So cross with myself

[robinsinthespring]

Hello All,
So today was the day that I was going to start healthy eating and having smaller portions.
On the way home in the car I was thinking about what to have for my lunch, a chicken salad maybe, and was planning it my head.
So what do I do? Only eat a box of maltesers! I could kick myself just now.
I'm so unhappy about my weight and appearance so why did I do this?
I don't want to join a slimming club again but I want to lose weight, I have about 3 stone to lose. I know that it has to be a lifestyle change and basically forever. Have any of you lovely folk got any tips on how to do this.
Why is looking in the mirror and feeling disgust at my reflection not a good enough incentive?

Don't feel bad! It is still really Xmas and having Baileys for breakfast and pannetone for lunch and dinner rates as normal. January is a great time to kick start a new routine because other people will be doing the same.
What really worked for me, and for my DH at a different time, was exercise. Both did C25k and found that it made us more motivated to eat healthily, and also gave us more energy that meant we went out walking more and therefore kept the calories off. Regimes/rules/long lists of don'ts have never worked for me. I've found I have to be kind to myself - so I'm not surprised looking in the mirror and feeling like a terrible person is not enough motivation. You need a positive reason to eat well. Exercise might be the push to do it. I am now really happy with my weight, have a normal BMI and if I crave the odd biscuit or blow out lunch I go for it, after years of yoyo weight and binges on biscuits and chocs. How to motivate yourself to exercise can be an issue - I had an injury that meant I needed to exercise, and that got me started. But perhaps a friend could join you at first? That worked for DH. Yo can do it! But enjoy the maltesers til January.

Thank you Brownie. Happy new Year to you

Don’t feel bad! It’s still Christmas!

I fail if I haven’t meal planned, maybe you need to have all of your meals prepped so that you don’t fall of the wagon?

It’s a really tough time to start a new healthy eating plan. I can’t think about it until the new year! Well done for even having a go!

Thank you for your replies. I think planning is the key, isn't it. Hope you all have a Happy and Peaceful New Year!

It is definitely a tough time: leftover food, lack of routine, social gatherings. Don't beat yourself up!

But you do need to make a plan and stick to it. I agree with a PP about exercise - it helps keep me on the straight and narrow because I don't want to waste the effort I have made, as well as the actual calories burned.

Good luck!

OP
I'm like you.
Disgusted with my weight gain.
Promise I'll slim down. (It really would make a difference to my life.)
And what do I do ??
Eat two bags of crisps and a caramel shortbread.
It's like I've two brains.
One focuses on slimming and how good I'll look and the other one forgets what has gone through my mind 5 minutes before and suddenly I've eaten sh*te.

Same here! Seriously, when I think about how much weight i’ve piled on, the clothes I can’t wear, the out of breath feeling, the sheer misery of feeling fat and ugly....you’d think that would be enough motivation but it’s not!
Why is it so hard? How do some people just do it? Where does the willpower come from? I’d love to know the secret!