I think my friend has an eating disorder but she dosent want help?

[swrmb17]

Hello,
I hope someone is out there to help with some advice for a friend and please no judging with what I need to say.
She is mid twenties and for the last few months her thoughts of weight loss have spiralled out of control!
It’s like she is now obsessed and cant stop, she said although she sounds so selfish, it’s like She doesn’t want to stop either?!
Where to even start!
Firstly she feels disgusting, looks in the mirror and just sees a fat, ugly person staring back. She started by cutting calories, drinking more water etc. Then before she knew it had cut all carbs and sugars out completely, until finding herself drinking a dissolved stock cube for dinner! She can go days with no food, and get a buzz from the feeling of an empty stomach, the control over the thought of winning and getting thin! She weighs herself 15+times a day, takes measurements with a tape measure daily and writes results into a diary. Shes honestly hooked. She has avoided going to meals with family and friends just so she dosent have to eat. She said she gets a kick also from cooking her partner his dinners, like a feeling of accomplishment knowing she will not be eating it after. counts calories like she never imagined, walks miles daily to burn off every calorie and to be in a minus for the day.
She said she’s never binged as her will power and determination is so high, however have made herself sick a handful of times if she feels she has eaten too many calories (300-400 cal) said she never ever thought she would do something like this, but the satisfaction after was amazing. She even weighs herself during being sick until the scale says the weight that it was previously at before eating! She also finds herself laying there in bed late at night on the internet looking at pics of thin women telling herself “that will be me”
Shes lost roughly 3 stone in 6 weeks, but says its just not enough, has no goal weight other than to be thin, it’s got such a control over her. She’s told me she dosent see herself stopping and dosent want help or to stop.
She has no idea how It got to this, She won’t speak to any other family or friends so that’s why I’ve come here.
She is an average weight. But I know something isn’t right.
Please be kind.

I'm new here, I've just posted in eating disorders and can't find out how to delete this. But any advice still welcome if this post is ok here?

I mean this gently, but is this about your friend or is it about you? I’ve been there, and there’s no way I would have told a friend all this. It’s a very dangerous place to be when you’re locked into this mindset, but at the same time she’s the one who has to get help. I’ve been on both sides of this. About ten years ago this was me, I lost an enormous amount of weight in the space of about 9 months as I hooked onto it as a way to control my crippling anxiety. My life was awful at the time and food was the only thing I could control. I insisted to my friends that I was fine but eventually had to admit I wasn’t. I had CBT and was put on meds for my anxiety and thank god managed to recover. My body still suffers from that time thing, my teeth are in an awful state and I can still never get warm despite now being slightly overweight.
I also watched a friend go through this last year, a much older friend so not the typical young woman you’d associate this kind of behaviour with. She stopped coming out with us, avoided any occasions involving food and spent all day walking around. Easy behaviour to spot if you’ve been there. But there was nothing any of her friends could do to help as she wouldn’t admit there was a problem. The only thing you can do is gently suggest she seeks help, but be prepared for her to deny there’s a problem. Even at my lowest weight I felt a total fraud accessing help from the eating disorder service as I felt too big.