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I don't want to be fat because...(inspiration)

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Littlemissloopylou · 30/05/2018 20:53

I'm fat. I weigh 15st 9lb and I'm size 20/22.

I'm miserable. I'm embarassed. I'm ashamed. I'm unhealthy. I'm unfit.

I don't want to be fat because...
...because I see my reflection in shop windows and I have to look away.
...because I sweat with minimal exertion.
...because I feel uncomfortable buying clothes in my size. Especially if I try it on and it's too tight.
...because I am young (ish) but no one looks at me and thinks I'm pretty.
...because I cringe if my photo has to be taken at work.
...because I ache when I get out of bed.
...because I can't cross my legs when I sit down.
...because I can't fit my calves into my favourite style boots.
...because when I'm in my uniform I sweat so bed my knickers are wet and I get wet patches under my boobs.
...because food controls me.
...because I want to be happy and confident.

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FiloPasty · 30/05/2018 20:54

I’m really flat chested and being slimmer is the only thing that suits my proportion!

Casmama · 30/05/2018 20:56

Because I have quite a few items of clothes I really like but don’t fit in them when I’m fat.

InanimateCarbonRod · 30/05/2018 20:57

I lost 8 stone and never, ever want to go back.

RefuseTheLies · 30/05/2018 20:58

I don’t want to have a heart attack or develop type 2 diabetes.

halfwitpicker · 30/05/2018 20:59

It hurts.

SparkleBuns · 30/05/2018 21:00

because it's hot out and instead of being free to wear a vest top and shorts, I'm wearing jeans and either a baggy tshirt or a shirt.

I don't feel pretty.

When I do my make up perfect I feel like its pointless because of my fat double chin and puffy face.

I can make out my frame under my fat and know I would have a rocking body shape if i can just finally lose this weight

Littlemissloopylou · 30/05/2018 21:01

It hurts

Yes

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Littlemissloopylou · 30/05/2018 21:11

InanimateCarbonRod how did you lose it?

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LegallyBronde · 30/05/2018 21:11

Because I'm worth it (cheese). I want the best for my DC health so I should want the same for myself.

And zombies.The number one rule is cardio Grin. Hammer hits are good practice too...Wink

InanimateCarbonRod · 30/05/2018 21:16

Low carb high fat diet. Lost it in a little over a year.

Littlemissloopylou · 31/05/2018 00:37

...because getting into my oversized pj's (actually mens size joggers & tshirt) make me sad.
...because my kids want me to go out tomorrow but I want to hide away.

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Littlemissloopylou · 31/05/2018 00:39

...because I've had a week off work to decorate and I've done very little cos I get tired so easily.

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Littlemissloopylou · 31/05/2018 00:40

...because I want to be loved.

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bluetrampolines · 31/05/2018 00:59

Everything is more manageable when you love your clothes.

Grasslands · 31/05/2018 01:06

because it's hot here and i hate the big boobs and thigh rubbing.

Littlemissloopylou · 31/05/2018 13:38

...because I just had a bath then blow dried my hair which has turned my face into a big round tomato that will stay red for the next 2 hours or so.

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Felicitycity · 31/05/2018 13:54

I have been blessed with good health and I feel like I am abusing that by being overweight

TalkinPeece · 31/05/2018 13:57

I did not want to be fat because my knees hurt all the time when I was
I did not want to be fat because my thighs chafed when I was
I did not want to be fat because my eyes looked piggy when I was
I did not want to be fat because I wanted to live a long healthy life

OP
think of the POSITIVE things that you'll be able to enjoy

for a friend of mine it was being able to go head first down the slide with her grandson Grin

amymel2016 · 31/05/2018 14:01

...because I want to walk into any shop, pick up a size 12/14 and know it’ll fit

...because I want people to see me as attractive, not a fat lump

...because I want to be able to go on long walks without feeling embarrassed at how sweaty/red/out of breath I am

...because I want to see my son grow up, I’m sick of worrying about having a heart attack/stroke. I need to lose this bloody weight!!

Arkengarthdale · 31/05/2018 17:25

Oh Op I agree with all of yours. I want to have the confidence to have sex. I want my DH to fancy me. I want to look nice in my clothes. I don't want to be judged and found wanting

Titsywoo · 31/05/2018 18:04

Only for health reasons as I'm happy with the way I look. I did feel very uncomfortable at nearly 15 stone. I'm down to 13st 8 now and working my way to 10.5 stone which although slightly overweight is my comfortable size.

originalusernamefail · 31/05/2018 18:55

I don’t want to be fat because;

  1. It hurts. My back was injured when I was attacked at work, my pelvis, hip and nerves in my leg were damaged (?permanently) giving birth to DS2. Being fat does NOT help at all. I’m fed up of being a painkiller zombie that can’t pick things up off the floor.
  1. I have no energy. I’m too young to feel so old Sad. I crawl out of bed already counting the hours until I can get back in.
  1. I don’t like myself. My sex life suffers because I just plain don’t feel sexy enough to relax and enjoy it. It’s also physically difficult (see point 1.).

4 I want to feel good - really good in what I wear. I want to be able to wear the style I like and see in my head. Not just what fits -ish.

I know being a healthy weight ( realistically will never be thin) won’t fix these things but it’s a start. Now how do I do it? I’m 33 now I want to be better by 35, (my personal cut off for TTC DC3). Help me MN!

originalusernamefail · 31/05/2018 21:04

Wow I’m a thread killing ninja. Sorry OP Sad

Littlemissloopylou · 31/05/2018 22:20

OP
think of the POSITIVE things that you'll be able to enjoy

The point of the thread is to remind me of the NEGATIVE things I hate about being fat so as I am dropping the pounds I can refer back to it for inspiration and to aid my willpower. I am useless at trying to imagine what I will feel like when I've lost the weight as I haven't been slim for many years but for now I know what it's like to feel fat and why I don't want to go back there when he weight starts slipping off.

Does that make sense?

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Littlemissloopylou · 31/05/2018 22:23

You haven't killed the thread originalusernamefail I agree with all your reasons. I have a pelvis issue too (though not as bad as yours by the sound of it) so I understand a little of what you're talking about Flowers

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