Overweight DD

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I'm not after negative or bad parenting comments - I'm here for some help and advice.

My 12/nearly 13 year old DD is overweight and despite eating reasonably healthily at home, providing packed lunches so know what I'm giving her, she doesn't seem to care about the fact she is overweight.

She is approx 5'5" tall and weighs 210lb (15 stone). She is a size 12-14 bottom and 16-18 top, depending on where we buy from.

Over time I've tried the nice chat, I've tried the scare-mongering chat, I've tried the Auntie and nana chat, even her best friend have tried to help her... if I was to take her to the GP I don't know what they could do that would make any difference to her.

I am at my wits end and don't know what else to do or try.... she doesn't eat lots of sweets/rubbish etc and has a good varied diet....

Help/advice would be really really appreciated.

Btw, this DD is not the one with additional needs..... x

I'm wondering what you mean by "reasonably healthy" in regards to the food available in your home. Do you buy lots of processed foods, soda, squash and snack foods?

She must be eating too much of the wrong thing, even if you aren't aware or are in denial, she is significantly overweight. If not, then she does need to see the doctor to look at health related causes. I think I'd be inclined to go to the GP anyway actually.

Thanks for your advice and support.

Firstly, there were times where there were prosessed foods etc, but over last 12 months I know what she's been eating at home/lunch...

She does not get regular pocket money as such, but does go it with friends once, maybe twice a week to the high street. I'm assured by these friends (trusted to tell me the truth) that sometimes she is not buying, however other times I've been told she's bought 'sharing' size packs of sweets and shared them out EVEN though they've tried to nicely stop her...

She is not a big soda drinker - water or sugar free squash.

She did gain some weight in 2016 when I moved into the hospital with DD who was in hospital for 7 months and DH was in charge - it was difficult for all of us. Also, last year just before her periods.

She is not sneaking food at night time and I have security cameras on exit doors in kitchen which actually covers the cupboards, so can see if she's picking when she shouldn't.

I'm not making excuses for her... I think I'll make an appointment with the nice GP and see what she can help....

It sounds like she, and you too, have been through a lot.

I don't like the sound of her friends checking on her and reporting to you, that sounds a bit off to me, sorry

Are you and dH a healthy weight, with healthy eating habits?