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2018 - Thread 2 of Help Me Mumsnet I have 4 stone to lose and 10k debt to pay off

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ChickenVindaloo2 · 28/12/2017 17:17

Hi everyone,

It's the day after the day after Boxing Day, Thursday 28 December 2017!

Just over a year ago, on Boxing Day 2016, I was 14 stone exactly (My highest weight ever was 14st 5, I'm 5 foot 2 ish). So I needed to lose 4 stone just to get to a healthy weight. After a false start, I lost 3 stone, getting down to a low of 11 stone exactly through stopping binge-eating. I also went to (private) CBT therapy and started going to the gym. I had popped back up to 11st3-4 in the run up to Christmas, mainly as a result of complacency and dropping the gym visits due to the dark evenings.Having eaten more than usual and some salty foods over Christmas itself, as of this morning, I'm 11st 5. I need to lose at least 2 stone really to be a healthy weight and perhaps 2.5-3 to achieve peak gorgeousness!

(I also had £10k worth of debt, mainly on credit cards. I re-mortgaged and I now have £5k on a 0% credit card for 2 years. I've worked out I need to pay it off at £200/month)

In terms of weight loss, the general rules are to err on the side of low carb, unprocessed food. I need to get in more salad/veg and restart the gym sessions. I also need to watch portion sizes and ditch the snacks, treats and extras.

Rowgtcfc has been an amazing help throughout and I hope she will join me on this shiny new thread! Would also be delighted to see new comrades of any size, shape or "diet" plans!

I've attached a pic of me at my heaviest plus one at the end of last year.

Thread 1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/2811974-Help-me-MN-I-have-4-stone-to-lose-and-10k-debt-to-pay-off?pg=1

Some of my best tips which I hope help!

  • every day is every thing. it's what you do every day over the course of a year which makes a difference. In a year, what will you wish you did today?
  • it's ok to just not eat crisps/chocolate/sweets/cakes/biscuits, easier, even, than trying to moderate
  • eggs for breakfast
  • salad and veg are your friends
  • low sugar but good fats is anti-ageing too!
  • You need less food than you think. You won't die from hunger.
  • The secret is: there is no secret. Most slim folk have to prioritise it and work at it.
  • Practice being slim. Act like you're slim.
  • Do what suits you, find your own path. Eg don't assume breakfast is vital for you.
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CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 02/05/2018 15:34

So huge fail for me. Went to join the gym today and they won't let me use it until I've had an induction there (even though I've used it on a pay-as-you-go basis until 9 months ago). I can't get an induction until Tuesday next week! So annoying as DH has this week off, so it's a week when I've actually got childcare so I can easily go to the gym Angry.

OohOohMrPeevly · 02/05/2018 19:55

Evening All
Hope everyone is doing OK.

Kitty did you manage to get an appointment?

Coffee sorry to hear about the gym fail - you could still exercise though - power walking mixed with jogging maybe?
Row sorry about the kitkats and the puncture - sounds like a rubbish day.
Well I've managed to clamber on the wagon again mainly motivated by the fact that I will be encountering the competitive boasty woman that I don't like again next week and nothing makes me happier than being slimmer than her. If she was nicer I wouldn't feel so competitive but the fact she's such an awful show off who thinks she's god's gift to men really makes me want to piss her off! I still haven't weighed since the company nurse incident but I know by my clothes that I'm heading in the right direction again. I will wait until my TOTM has passed before braving the scales as that always helps.
Just on the subject of exercise I have been reading a lot about it recently and I am increasingly convinced that whilst it's really good for you it doesn't actually make much difference to weight loss. It's all about the diet apparently.

Rowgtfc72 · 02/05/2018 20:07

90% diet 10% exercise apparently!

73kittycat73 · 03/05/2018 19:13

Hello everyone, sorry to have worried you all. I finally got through to make an appointment only to be told I will be sent one through the post. Haven't heard anything yet. Sorry not to have updated.
Sorry to hear about the gym Coffee. How annoying that must be. Can you get childcare for next week? I would be very cross!
Hi MrPeevly, hope you manage to be slimmer than boasty woman! As regards exercise, I actually took up cycling (Exercise bike) for 25 minutes a day, 5-6 days a week and started Yoga, and I didn't lose a pound! That was after doing it for around a month. (I'm hoping it's not a side effect of taking up drinking two cans of Pepsi Max a night. It really helps me with my sweet cravings and to not eat cake! Grin )
Hope everyone else is OK? Chicken, Row, hope you are doing OK?

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 03/05/2018 19:18

MrPeevly - I think Row is right. Back in the day I used to exercise a lot (half marathons and similar challenges, plus I would run 5k before work every morning and do weights several times a week). I would get extremely toned, for me, but I would never lose more than 1 or 2lbs. It was only when I restricted what I ate that I lost any weight.

I've had a good day today. I managed to get a guest pass to my mum's gym, so I had my first workout in 9 months! I took it really gently as I'm definitely not fully healed, but walked/ran for 20 minutes, cycled for 10 minutes and did some weights. It's a start!

I also bought some trendy jeans in a size 14 (my short term goal). They're too small now by quite a long way, but I'm determined to fit in them within the next few months. I usually go for fairly uninspiring clothes as I don't want the attention, but these are a little more fashionable.

So, related to this, what is everyone's goal for this month? Weight loss, savings-wise or otherwise? Mine are to:

  1. get down to 12.7 (the goal I missed from last month);
  2. eat more vegetables and lentils and "nutritious" food; and
  3. eat less processed food and red meat.
CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 03/05/2018 19:19

Hi Kitty - glad to hear from you. How annoying about the appointment. How are you otherwise?

73kittycat73 · 04/05/2018 00:21

Hi Coffee, congratulations on the work out! Star I'd say that's more than a start. Bloody well done! Smile How did you feel afterwards? Did you get an endorphin (Spl? I always call them 'my dolphins'. :p ) rush at all? How often do you plan to go? I have a similar goal to you in that I'm trying to eat more fruit, and also eat proper meals instead of snacking on chocolate. I'm reading 'Brain Over Binge' at the moment. I've read most of it and some of it must have sunk in. I usually really crave my mint clubs all day but today I haven't! I only craved a bit after dinner, and had a proper dinner too (Soup.). My other goal is to start my standing abs workouts. I got it today. I brought a new TV a while ago with an intergrated DVD player. At first couldn't even figure out where the dvd went! lol I just sort of squwooshed it in and had to fish it out again with a knife and a pair of tweasers. Grin I got it to work in the end but had to turn everything off to get back to the TV. The woman demoing was going really fast! I will have a go sometime next week. Maybe Tuesday. Haven't got Yoga on Monday because of the bank holiday but my nieces are coming round on that day. Other than that I'd like to see the scales go down. Smile
As for the breast screening I'm starting to worry about having to go out again. I've got some diazepam to take which helps. I don't think I'm as stressed about it as before as I know I'm OK when I'm there. Thanks for asking though. (((hugs)))
Very good luck with your goals. I'm sure you'll do them. Smile

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 04/05/2018 12:27

Please can we start calling them "my dolphins"? I felt great afterwards. I had forgotten how good exercise can make you feel. I stepped on the scales this morning, expecting my 30 minutes of exercise had made me lose 10lbs, but sadly I hadn't lost anything Grin. It's going to be harder to exercise after Tuesday as my husband works long hours. On a good day he's out of the house from 6:15am - 8pm and on a bad day he's away for several days, so there's nobody to watch the kids.

Those sound like good goals. Is 'Brain over Binge' good? Hopefully it helps. Your story about the TV made me laugh! Good job you've worked out how to use it. I think exercise DVDs are going to have to be my way forward. I'll need to be super disciplined as I find them really boring and much prefer to be in the gym/outdoors.

Have you got much planned with your nieces?

Good luck with the breast screening. I don't want to say anything too patronising, as I don't know how it feels to dread going out to the extent that you do, but I hope the fact you have done it before gives you some confidence about getting to the screening.

Hope everyone else has a lovely weekend!

ChickenVindaloo2 · 04/05/2018 22:21

Hey everyone! Well I'm on the naughty step! I've been eating icelollies and chocolate and weighted in at 11st 10 today Sad I've not been bingeing though, "just" overeating.

I leave for Portugal a week on Sunday so not going to look a picture in my cozzie but worse than that I'm now feeling sick at the thought of not looking good in August when I meet Britney again. I've actually been sweating in the night thinking about it!

Soooo hopefully the fear has kicked in.

I've bought a bunch of detox tea from the supermarket (more as a placebo than anything) and I'm planning to hit the gym tomorrow am. I could probably get 5lbs off before I fly. I hate feeling fat and bloated like this My tits and tum feel massive.

I'm so proud of all my girls, putting me to shame!!!

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Rowgtfc72 · 05/05/2018 07:06

Chicken everyone has their moments!
5lb is well doable before you fly. You'll rock that cozzie. Failing that buy a sports one with lots of body hugging lycra like I do Grin

OohOohMrPeevly · 05/05/2018 07:07

Chicken one of my main grievances in life is that you don't actually have to binge to put on weight - just eating three meals a day and the odd treat still means you gain weight. Us women pretty much have to stay on a permanent diet or eating regime just to stay the bloody same. As children we can eat pretty much everything and not put on weight but then when you're an adult you make the terrible discovery that normal amounts of food makes you fat. I know if I mention giving up sugar again you'll all be thinking "oh bore off mrpeevly" but it's the only thing that's ever worked for me. Your appetite goes away because what you thought was hunger actually wasn't hunger - it was sugar addiction.

Yep Row is right - it's all about the kitchen and not the gym. You can't out train your fork I think is the latest expression for it.
Coffee I'm glad you got to the gym and I agree that the exercise makes you feel great; I'm just about to head out for a run and hope to enjoy the dolphins afterwards! Rather than doing dvds have you thought about getting a couple of kettlebells and doing some HIT workouts from youtube? They are intense but quick so can be fitted in when you have ten minutes. I read about a poster on here who when she's at home with her children wears her workout gear all day and whenever they're quiet for 5 minutes she does some quick squats or whatever. I thought it was a pretty good idea.
Kitty good luck with your appointment and I think taking diazepam to get you there is absolutely fine. The doctor gave me diazepam for a few days after I lost my dad and I remember the warm safe feeling they gave me and made everything seem less awful. Our dog was prescribed some a couple of years ago and when I had really awful PMT and felt anxious and had that awful feeling of impending doom I used to pinch one of the dog's tablets (I googled it and it's the same stuff they give to humans). I hope you have a lovely time with your nieces.
Enjoy the sunshine everyone :)

ChickenVindaloo2 · 05/05/2018 14:32

You're spot on Mr Peevely:

  1. It doesn't take much to put on weight. Gorgeous bodies don't happen by accident, they are worked for.
  2. Sugar is the enemy.

Back down to 11st 8 this morning. Eggs and detox tea for brekkie!

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CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 05/05/2018 19:20

Yay, well done Chicken. Great news!

MrPeevly - You are 100% right. The problem is, sugar just tastes so damn yummy Grin.

Rowgtfc72 · 06/05/2018 12:39

Well done chicken!

14 3 here this morning.

Onwards and upwardsGrin

73kittycat73 · 06/05/2018 13:56

Hello everyone. Smile Hi Coffee, glad you got your dolphins from your exercise. Grin I ordered a yoga for weightloss DVD last night to do at home. Can you do any exercise at home if hubby's not around?
Brain Over Binge is very good. It had been working up to last night (I only had a Fibre One and two celebrations chocolates anyway.) but got into my danger time - sleepy eating. I'm not angry or upset about it though, I'll chalk it up to experience. It's a very informative read though, even if you don't all out binge, I've found it very useful (Some of it has crossed over to helping me with anxiety.). and would recommend.
As for my nieces, we have two big storage containers in the garden and we are planning on going through them and having a sort out. They haven't been opened since last year so should be fun, lol. Grin How about you, are you up to anything or just taking it easy? I hope you have a lovely weekend whatever you are doing. Smile

How's the detox tea Chicken? Well done on the 2lbs loss! Star I hope you have a lovely holiday. Smile I am sure Britney will be just pleased to greet you. I understand about wanting to look your best though. As for icelollies, could you make your own low calorie ones at home? No tips for chocolate, that's my downfall too! (Well, that and cakes. Wink ) Good luck, though I am sure you'll do it. Smile
Have a great weekend! Smile

Hi MrPeevly. Smile I also agree about the weightloss. It can take only a day to put on 1lb plus, but a week to lose it! I also agree that you have to change your lifestyle basically to keep the weight off. Not so many snacks and chocolate unfortunately.
Thank you for the good luck wishes, my appointment has come through. It's for Wednesday the 16th of May. The diazepam just takes the edge off. I feel a little better about this time though as last time I was dreading it due to panicking the time before (Sorry to get so confusing! lol) but I did it and didn't freak so I feel much better about it this time. I hope that makes some kind of sense! lol
Do you have any plans for bank holiday Monday? I hope you have a great weekend whatever you are doing. Smile
Hi Row, well done to you too on the 2lbs! Star You're doing really well. Smile Do you have any weekend plans? How's the shed and gardening coming on? Hopefully you'll have the weather for it this weekend. Have a great time what ever you are planning. Smile

Rowgtfc72 · 06/05/2018 19:21

Kitty, shed building was abandoned due to an unexpected child free weekend and an impromptu visit to the smallest pub on the planet. Unfortunately they serve very strong cider but we were good and went on our bikes so we couldn't overindulge. Six hours later I fell off my bike first smashing my hip on the kerb. Dh spectacularly crashed shoulder first into someone's garden fence 15 mins later. I went to bed and missed him passing out on the bathroom floor.

Today has been spent on the sofa nursing our sore heads and bodies and remembering why this is usually a once a year occurrence.

Pleased you have a date for your appointment.

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 08/05/2018 11:12

Hi everyone. Hope you're all well and have had good bank holidays. Also hope you're enjoying the last of this amazing weather!

MrP - I will definitely be trying kettlebells and HIIT in a few months (can't risk it any time soon because of the c section wound). I used to use kettlebells and had great success with them, although they're an absolute killer Grin. I have never tried HIIT, but think it will be a good thing to try. Funny you should say about the mum who wears workout gear all day - I saw a similar thing on instagram a few weeks ago and wondered why that had never crossed my mind before?! So simple!

Kitty - Did you have a nice bank holiday with your nieces? Hope you found some interesting things Smile. Good luck on the 16th. How are you feeling about it all? I hope you have some support in real life.

Chicken - Have you had a good bank holiday? How's the detox tea?

Row - Hope the hangover is improving! Well done with the loss. Keep at it.

Things are pretty static here. I have had a few really good days diet-wise, but when I stepped on the scale yesterday I'd actually gained 1lb Angry. Ridiculous. BUT I have my gym induction tonight, so I feel positive about that.

Has anyone tried the 16:8 diet? I did 5:2 many years ago and had some success with it. I would try it again, but I think it's a bit restrictive when I'm breastfeeding and looking after two small children (when I did it years ago I was working long hours, but it was all at a desk so I wasn't burning energy in quite the same way). I'm trying to eat less sugar and processed food, but I wonder if I need something a little more drastic? I', going to leave it a few weeks and see how things go when I'm exercising more, but I have this in the back of my mind.

73kittycat73 · 08/05/2018 20:12

Hi Row, I hope your hip is feeling better, and I'm sure, your head! Grin How's hubby's shoulder? Was it worth it though? (I bet it was, wasn't it? Grin )

Hi Coffee, bummer about the pound. It just doesn't make sense some times does it? Good luck with the gym induction, and I hope your scales catch up with you soon. Smile

Monday didn't go well. Niece has been really playing me up lately. Time before last she was actually pushing and thumping me. Yesterday started off really well then in the afternoon she just turned. Putting ice down my back, poking me hard with a broom handle, pulling things out of cupboards I asked her not too, goading me, actually admitted she was trying to wind me up, question after question in quick succession, throwing things at my head, she turned horrible. I was quite upset after it all last night and couldn't get to sleep because of it. I try and treat her when she is round here as her mum isn't fair on her, she clearly favours my other niece. When I asked first niece why she was being so mean, she looked me dead in the eye and said, "Because you're a soft touch." Shock Her dad got her to 'phone me today and apologise, but it was a very ungenuine apology. I won't be waiting on her hand and foot anymore, that's for sure.

I haven't tried the 16:8 but did try the 5:2 a few years ago. Brought some ready meals specially for the 5:2. Gwad they were horrible! Grin I found I had to watch what I ate on non fasting days too or it didn't work. The meal replacements were on the Ideal World shopping channel IIRC. I haven't seen them since.

Oh yeah, I have a confession. I spectacularly fell off the wagon Sunday night and Monday day. I ate loads of mint clubs Sunday night then as my nieces were around Monday there were cakes and Wagon Wheels and chocolate. I thought, I've blown it now, might as well indulge. I regret nothing! Grin Lol, actually, I did regret it a bit. Blush Enjoyed it though! So I'm trying to get back on track today and eat more fruit, less chocolate/cakes.

I also ordered myself a Yogalates (Spl?) DVD from Amazon the other day. It a combination of Yoga (Surprisingly. Wink ) and pilates. It's four sections long including abs and upper body, lower body, cardio workout, and relaxation session. I watched it through last night to see what it was like. I though, yeah, it looks a bit challenging but I can do it. I tried it today. I did two sessions! (Abs and upper body, then lower body.) lol I couldn't keep my balance very well on some poses either, but there were only a few and I expect I'll pick it up as I go along. Didn't always have the room to do the full poses either. Afterwards though I felt surprisingly energised. I will do it again. I was being a cheapskate in buying it really, I thought it would save me the cost of going to the yoga class on Mondays (£8.00 a time.).

Well, I have rambled on as usual, lol. I hope you all had a great bank holiday weekend. Chicken, you'll be off on holiday soon won't you? MrPeevly, I hope you're still beating annoying woman!
Good luck everyone! Smile

OohOohMrPeevly · 08/05/2018 20:47

Row - we get very excited when we get a child free weekend and always get a bit too drunk and giddy. Hope the injuries/hangovers are better.
Coffee - it's so annoying when you've been good and yet still gain weight. I am a very infrequent weigher for this reason as I think that over a longer period there's more chance of a slight loss so I try to weigh about once a month only. I'm sure next time you get on the scales it will have gone. Good luck at the gym. I have never done 16-8 or 5-2 but my colleague has and she lost several stone on 5-2. She has incredible will power though and never faltered even when it was her fast day and we were eating lovely food around her (not deliberately - we all eat lunch at our desks).
Kitty - so sorry you didn't have a good day with your niece. Sometimes the nicer you are to people the worse they treat you sadly. Hope you're feeling ok about your upcoming appointment? I don't blame you for indulging in a few mint club biscuits - when I ate sugar I used to love clubs although my favourite one was the fruit one (purple wrapper) but they stopped doing those decades ago!
Chicken - hope all is well with you? Not long until Britney now.
Well I don't think I have lost any weight recently although hopefully will still be skinnier than old boasty. We went out for a lot of meals and had a lot of alcohol over the bank holiday and although I didn't succumb to any sugar I had plenty of curry, naan bread, poppadoms, chips and crisps so I will weigh myself when I've got a few days of clean eating under my belt......

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 09/05/2018 14:02

Thanks everyone for the sympathy. I actually feel quite cheated. When you eat badly and don't work out, you expect to gain or stay the same. Over the past week I have eaten well, been to the gym and been swimming. It just doesn't make sense and it's made me feel really low.

The gym induction last night was a bit of a nightmare. It was 45 minutes of them telling me a lot of stuff I already know. They then made us download this app and we have to have workout plans and I have to go back in for a review next week. It's just not going to work for me when I have to grab workout time whenever I can, not stick to a schedule. When DH is working long shifts, I can't get to the gym all week. When he has a week off, I can go every day like I wanted to last week. Also, when I only get an hour here and there to get to the gym, I want to work out, not stand around talking about plans. I can devise plans at home, it's the doing I need to be focussing on. In the end last night I couldn't actually do a workout because we'd run out of time Angry. DH's parents are visiting tonight though, so hopefully I can go then (although then I feel guilty as they'll want to spend an evening chatting, whereas I was to grab the opportunity to do something that isn't childcare!).

Sorry, rant over. Just feeling quite p*ssed off about lots of things right now.

Kitty - That is horrible about your niece. I'm so sorry. Has she always been like that or has she just started acting up? How old is she? Do you think she knows that her mum favours her sister? Could it be that she's testing you to see if you'll be there for her whatever? Or is she actually just a bit of a twt? I'm really sorry though. It is horrible when you are kind to people and they treat you like crp. I've had bit of a low week for a similar (but really very different) reason. Basically one of my friends has been having a rubbish time, so I went out and got her a nice card and a load of presents to say "sorry you're having a rubbish time, I hope this will cheer you up". I then saw that while I was out doing that, she went out with two of our other friends and I wasn't invited. It just feels really sh*tty to be excluded, and I feel like such a mug for going to such an effort to try and cheer her up and spending money we really don't have. The three of them go out quite a lot, and they're obviously closer than they want to be with me, but they're quite happy to invite me last minute to things where they need numbers. I know I sound like a 5 year old, but it just hurts when you try and be kind and others don't give a damn how you may feel in return.

Sorry for the massively negative post. Shall we get back onto Portugal trips and Britney and My Dolphins?

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 09/05/2018 15:08

P.S. Kitty - great effort with the DVD! That's fantastic. If you keep at it, you'll soon be doing all of the DVD.

P.P.S. MrP - OMG purple Club bars. I remember them. Does that make me super old?!

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OohOohMrPeevly · 09/05/2018 17:12

Coffee I'm sure your in laws will totally understand that you want to use the opportunity to get to the gym. Those gym inductions are so annoying and pointless - that's why I run or exercise at home as I hate being regulated by anyone/anything. Like you I know what I need to do so I just want to get on with it without some twelve year old stating the bleeding obvious to me!
Re your friends, that's awful and I know how that feels. I always try and be inclusive with my plans so it really hurts being left out. Whatever you do don't give her those presents now - keep them for yourself or save them for xmas presents!
Hope you feel better after your gym workout and get some dolphins!

73kittycat73 · 09/05/2018 20:06

Hi MrPeevly, I don't remember the fruit flavour clubs but they sound delicious. Smile I'm trying not to think too much about the appointment, it only stresses me out. I just don't want more trips up the hospital and another operation (And obviously cancer!). I already have the clinic appointment through for the follow up appointment (Clinic, so I assume it's to get my results?) so that's two trips out already. I shall try and be positive about it, I do enjoy the car trip there and back. I'm also trying to use mindfulness whenever I think about going and getting stressed (Being in the present.). I'm so used to saying (Inwardly) 'no' when anxiety comes up and trying to get rid of it. I've been using meditation that's been very focused on mindfulness and teaches you to not push anything away, observe it, don't challenge or try and change it, note it, then return to the breath.
Good luck for the weigh in. Sounds like you had a nice bank holiday weekend? I hope the clean eating goes well. Smile

Hi Coffee, (((HUGS))) I'm so sorry you are having a bad time of it at the moment. Flowers The gym sounds a bit pushy, they won't let you just workout how you want? I hope you manage to go tonight and get a good workout in. Ta for the DVD encouragement. Smile
My niece has always been 'spirited' but has got a lot worse lately. She's 10, almost 11, big for her age though, she's taller than my mum! I don't think she quite realises that it's her mum that's the problem. Instead of seeing it that way she just see's her sister being treated better and thinks it's her fault so takes it out on her too. I don't know if she's testing me. Funnily enough my mum thought the same thing, that she's taking her frustrations out on me because she knows I'll take it.
Don't feel like a mug for being kind. Your obviously made that way and that is to be admired. Smile Says a lot more about the type of (nice) person you are than about your friend. I think what you did was a lovely gesture. Do you think as they are used to going out together it just didn't cross her mind to invite you? Hopefully it was just a simple oversight. I'm sorry it left you feeling like crap though. Sad Are you going to confront her about it? Or maybe just gently rib her and mention it would be nice to be asked next time, in a jokey nonjokey kind of way?
I know it might not be the same but you have all of us here on this thread as friends and we will support each other as much as we can.
I really hope you are feeling better now anyway. Take all your frustrations out in the gym (If they let you workout! Wink ). Flowers

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 10/05/2018 15:45

Hi both, thanks so much for your kind words. You have no idea how nice it is to hear that, especially as I have been feeling particularly down lately and this friendship snub hit me hard.

MrP - That's totally it. I always try and involve everyone and am conscious of people who may want to join in but feel they can't. It just sucks when other people don't care. Don't worry, I'm not going to give her the presents now! I know the AIBU brigade will say I'm a snowflake and being petty, but I have other friends who have things going on (good and bad) and who I have bought presents for, so I'm just going to add these gifts to those boxes. They'll probably be a lot more grateful anyway!

Kitty - Thanks for being so sweet. It's nice to know I have lovely internet friends Smile. I'm not going to confront any of them about it as I think I will just look petty and desperate. They have been out a few times together before and I wasn't invited for whatever reason. I've since been invited to things, but it's been clear that I've been invited to get numbers up (e.g. being sent an invitation to Queen Bee's birthday after the R.S.V.P date had passed). I've always been really friendly (as I genuinely like everyone) and have said on a number of occasions "let me know when you next meet up as I'd love to come along", but then they don't invite me. I just need to stop caring or making the effort, but it's difficult when I don't have many friends locally (I moved a few years ago, so all my friends are 3+ hours away). The only people I meet are through baby groups and I've found all they want to talk about is baby stuff, which I find a little boring after a while!

Kitty - I am so sorry about your niece. It sounds as though she could be acting up for any number of reasons. I do think your mum may have a point. Could you talk to your niece along the lines of "I'll love you whatever but I really wasn't impressed with your attitude the other day"? Or is she not mature enough? It's horrible that she turns on her sister as it's not her sister's fault (and it's obviously horrible that your sister favours one over the other). Has anyone ever said anything to your sister? I imagine it's a vicious circle in that your niece will act up, so your sister makes it clearer that she favours her other daughter, so your niece then acts up even more (and so on).

MrP - That's exactly it. I mean, what is the point of walking around a gym going "that is a treadmill...that is a rowing machine...that's the weights section"? Why did I have to wait a week to do that? At the start she asked what stuff I usually did at the gym, so I said "treadmill, ergo and stuff in the free weights section". She then said "you should think about using the bikes and rowing machines too" Hmm (for the non gym goers, an ergo is a rowing machine...which any decent PT should know).

BUT...

I have been to the gym twice in 24 hours! I went last night and did a little walk / run for 20 minutes then a few weights and stretches, then this morning I did 30 minutes walk / run, more weights (and for longer) and 40 squats. None of this is amazing at all, but it's a start and I feel so good starting to get active again!

How are you both doing diet wise? How is the clean eating after your night off MrP?

How's everyone else doing?