Lost my mojo after 1st loss?!

[TrueFriendsStabYouInTheFront]

Can someone give me a bump back onto the wagon? I'm really confused with myself and looking for some insight!

So at 16st 9lbs and 5ft2 with major binging tendencies, I embarked on a weight loss plan, I decided on 5:2, along with c25k. So I got to week 4 of c25k although kept going at the end of my last session and managed to run 12 mins straight! I've also bought a bike and have been cycling 6 miles 4x a week to work and walking 2 miles in my lunch break 3x a week. Managed to lose a stone, and feel significant improvements to my fitness, great.

Now, I've fallen off the wagon spectacularly since last week pretty much. Only did one run last week, still cycled though. Fasted for my 2 days but then ate crap at the end of the days. Have only done one of my walks. What I'm more concerned about though, is the fact I'm back in binge mode.

I don't understand why I am doing this? Where did my motivation go and how can I get it back? I was genuinely enjoying the running and the progress I was making. The cycling I'm still enjoying but it's not even close to enough to get any weight off while continuing to binge of course!

Does anybody have any wise words or ideas of how I can get back to how well I was doing?

I don't know but can I say congratulations!

I weighed in at 17st8 last week and am on the same journey. A stone is fantastic.

You should really keep it up!

Love your user name btw

Don’t self sabotage.
Do you really believe that you can lose the weight or are you afraid to?

Imagine your life back to where you were a month ago. Try to think about being 50/60/70 with the weight still on you.

Now imagine being a stone lighter than you are now by the end of Easter. Imagine being able to run for 20 mins and the feeling that will give you. Really see yourself being able to do it and what you might feel like when you achieve it.

It is possible and you can do it.

@LadiesFinishFights love yours too! Makes me think of little Marie from aristocats 

Thank you, I think I'm not seeing the achievement so far for what it is, as I feel I've got such a long way to go and @whothefuckhas5children I think you've hit the nail on the head there, I don't think I truly believe I could ever be a slim fit person and maybe that's why I'm thinking "fuck it!"

That was my inspiration.

My plan is to not think 'I have to lose 7 stone'

It's that I have to get into the 16 stones.

Then into the 15s.

Break it down into more manageable chunks.

Do you keep a diary of your weigh-ins? I have downloaded 3 different apps ( :) ) and log my weight every morning. I have fluctuations pretty much daily but I also see a downwards spiral, which is what keeps me from getting disheartened if I do overdo on food on some days.

You are doing great, just continue as you were.

@PrettyBelle I have Fitbit scales which automatically ping my weight into the app so track it that way, but I only weigh weekly, is it something I should be doing daily to keep me motivated do you think? I don't even need to look as it logs it for me so perhaps that would stop me getting obsessed if I started doing it daily?

Did you have an end goal you’re aiming for?

I didn’t and found that when I came to the end of the 12 week plan I was doing, the urge to revert back to “normal” was quite strong, even though I still have lots to lose. May be you’re just having a little blip because you too hit a (possibly sub-conscious) milestone?

You’ve done great so far, so if I were you I’d reevaluate where you want to be in say 3 months, or 6 months time. It doesn’t even need to be a specific weight, but could, for example, be to continue to be fit and healthy by Summer, run a certain distance etc.

Get back on the straight and narrow. Change can be daunting and scary, we often like to cling to the familiar even though we know we should change. You can do it. Have a think around the psychology of why you have an unhealthy relationship with food. I also find weighing myself daily helps.

I have signed up to run a half marathon in October. Seems crazy but I technically have the time to do this if I can get back in the zone with the training. So that's my goal really. I think I'm having a weird crisis as I am turning 30 in October and suddenly I want to do all these things. Lose weight, cycle to work, run the half marathon, learn to drive. Perhaps I need to break this all down a bit as well

@TrueFriendsStabYouInTheFront there are different approaches to weigh-ins. Some advocate doing it weekly as to not to get discouraged by daily fluctuations.

For me, it makes sense to do it daily. If I look at my graph, I can see the peaks in weight on a regular basis. And I know that if these were to fall on my weigh-in days, I would feel that all my effort is completely in vain and feel very tempted to give up.

But when doing it daily, I see that the weight does go up an down, sometimes by a whole pound and for no apparent reason! So, as long as the graph is ultimately heading down, that's what matters.

I’m not very good with stones and ounces, so have only just realised you may be aiming for a significant overall loss.

In that case, it’s definitely worth breaking your overall goal up into smaller chunks. I got pretty disheartened at the start of this year when I realised I had almost 3 stone to lose before I’d even be a healthy weight. I wasn’t even thinking of ideal weights at that point!

So I broke the goal up into smaller chunks and tried to make them meaningful (e.g getting my BMI below 30, “only” being 2 stone overweight, fitting into some old jeans etc)

I also find it helpful to not immediately replace targets I’d hit with new ones. It’s good to celebrate what you achieve for a few days or even a week (while continuing to stick to plan) and seeing those scales move further and further away from your mini goal. I found that a lot more motivational than rushing to the next goal.

Sorry this is so long, but hope some of this is helpful!

Just to give you an example - last weekend, we had KFC for dinner on Saturday and then I had left-overs of chicken and corn for brunch and early dinner on Sunday. I did do a run on Sunday too. On Monday morning I was down 1,5 pounds - after eating breaded chicken all weekend! Could be run or not having any food in the evening - God knows. I only want to lose a 5-6 pounds more and 1.5 pounds is a lot for me.

So having those positive weigh-in days is pretty important.