Fella says I'm fat

[Lilly86]

I've just found out I'm pregnant. I must be around 6 weeks. I know I shouldn't be showing yet but my belly seems to have ballooned. I've always been a curvy size 14 carrying most of my weight on my belly. My bf keeps telling me I need to go on a diet because I'm huge already and it's nothing to do with being pregnant as it's such early days. This extra belly has only come on on the last 3 weeks or so from nowhere. So my question is am I showing a bit more because I've always had a tummy? And am I going to become some huge beach ball unable to move and is he right should I do a special k diet now so I'm not extra huge later? Thank you x

I now how you could lose about 14 stone instantly.

And no, you definitely do not start a diet when pregnant. Eat healthily and exercise regularly. One good exercise is go swing your right leg until your foot hits the nearest arsehole. Repeat until the fat jibes stop.

Please don't attempt weight loss while pregnant! You could harm the baby!

Focus on eating nutritious foods, plenty of fruit, veg, good quality protein, good fats, wholegrains.

Also, sorry but your boyfriend sounds horrible. Is he always this mean to you?

I think it’s the boyfriend you need to lose not the weight.
Bloating in early pregnancy is completely normal, also it’s not a great idea to start a strict new diet so early on.

I went up a size jeans almost straight away but stayed that size until about seven months. You don't need to eat extra but I wouldn't diet either.

He's a dick.

It's possibly fluid retention rather than actual amniotic sac and baby.

You don't do a fad diet when you're pregnant.

Eat well, exercise gently but not much more than your body is used to.

Congratulations

Eat healthily.

He doesn't sound like he's going to be very supportive. His first comment is that you're fat.

Also, he's your ''fella''. Do not give the baby his sur name.

With the first pregnancy I only started showing at 18 weeks, with the second I showed at 9 weeks. So it depends.

The ballooning may be partly due to bloating with gas, rather than actual fat, if it has come on rapidly during early pregnancy and you have not been eating more than usual.
Your GP or midwife will check your weight regularly and advise on healthy eating during the rest of your pregnancy, but you certainly don’t need to “eat for two”. The extra calories required amount to approx two slices of toast a day during final trimester only. Have plenty of green veg to fill up and provide folate, and avoid junk food, soft cheese and pate.

He's just blunt I suppose. But it is getting to me, I already know I look big I don't need reminding! I haven't been eating loads extra an I've swapped snacks for fruit and coffee for smoothies etc

Thanks everyone. With a bit of luck it's just bloating then. I know it's nothing I've done, I just need to get that across to him!

He wants you to do the special K diet while pregnant with his child? What an arsehole. Basically he has told he that how you look (to him) is more important than the health of your growing child (which needs a range of nutrients). This doesn’t bode well...

And incidentally, while the actual foetus is small at this stage, your uterus will be bigger, you can have bloating and swelling related to this as your abdomen reacts, and you can even still have somewhat enlarged/cystic ovaries following the ovulation that resulted in conception. So all kinds of reasons, unique to you. None of which you need to worry about. If you feel like you need to lose weight rapidly, the easiest and healthiest way would be to get rid of him.

Try telling him that pregnant ladies get very hormonal. This can lead to early bloating or to stabbing their partners in the middle of the night.

Then buy him a book on how to support one’s partner through pregnancy.

Congratulations

Sounds like a real Prince Charming you’ve got yourself there . I hope this is a one off incident, or I’d be a bit worried that this is how he is acting when you’re pregnant... Men can suddenly become more abusive when their partners fall pregnant. Just a word of warning.

Anyway, re your op. Eat healthily and you’ll be fine in pregnancy. A lot of women find they are slimmer after they’ve given birth than before they fell pregnant. I’m not one of them, but it happens. Morning sickness, no alcohol and healthy eating for 9 months often does the job!

I also started showing early with both dcs, but I think it’s just bloating at this point. I didn’t fit in my jeans after about 8 weeks. I was a tall size 12 before dc1.

It's just bloat. I had it really early on too although mine never went away - just turned in to bump! A lot of women lose it then get a bump. Are you still in your normal jeans etc?

He sounds like a dick. I hope it's just the way it's come across here and he's normally very kind as he'll need to be there for you over the next eight months.

All the best with your pregnancy ❤

Could your dates be wrong? How would he react if you told him to diet/change something about himself - is bluntness accepted as well as doled out - if not, that sucks.

No I went shopping yesterday and have had to go up one or two sizes in everything. My last period was a lot lighter than usual but I guess I won't know my dates for definite until I go for a scan? Appreciate the support ladies I've had No one to talk to about any of this xx

It’s just bloat with the hormones etc aaaannnnnnddd it’s bloody hot! Of course you’re retaining water etc your bodies making sure you and baby have everything you need.

In other news: he sounds like a right a- hole. Obviously it’s up to you what you do now. But don’t let people talk to you in a way that is not respectful. Make sure you set that expectation of him. It’s not OK.

Have a great Saturday OP and I’m sure you look bloody lovely x

"He's just blunt"... you mis-spelt. "He's just a cunt" is what you meant. Don't diet, do eat healthily and be happy.

Give some consideration to how much happier you might be without him. You're going to get a heck of a lot 'fatter' over the coming months, and when your baby comes you might not instantly snap back to a shape he prefers. How much will he have to say about that, and how much do you want to hear?

What @ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo and @MaryandMichael said. Honestly OP, if he's this shit now, where's it going to end? Congratulations on your pregnancy. Also sounds as if you may be further into your pregnancy than you thought.

Got to take the med size boxers I bought for him yesterday back to the shop an swap for a large. NOW who's fat eh?

Just wait til he starts making comments about the “state” of your vagina after the birth. Has he already started that crap? Telling you it better not look like a punched lasagne?

He sounds like a dick.