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How to not hate myself while still on journey
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FluffyMcCloud · 07/10/2018 10:04

I’m fat. I’m ugly and I’m fat. I’m doing something about the fat, the ugly I’m kinda stuck with.

But I’m dieting, and exercising, and I’m losing weight but it’s sloooow. 5lb in 6 weeks so far. I’m not too fussed about the slowness really, I know it will come off eventually, but I’m struggling with self hatred in the meantime.

I went out last night, thought I looked ok, friend sent me some pics this morning of the night out and I look awful. My friends are all Actually Beautiful and I am a lump.

I need to lose 2 stone minimum, 3 to look good. And at my current rate, and factoring in a few weeks of no gain here and there, that’s gonna take me a while.

I hate looking in the mirror. I had my hair cut on Friday to make myself feel better and it looks awful, doesn’t suit me at all.

What can I do to not hate myself for the next 6 months?! This weight has crept up on my slowly but I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been, even when pregnant Sad

My self esteem has always been low but I feel at rock bottom! How do I help myself feel better while in the process of trying to look better?!

Thanks!

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theluckiest · 07/10/2018 10:17

I don't know the answer either but just wanted to tell you that you're not alone.

I could have written your post this morning. Went to a wedding yesterday and thought I looked pretty good. Felt happy and confident. Got lots of compliments and even a few decent photos.

Then at the end of the night, an old man asked if I was pregnant. I have never deflated so fast. I cried in the loo!! And still feel emotional this morning.

One stupid comment (honestly, I didn't look that bad) and all my self esteem has come crashing down. I know I looked nice but, god, it's shit isn't it?

I bet you looked lovely.

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katmarie · 07/10/2018 10:26

Try and focus on the fact that you are doing something which is an important goal for you. You are taking steps in a direction which is important for you, and you are getting it done at a safe and healthy pace. You've made that commitment to yourself and you're following through on it. That alone is a good reason to be proud of yourself.

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Dontgiveamonkeys1350 · 07/10/2018 21:12

Focus on the smaller things. Have u Googled what a pound of fat looks like? Have a look. It is far more than u think.

Don’t give up. It really really makes a difference when u can start seeing a difference in ur clothes.

Set urself smaller targets. I want to get to 8 stone. But that is far to in the future. So I have set a smaller target of 10 stone by Christmas.

I have just got back into my smaller jeans. That felt fab. It will get easier when u can see the results. But u just need to keep going until u get there. Keep going. Don’t stop.

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theluckiest · 07/10/2018 22:05

Do you know, having had the day I've had, I think exercise really is one of the key things.

As I said, I had a horrible knockback yesterday & felt like absolute shit this morning. So I went for a run. Am doing a half marathon next week (Confused) so I'd already planned it. Nearly cried off but I forced myself into my trainers and set off.

I now feel much better about myself. I still feel fat and unhappy but I'm on the way and doing something about it. I may have a lardy arse and belly but fuck it, I ran 10 miles today so bollocks to the man who made me feel shit yesterday. Grin

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