What size do you want to be?

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Beginning of June I was 99kgs.

At 5ft 4ins I started squeezing into a size 20 and I thought fuck this!! I will not put myself through this I need to sort my life out.

So now we are beginning of September:

I'm down to 93kgs. Not a massive weight loss! But I'm controlling my diet - less processed carbs and good meals of veg and protein.

But the thing I'm doing completely differently is I'm exercising. I'm doing one session of an hour a week with a PT and then going on my own. I'm down to a size 16-18 on my bottom and on my top 14-16. My face my arms and my legs are much slimmer.

I'm struggling with abdominal fat - any tips on this? PT has said abdominal is last place it goes but he said I'm definitely smaller on my belly.

Finally my mum said to me that I'll never get smaller than a size 14? I don't know really what she meant by this but I am conducting a life style change - I am not going to stop. So I don't know what size I can get to?

Is there a limit to what I can be after being so fat? I did wonder about loose skin. I'm just feeling a bit knocked back I guess I don't know I felt if I carried on doing this then why can't I be a size 10? And I'm in it for the long run I'm talking 18-24 months away not in 6 months .

On a side note the smallest I've been is 80kgs. So I'm definitely aiming for that and that's my current goal. Then I would say I was a size 14. But I still had a big belly.

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Not sure exactly what you're asking, but well done on the progress you've made!

I'd like to be a 12, but I'm a 14. I sort of understand what your mum is saying as I don't think I can realistically be a 12. Typical hourglass figure, hips and bust are 10 inches larger than my waist!

I suppose that you'll get to a similar point, but I guess it's different for everyone.

Good luck

Thanks @ClandestineAdulation I guess I don't know.

I guess I'm asking if I could be very slim. But I suppose maybe not.

I do want to get healthy. I feel so determined but I'm happy to take it steady and in a sense transform my life rather than a quick fix

I guess it depends what you class as very slim! I think you can be fit and healthy without being tiny!

Also, lifestyle transformations rather than diets are definitely the way to go!

I hear lots of people say that you shouldn't aspire to be a certain size (one shop's 14 could be another's 12) but you should be happy, and you'll know when you get there.

Thank you.
Yes you're so right.

I just want to be fit and healthy as I possibly can.

I do think you can become slim. I was a size 14 my whole life from 12 to 32. I think at my biggest I was probably a size 16 and maybe at my slimmest (before this weight-loss) a small 12, but size 14 clothes would usually fit. Anyways I have an hourglass shape 5"3 for reference and I thought because of what I thought was "big bones" I would never be able to be smaller than a size 10... Well now I'm a size 6 and I struggle to find decent clothes (especially for work!). So the bottom line is that yes you can become much smaller and that BMI is not completely correlated to size. Mine is 23 but I look tiny!

Also would like to add I went from 10 stone to 8 stone and I still wasn't happen with my belly
It still stuck out and couldn't shift it even though I was tiny elsewhere

I worry about loose skin. And my belly.

I'm exercising and eating sensibly. I'm not crash dieting. I'm just desperate to loose weight. It's a slow process I know and I don't want to do anything drastic.

Suppose I would have to get skin removal?! If got too much.

I was probably an 18-20 after having dc2, BMI was 30.1. Now my BMI is 27.5 and I am around a 16, maybe a 14 in some shops. I would be happy I think wearing a 12 from one of the smaller fitting shops. I've been overweight pretty much my whole adult life so rather than size I would love a BMI of 24. That would do, I reckon.

I'm a 20. Would love, love, love to be a curvaceous and stunning 14.

You wouldn't want to go through skin removal. You'd be looking at a full tummy tuck, a thigh lift, arms, boobs ... all painful procedures with long recovery times. And very, very expensive, over £20K for all that.

Set yourself smaller targets and see how you go.

I'm doing Slimming world. started 15st 8.5lb 18-20. Now 14st 2.5lb and 16-18. My goal is to be 11st. I'd like to be able to wear clothes from any store and I guess I'd like to be a 12-14. I'm 5ft 7.

Well done on your weight loss.
I was pretty much the same weight as you at 5ft7 and a 16/18 (and even they were getting tight!) I decided something had to change. I knew I wanted to lose a fair chunk but I didn't have a figure in mind as a target.
After each stone I reassessed how I felt and decided if I was going to keep trying to lose weight or maintain.
I'm 4st down and now wear a size 10 in most things and think I'm almost happy.

Don't listen to anyone else and try not to let their opinions impact how you feel about your weight loss. You will have people tell you that your losing too slow/too fast, You've lost too much/not enough etc. Just smile and nod.
Losing a significant amount of weight is a hard thing to get your head round (well I think so!) you're going about it with a sensible attitude and you're seeing great results. Don't let anyone discourage you.

Id like to be 10-12. Have been a big 14 since 2004.

I was always a 14. I have a bridesmaid dress from when I was aged 10(!!!) which was a 14. Last year I'd had enough, wanted to be an 8 even though I've always had wide hips. It took about 6 months, got really fit then ate too much ice cream over summer and gained a few lbs, can still fit in the 8s but they aren't as comfy! I hope I can maintain this size for a long time but I'll admit it's more hard work than I thought it might be. If I skip workouts or have a couple of meals out it starts creeping back on.

If you want to be a 10 you can be a 10... congratulations on your weight loss. I am 22 and when I was a 12 I wanted to be a 10 , when a 10 I wanted to be an 8, now I'm an 8 I want to be a 6 but have recognised this is an unhealthy thought pattern.
Lose what you want to lose, but don't let it control you and don't keep going when you're beyond a healthy no for you

@BeatriceBeaudelaire I've slimmed down to a 6 and finding clothes is a royal pain!

rev your BMI is 23 but you wear a size 6? Are you a body builder?

Weight lifter I should say. You're clearly not building your body

Not a proper one by any stretch of the imagination! But those are my abs and I have proper biceps. I train 12 hours week!

Thanks everyone. PT session today and hard work. Weight has plateaued this week but not been able to train so much as away with work.

Need to keep at it and see where my journey takes me. I'm in it for the long run.

I've noticed I'm not depriving myself of anything just making better decisions.

E.g at train station long day desperate for a pick me up. Nearly bought a chocolate instead got a paper and a bottle of water and I was fine!

Just choosing better. Eating better. Exercising a lot more!

Yes I don't want skin removal so will see what I can achieve.

I have a B belly want to lose the upper B so I can wear a bikini for once in my life!

Yes, you can be less than a size 14. I'm 5"4 and two years ago I weighed 109kgs (BMI 41), and was a size 24/26. I now weigh 58kgs (BMI 22) and also do enough exercise to be a fit and healthy size 8/10. I do not have a small frame - I'm a size 6.5 shoe, have big wrists and ankles and fairly wide shoulders, so for me this is as small as is healthy.

Don't obsess about loose skin. This is something I worried about. I do have some, particularly on my tummy and upper thighs that I would rather not have, but it's not nearly as bad as I feared. It's not noticeable at all when I'm in anything other than swimwear, so if I was to contemplate surgery it would really be just to make myself feel better. I've decided to wait until I've maintained for at least a year before even considering it. Right now I really doubt I will, as I'm finding I can live with the loose skin much better than I could live with the extra weight I used to carry!

Sounds like you are in the zone and doing all the right things. Hope it continues to go well for you.

Wow congratulations @AprilLady that is one immense achievement!!

Can I ask for tips ? Any thing really - how did you do it? How do you plan to maintain?

I would like to be a 12. I'd LOVE to be a 10 but that's never going to happen. I'm currently a 16 and at 5'4 and my size frame that's far too big for me. A 12 weight wise would put me at the top end of a healthy BMI for me so that's my goal.