Really down about weight..help and enthusiasm needed please !!!

[Boobsgonesouth]

I've had a constant battle with weight all my life, since I remember I've always been watching my weight, as a child I was a very good athelte and had it drummed into me about eating the right things so I only ate was considered"the proper food"...When I gave up athletics and left home, I ballooned sort of let of the leash, put on loads of weight but loved the life of unrestricted food...was like that for a couple of years then got fed up with being overweight so started exercising, then became obsessive, lost loads of weight, got very fit (again) and life has been consistently like that I seem to be either exercising religiously or overweight.

I'm now in my 40's with two young children and the opportunity to exercise is limited...I loe life but am frequently more and more tired have low energy levels and I know it is absolutely due to the 3 - 4 stone of excess that I carry. My self esteem is on it backside and I don't know how to begin...The thought of going to SW or WW doesn't do it for me (been there, done it before) but I need to break the downward spiral of eating that feels so out of control. I eat when I'm happy, eat when I'm sad, eat when I'm busy, eat when I'm bored...everything seems to evolve around food..... if anybody has any inspirational words they would be most greatfully appreciated..... I'm desperate......

Hello everyone

Sounds like everyone is doing OK. Have had a mixed weekend as ds1 ill and not getting too much sleep but starting to feel positive and getting really quite motivated. Have just been and bought some new clothes for holiday next week. Looked for a swimsuit but all too vile but am not going to beat myself up about it as that's a waste of time and am determined not to let my extra pounds ruin my holiday. We have a pool where we are going so am planning to do lots of swimming and may even try the odd run while we are away. Planning to try and not put any pounds on while away by running around with 3ds' whenever possible

Hi All...have had a bsuy few days.....feeling fat (and guilty ??!!) this afternoon...we all went out for Sunday lunch today had a lovely time but now I just feel huge (as always) Back on track tomorrow as shall be off for a walk with the dog in the morning....really determined to do this 3 times a week as a starting point.....making a real effort to drink more water....DD and I both come out with stinking colds !!!!!

LOl majority have just had my first ever bikini wax (AGONY) as having lost weight I bought myself some new costumes and they were high legged and so had to get a wax!

Anyway have had a pretty lousy weekend with not enough exercise and too much to eat but tomorrow is another day as they say!

Been reading this thread tonight and can relate so much. Was going to start my own thread but will 'jump' on this one if that is ok?

I had my DS last Feb and by this time last year had lost all baby weight plus another 1 1/2 stone. Have now put it all back on, plus another stone!

This is all through pure boredom, overeating through being lonely and having nothing better to do.

I won't let my partner near me cause I am so ashamed of myself (obviously causing major problems between us), I sulk cause we never have sex, but then push him away when he does try to go near me (if he glimpses a part of me naked I literaly sit and cry cause I am so sure he wants to go and find someone thin).

I hate being stuck in the house all the time, yet last night DP arranged for MIL to babysit but I felt so fat I couldn't bare the idea of leaving the house and being seen in public.

Well my 6 months free gym membership has started, with my gym induction tomorrow night. SO I have no excuses. And I have to do this now.

But I really really really really need HELP! Motivation and encouragement of any kind would be so appreciated!

Boobsgonesouth! Want to do it together?????

Star welcome and of course you can do it. Everyone is shy about their body when it changes but I always think it is in our heads alone as no one else woudl see us that way.

Oh god! I have my gym induction tonight, and DS chose last night to wake up several times during the night (although he never sleeps through was worse than usual), then get me up at 5:30! I am knackered already and have a very long day ahead of me!

Star....like Glitter says, a lot of it is in our heads, isn't it....your dh obviously still fancys and loves you, but it's so difficult to get over oneself at times, and it's a nasty vicous circle, sigh!
Sorry you had a bad night,and already feel tired, however, I find that after exercise I feel actually more alive and loads less lethargic, so, you just gotta keep that in mind
Maybe joining some kind of Slimming class might help, you will meet people in the same boat, and personally I do feel that if you get the right one for you with the rihgt mixture of people they really work, the support can be really amazing. And it's something you do for you which helps with self esteem, because it shows that you are worth it to yourself.
Majority, oh a lovely holiday to look forward too....you lucky thing
Boobs, sorry to ehar you are all poorly, hope you feel better soon!

Hi Boobs, not read all thread, but wondered if you want to join me in my "weight loss before school holiday" try?!
We've got nearly 3 weeks and I'm going for a stone so anything near that will be good.
Fancy it Boobs or anyone else?

Hi, I am going to do Slimming World, which is what I did last year with success (if only I hadn't got bored and stopped).

Can't go to a group though as the local one is on a Wednesday and I work till 7 that night, so will be doing it on my own (again same as last year). Also can't really afford to attend a group (I know that it doesn't cost that much but every penny really does count at the moment ).

I am doing Slimming world cause I am a carbaholic! I LOVE pasta, rice and potatos! I just get bored cause I find it hard trying to find new receipes and get sick of the same ones over and over again (I'm a veggie which makes it more limited).

Had massive row with DP this morning cause he called me from work to say that he is sitting in his new office, which he has to himself all week. I was under the impression that he was in the office on his own anyway? Turns out he is sharing it with a woman (younger than me and has to be thin and prettier than me cause would be impossible not to be). Am feeling so insecure!!!!!

I know that you are right and it is just all down to self esteem but I really just have none at the moment. I don't know why he is with me, which is why I NEED to lose lots and lots and lots of weight!

Star....awww, sorry you just been rowing wiht your other half, espeically considering the cause of the row....you really must feel so low right now.
I believe there are SW threads on this forum in this section, so, you possibly get some kind of the group support there. But we are here if you need to talk.
Self esteem issues are a tough nut, especially as we women tend to be only to happy to find faults on ourselfs and to talk ourselfs down....(unless you are called Charlie on BB...she can talk the talk, but don't think she is actually believing a thing of it).
I find making extra effort with myself and pampering myself does give me a quick pick me up when I feel low about teh way I look...and I am not tlaking expensive pampering, having a nice bath, and moisturising myself andgetting rid of hard skin on the feet, etc...that kinda thing...because when I feel better about the way I look I tend to see myself in a more positive way altogether.
Feeling for you anyway....I felt really drab especially after my first child (by the time my other 2 arrived I had established my new me -the mummy me- in a way I am happy with, iykwim....!Sorry rambling on, and really need to go and get my lil mosters from Nursery now.

Hi boobs!

I really sympathise with the eating when you're working at home. I do fine when I eat a good breakfast, take my salad to work and then come home and eat my dinner....the problem comes when I'm at home and I just graze all the time. I try to stick to a lower carb and low sugar diet - am also toying with wheat-free as nowadays I seem to have problems with that. And lots of running.

Are you into running at all? It's probably quite a good area round where you live as it's reasonable flat and quite a few quiet roads. If you fancy a running partner ever I'd be delighted to take a trip out from time to time. (I apologise if you aren't who i think you are....were you steppy in a previous incarnation? This is going to sound so stupid if you aren't )

thanks for support ladies...and of course be more than happy for anybody that wants to join in the discussions/motivtion etc etc..... Ormirian...yes to Steppy...would love to be able to run but too overweight to cope with that at the moment hence the power walking idea.....our village has an ideal circuit which , at a hard push, takes around half an hour with a couple of very steep hills........

Star 76, love it that you would to join us all and hope that we can inspire each other....

Update from me.. was at a conference all day yesterday and DC broke up from school today (working this morning) so now have until Sept 4th with kids.....

The interesting (and exciting ??) news is that I will be starting a new full time job from mid August (just as DC and I get bored with each other ) It would nice to be feeling better and a little slimmer by then and I'm sure that I won't be so tempted to keep grazing then either .....

Good news about your Job, congratulations

Great news about the job and running even when severely overwieght is possible just hard work! Start by walking which is very sensible and build up to it as you lose weight I love it now but if anyone would have told me I could run I would have died laughing.

Hope everyone is well adn happy at the moment even with the weather getting me down in a major way.

Hi everyone, I dont come here often, but noticed the thread started by Boobs and feel like joining in.

I gained about three pregnancy stones and my son is now four, Ive kept the weight ON. Balls.
Was really expecting to slide into a size 10 as a reward for all that breastfeeding. No. Got depressed and tired and ate a lot.

Anyway - cut a long one. Been on a regime for almost four consistent weeks (major acheivement), joined a gym - hired Sylvester Stallone lookilikey to personally train me now and again. I've lost half a stone. I really really want to get a couple of stone off as its putting me off trying for baby number 2.Being big makes me hate myself. Sick but true.

It would be great to compare notes..it may help you this site called Sparks - got some great tools once you get used to it. Its free....anyway BFN...

x shy girl

sparkpeople.com

Welcome cheeky. I ned a good kicking as am not coping well at the moment at all. I am moving in two weeks and so fretting about that and I hate moving but it is no excuse really.

How's everybody doing ???

Was away at the weekend and seem to overload on carbs through the packed lunches...... but DID go for a good walk early on Saturday morning...am determined to do my 3 'power walks' this week....am going on holiday next Sunday and not looking forward to apearing as the local beached whale....still too late now but will still try to make a real effort in changing lifestyle.....

Aww Boobs, you just go and enjoy your Holiday. In the end, what counts is, that you are determined to make these changes now, so, you will never have to feel this way again in the future
Went to my WW meeting today and lost 1 1/2 Ibs...how I did it, I do not know, had a bit of a mixed bag of a week, but have been, all in all, very good with the exercising, and that really seems to make a huge difference.
How are others getting on?

Did my new exercise DVD today (Vicky Entwistle) and really enjoyed it
I am also posting on the 10/10 threads now and it really does make you eat even more fruit and veg, or at least it makes you try more Obviously if you eat more fruit/veg you just got less space for rubbish foods....so, works on so many ways....

hellllllllooooooooooo anyone here?

Hello - does anyone mind if I sneak in????

I have just joined SW and like a few of you here I have struggled with weight loss for years. Although no excuse, I am from a big family and have the 'fat' gene I think but I know this can be overcome.

I do really well for months and lose loads and then something will happen like I'll get ill or go through a bit of stress or even just go for a nice day out and then that's it! hello again to the lost lbs plus a few more for good measure.

When I'm good I'm very good but when bad very bad .

I have just ordered that Jason Vale book recommended but I too need to break that cycle. I'm not doing myself any good which I know - I even know these things when I'm eating my sixth choc hob nob but I don't stop eating it!!!!

GRRRRR [at myself]

Hi there....please do join, the more the merrier...this thread is a bit quiet sadly
(There is a very lifely 10/10 thread, at the moment called "floating like Butternut stinging like a pea "(or something along those lines) which probably would incorporate really well into the SW plan, especially with health in mind aswell as weightloss the 10/10 stands for 10 portions of fruit and vegetables (well, that is what we are aiming for) and 10 minutes of exercise, at least....
Jason Vale is fabulous. Sadly he will dispell the myth of the fat gene ( i.e. it's obviously more down to learned eating behaviour, etc...).
Anywya, try to give yourself little goals and non-food rewards when reaching your goals...works much better then having a big goal ahead of you that seems to be so unreachable at first....
Must say, with me the major difference is exercise....if I do (which I now do for roughly 1h a day) I really get away with a lot more....

An 1hr a day! That's impressive, I am lucky to get in 3 hours a week TBH.

I joined the gym (although not been for 2 weeks ) which I actually really enjoy doing and I have a bike at home and I go swimming at least once a week.

I need a haircut but I've told myself that I can't have it until I lost 7lbs !!!

I'll check out the other thread also....the more support the better at the moment.

I have a banging headache and so want to go and buy a twix! (but why do I want to do that!....that's what I need to know!)

well as Jason Vale will tell you in the book it's because a) we are so brainwashed by advertisement and everything, that tehre is a very strong emotional link and b) because the effects of the last [insert chocolate, coffee, cigarettes, etc... as needed here] one causes the exact effects we then fight with the next one....they are all so highly addictive, etc...well, that is a gist of it....

Well, before I read JV's 7Ibs in 7days and then the Turbochallenge I also felt that that would be madness...one hour a day...I mean, christ....lol...however, as I became fitter etc...it's actually now something I look forward to doing, as it amkes me feel better, etc...so, that helps a lot I also have a ratehr extensive Exercise DVD library, so, got a good variety of workouts
Well, when I did the Turbocharge fortnight I actually exercised twice a day for an hour each time and kept that going for quite a while, and it wasn't that diofficult, but at the time my dh wa sin Afghanistan, so, it wasn't a problem to exercise in the evening, iykwim....now he is back, I can't seem to find the time or motivation to do it, for some reason....but an hour a day is good anyway.