Not a diet as such but just allowing yourself everything, but being aware and planning meals as pp say...

I just had a tiny mini choc brownie and ate it very slowly. It tasted...quite sweet! Mainly having healthy foods etc.

It's kind of helpful to observe thoughts and feelings for example I have noticed I eat when stressed. But if just listen to by tummy...can sometimes maybe not eat till say 11am or 12 noon if busy...

also trying to take focus of weighing and measuring and how you feel..

Don’t do fad diets! I’m a pt and I coach my clients to make sure they are tracking exactly what they are eating and then adjust over time. Making drastic changes can mess with your hormones and increase cortisone levels. Get yourself in a calorie deficit, increase your steps daily , track your food and give it time. Pop a message if you want any more help 👍🏻