For the lat 1 years I have told myself 'next summer I'll be slimmer'...

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... and yet I have managed to get bigger and bigger and face every summer feeling like a fat whale, always pining for the next summer. What a bunch of bollocks.

the title is meant to read 10 years!!! Grrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!

Yeah I’ve been there and finally made a start. I’m still sweating away and covering myself up but I’m still better off that I was this time last year. This time next year I hope to be in a better position than I am now.

Why not just make a start? If you aim to lose just 1lb a week then this time next year that’s 52lbs gone!

I don't know how to lose weight anymore
I'm an expert at putting it on though, ask me anything

What are you downfalls?

For me it was not eating breakfast and then pigging our at lunch and dinner. Also completely no exercise.

I had no idea of what a healthy diet or portion was. I’m now using My Fitness Pal, and it’s really help to educate my food and fitness habits.

Can you think of a couple of small changes to make?

I am the same OP. I struggle with anaemia and feel too tired to do anything. I don't have the energy to get motivated but need to do something!

Me too.... my downfall is drink but also so much conflicting info,
No carbs, macro, cardio, weight lift, more protein, less calories - literally no idea where to start

I guess my downfall is sugar.

That’s where to start then, you can worry about carbs, Marcos, calories etc later.

Do you feel you would be better getting a control on the sugar but portion size and having a allowance for it into your plan? Or would you find it better to cut certain items completely for a while with low sugar options as a backup?

There’s no right or wrong way to do this. You have to look at what you feel is sustainable for you.

Some people do well following a strict plan such as SW, WW, etc and for others it’s building up small changes or a combination for both.

For me it was with the goal of a lifestyle style change, so not a diet as such but making better food choices. I do have treats but I have a control on that now and theire’s some things I don’t even miss.

I if it’s small changes that will help you start I would look at controlling the sugar and adding in a low intensity exercise.

I don’t wish to sound smug but this was me this time last year. I started with WW and now do my own thing with nutrition (lots of protein, some carbs, treat whenever I fancy about once/twice a week). Started off with swimming but now into lifting weights and running too. Anyway, am currently on holiday and it’s the most comfortable I’ve felt EVER, happy to walk round in bikini and have really enjoyed clothes shopping, being able to pick trendy stuff rather than what covers me up. Consistency is absolutely key. No one ever got fat by eating a few fun foods, just like no one ever got skinny by eating a few salads. Good luck and try to visualise this time next year, you can do it!

Thank you fezzes and fashion for taking the time to reply. It's helpful. Laziness is definitely my biggest problems. Just can't be bothered with anything anymore and I have a wardrobe full of clothes I can't wear.

Ok here’s a challenge for laziness (which I can relate to)

m.youtube.com/watch?v=KCe3ZS7pAC4

It’s a one mile walk in 15 minutes. Try and and do a couple of times a week to get started.

It’s just 15 minutes, if you put it on your phone/iPad you can do it while dinner’s or watching tv. All you have to do is walk, don’t worry about the moves, just keep moving for 15 minutes.

Lol I sound like the exercise woman! But honestly it’s true. It’s a small, short amount of time and you have nothing to lose by trying it out.

Or if it’s not your thing find something you could do for just 15 minutes a couple of times and then build it up.

You can do this. It scary and overwhelming, but it is possible.

This is a very helpful thread.

I was like that last year. Never huge, but size 14, getting bigger, feeling helpless. I decided I was not going to be like that this year.

So- January first, started running. I’ve run 6 days a week since then. No excuses. Diet- sugar free, low carb, no bread, pasta, potatoes, rice, sugar, fruit. Calorie controlled a few days a week. I miss sweet treats and I miss cake and I miss ice cream. But, I do not miss feeling revolting in a swim suit.

I will not lie and say it was/is easy. I’m not done yet. I’m struggling at the moment and my weight is maintaining rather than still losing. But yesterday I got up at 7 and ran 12km. I’m wearing size 8 clothes.

Please don’t think me blunt or insensitive, but i faffed about for years doing slimming world and yo yo-Ing around. I told myself that for one year I was doing it properly, and no excuses. And it’s working. I think it’s mindset. Mind over mouth. You have to say no to loads of ‘nice things’ but if you really really want it, it’s not so hard. If you started a programme now, and did it properly with no excuses, by next year you’ll be slim.

Come and join us on our blood sugar diet thread, we get amazing results.

Sorry, link would help!

Blood Sugar Diet thread 11 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/fasting_diet/3267071-blood-sugar-diet-thread-11

thenewaveragebear1983 100% agree it’s mindset

I’ve try and gave up after a couple of days so many times.

Then this year something clicked and told me I was going to do this and be successful. I’m not doing anything special, it’s really more about not making any excuses to myself and cracking on. If I have a rough patch then that’s fine too, as I just get back on again the next meal.

I’ve still got along way to go but I will make it happen this time and once I do I will be maintaining.

Me too. I think it's all about your mindset. I can't lose weight if my life is highly stressful. I have to be feeling good and usually it's some particular thing that works over others. I lost 2 stone doing low carving nearly ten years ago, but it's all piled on again and then some. I just cannot get into the mindset. I exercise but drink too much and I'm highly stressed all the time and that doesn't help.

Carbing

Fezzes totally. I have claimed this year as ‘My Year’ - I’ve sat on the sidelines and watched people successfully lose weight, or just be slim anyway, my whole life. This year is MINE. It’s My turn.

Claim yours OP.

thenewaveragebear1983 It kind of crazy isn’t it? Once that switch goes on there’s no stopping us!

What’s even crazier is the only thing that’s stopped us before is ourselves!

I could have written your post! I remember sitting on holiday last year thinking this time next year I will be back in my size 10 clothes and not feeling like I need to hide from everyone. Have you noticed how all the gorgeous, slim, people seem to sit next to you! 😀 Well here I am, 4 weeks from this year's holiday and I have yet again had to buy size 14 costumes and I'm actually heavier than last year!

The wake up call came last night when DH and I were chatting and he said he was feeling pleased as he had gone down to 11.5 stone. He is 6ft 1" and I am 5'3" and I weigh 12st!!!!!! OMG I am so ashamed.

We have been walking 3 miles every night after work (we walked 9 miles last Saturday) but we haven't been quite so good this week due to work and the heat.

Sugar is also my enemy and I know this is where I need to start.

Today is THE day I start to take back control!

Icequeen01 you sound so like me, including your stats and your DH's!!! I am a little lighter but also a little shorter. Being short just makes everything so much more difficult.
All I have managed to give up consistently is alcohol. Which I know is a good thing and it makes a huge difference.
I know what the right mindset feels like because I've had it before, but at the moment is not happening; I am constantly doubting myself as soon as I make a decision because I know I'm going to fail. There's also an ongoing stressful situation at work that makes me feel extremely anxious and I turn to food as a result. I could walk though, I can walk for miles.

Why don’t you just focus on a fitness side for now then? Plus I find it helps with stress!

Funny I didn’t start with a diet thing. I just wanted to see if I can do a bit of exercise and after a while it had a positive knock on effect to my diet

I am in the same boat as you but a good few stone heavier. This time last year I was a couple of stones lighter than now.

I find I can control everything else in my life but eating and being fat.

DH who is usually very fit and certainly not overweight is recovering from a serious injury and so cannot do sport for several months to a year. He has just challenged me to do a mini triathlon in a year’s time.

I haven’t told him but I am actually debating it. I have been looking up the lowest distance ones available and considering if I could do it. The swimming is no trouble but the other bits would be killers for me. But do you know what?, in a year I could train towards them so I might actually be able to do it.

Would it help you too to have a tangible goal like that that is not directly weight related?