TEN STONE OVERWEIGHT THREAD

[LEIGH350]

I'm starting this because women who are 10 stone and more overweight have nothing in common with "regular" dieters who just want to lose a few pounds or a couple of stone. They can still carry on living life even if they don't lose weight.

I don't know if there are any super heavy women on Mumsnet. I am prompted to post this mainly because I have found a way to eat that actually works and is sustainable.

Surprisingly, it is plain old calorie counting. Also, ironically, because after reading Zoe Harcombe and Gary Taubes I no longer believe in calorie theory. But hey, if it works, just carry on.

I'll wait and see if there are any other women with 10stone+ to lose.

[miasdaddy]

I'm in currently 23 stone and want to be under 20 by Feb
I'm doing the Exante diet and really want it to work for many reasons chief of which is so I can share a bed with my wife can't at the moment due to severe snoring ( I'm also seeking gp help for this )
After the 20 stone goal is still like to lose another 4 or 5 stone but have set 20 as an achievable start

Good luck all 👍👍

[LadyPenelopeShufflebottom]

How's everyone getting on?

[Sunflowersmiling]

Hi. I'm 19 stone...can I join? I've been ill and mostly stuck in bed for a month. Being so inactive has been a disaster! I'm only just starting today...so be good to join and get some ideas on what work :-)

[SparklesandBangs]

Hi I think this is the thread for me too as a 10 stone loss would be ideal for me.

I have just over 18 months to go until I hit 50 and I'm currently a size 22, my knees are bad, I'm unfit and get out of breath climbing the stairs and my back is not good.

Over the years I have tried all diets Lighterlife worked once, to get me from size 18 to 14 but 10 years on I'm back and more.

Over the past 2 years I've been talking to a nutritionist and have a better understanding of what I need to do but I am addicted to sugar and have a dislike of preparing food. I am also a secret eater and binge on bad things and strange things depending on my moods.

I am working on a plan to get myself in a mental state to address this in January I am even seeing a counsellor to help prepare.

My aim is to go sugar free to see if that stabilises my huge highs and lows, then to follow a sensible food plan and record it all in MyFitnessPal

If I could loose half a stone a month I'd hit my target (almost)

Has anyone else tried to go sugar free - I might try Davina's book

[stumblymonkey]

If it's okay I'll join the thread....I have 8st to lose

TBH I'm not planning to start now until January but then will be very motivated as this time next year I'll be having my first breakfast as a married woman!

[popcornpaws]

I decided to go on a diet in July 2014.
I decided to give myself a year of eating 1400 cals daily with the only exception being xmas and birthdays.
I didn't plan how much i would lose, going sugar free etc no pressure on myself, just stuck to the 1400 cals daily knowing i would lose weight.
So, a year and 4 month later i had lost 8 and a half stone.
two and a half year later, still the same, i record what i eat on an old fashioned food diary daily, but now i have the odd day of eating what i want but go straight back on it.

Its weird but now, after the holidays/xmas if I've put on any weight i totally feel it and can't wait to lose it, if i can do it anyone can.
I would eat so many sweets biscuits etc and now don't, don't tell yourself your addicted though, thats not accepting that its greed and once you admit that the reason you're overweight is because you eat more than you need to i could move forward, take responsibility and deal with it.
Dont blame anyone just deal with it.
Good luck!

[Wallywobbles]

I've been doing a VLCD for the last 18 weeks and have lost 4 stone. It's Slim and Save and I like how the packets taste. You do it in series of 13 weeks. It doesn't require you to think about food at all so it removes a lot of issues. It costs about £6 per day. Cheaper than similar VLCDs.

I have s&s porridge for breakfast
An s&s packet for lunch with some zero pasta or rice and a bit of extra veg
An s&s chocolate bar for tea
Then either an s&s packet like lunch or 100g meat/protein + 200g veg.

I record everything on the MyFitnessPal App.

I also swim 2 x a week and do a Pilates class. I walk the dogs most days too.

I didn't have 10 stone to loose. But I still have at least one to go.

I've done 5:2 in the past with temporary success.

I've done no gluten. I've done slow carbs. Both with temporary success too.

I have IBS which hasn't flared up at all since I've started which has been a huge unexpected bonus. Especially since the ingredients would usually be an issue.

[NC1nightstand]

My issue is with emotional eating. I have gained a huge amount of weight in the last ten years but I don't look in mirrors and the fact I am now buying size 22 clothes bothers me less than I know it should. I am in a rut and have to get out.
My first step is joining you if you'll have me and then keeping a food diary.
Also have to see my gp as for the first time in my life this weight loss is more for health than just to look better. I never thought I would ever be this big and I feel like I need to deal with the underlying cause of my overeating as well as putting an eating plan in place.
Any and all thoughts very welcome and hello everybody!

[Bananabreadordead]

Starting Weight: 19st 1lb
Current Weight: 18st 1lb
Goal Weight: 9st 1lb

I went to weight watchers meeting last night and lost 1.5lbs, giving me my first stone lost!!

My "official" weight watchers start weight is 18st 2.5lbs because I only joined a group last week, but in August this year I was up at 19st 1 and did WeightWatchers online for the majority of that first stone. I was losing very slowly because I just couldn't keep on track for the whole week and couldn't stop gorging on chocolate and crisps, from October - end of November I actually gained 4lbs. So, I joined a group for a bit more accountability.

So far it's working and I've started losing again

1 stone down, 9 to go!

[NC1nightstand]

That's a fantastic start Banana congratulations! I quite fancy a group situation - as you say it's the accountability and support element isn't it.

[Leanne117]

I've been following the Juice Plus clean eating plan for a couple of months now along with taking their products.
Having struggled to keep weight off for many years on diets such as weight watchers and slimming world (I could lose weight on these diets but soon reverted to my old habits) I knew realistically that I would have to change my eating habits dramatically.
The detox was really tough, eliminating caffeine and sugar from my diet, but once I got through the detox I have not looked back. I now actually crave healthy food!! Something I never thought I would say.
I still haven't found the courage to actually weigh myself but I'm down 2-3 sizes in clothes and feeling much better.
I had suffered really badly with IBS and this has really settled down, I am sleeping better, my hair skin and nails are in much better condition and I am feeling happier in myself.
It's not about dieting, it's about changing your whole attitude to food and nutrition.
Good luck everyone. X

[PinotAndPlaydough]

Since my last post I've lost another 4lbs, I am still weighing and counting everything and since starting three weeks ago I've lost 10lbs. I would love to have lost a stone by Xmas. I had Saturday off as I went out with my sisters for a posh all you can eat brunch and unlimited prosecco. Amazingly for me I managed to go straight back to it the next day although I've had terrible cravings since then.
It's weight in day tomorrow so I'll be interested to see what's happened since having one bed day.

[Bananabreadordead]

What's everyone eating today?

For me:
Breakfast - 2 protein weetabix and semi-skimmed milk

Lunch - Quinoa, prawn and avacado salad (50g Quinoa, prawns, 1/6 of an avocado, coriander, fresh chilli, spring onions, lots of lime juice)

Dinner - Prawn stir fry with egg noodles :)

[Sunflowersmiling]

Quinoa prawn and avocado salad sounds tasty. Im going to try that for sure!

[Littlepleasures]

Been dieting for the last 35 years. Started when I was 10 stone 10 trying to get down to 9 stone 7. Am 5ft 7. Have done every diet known to man yet am now 19 stone. Getting the weight off is not the problem. It's keeping it off. With every failed diet I regained all the weight back with an extra half stone each time. . . desperate now. Knee joints struggling to take the strain but scared to diet any more as history tells me it'll just lead to weight gain in the long term.

Been reading The obesity code by Jason Fung which explains why this has happened. A combination of hormones and insulin resistance added to the huge change in eating habits and totally misleading dietary advice over the last 40 years. Not finished reading it yet, just hoping he has got some advice for those caught in that 'diet trap' like me.

A few years ago, I thought I'd found the answer in the Atkins diet. Weight melted off. Lost 4 stone in 4 months with only 3 more to go. Not to be though. Same pattern again. Regained with more besides within a year.

Recently was star pupil at NHS run active lifestyle weight management 10 week course. Lost 10 kg in 10 weeks. Do weight machines at gym, swimming, exercise bike at home, Fitbit to get 10, 000. steps in. Lost weight creeping back on again. Nearly back where I started.

I'm beginning to see obesity as an incurable disease that will compromise my health, quality of life and lifespan in the end.

Sorry to be so negative about it all but I think even the medical profession are stumped. 10 years ago, I went to my gp about help for weight loss and he told me all I needed was will power. 10 years later and 4 stone heavier, same doctor told me it was my 'genetic load.'

I had a knee replacement a few months back. At 19 stone I expected to be told that I would need to lose weight before it could be considered. Surgeon said I was just over the BMI of 40 where they deemed it safe but as I was healthy otherwise he was happy to do it. He also said it was not practical asking people to lose weight as it was so difficult. Op went great and am back to gym and long walks, 23,000 steps one day on holiday. I do worry about wearing out this new knee by being active at such a heavy weight.

I reckon I need to lose 7 stone ( down to 12 stone). Has anyone done this, without surgery, and kept the weight off for, say, at least five years? How did you do it?

[OopsDearyMe]

Hello , mee a big fatty ! I am 37 , single, semi disabled and really need to lose at least 10 stone. My situation as I expect is the same with you all is so complex. I hate the lazy,slobby connotations and that if you have medical problems with losing weight your making excuses etc.
I have two flipping conditions that both stop you losing weight, even though they are being managed I can barely lose 0.5lb a week on any diet and I only have to have a bad day say a month down the line and I'm back to the beginning again. Its true to say that being this size has its benefits. I was badly bullied and being bigger for some reason makes me feel safer, its the go to excuse for anything wrong in my life, I was also emotionally abused by my mother, that has caused me to have low self esteem and pretty much self harm using food. I emotionally eat, I am addicted to sweet foods and was raised on junk food, but watched my mums terrible obsession with her weight, where she drank 8 coffees a day and only ate a buttered roll. So I have no cooking skills, hate cooking, no will power or motivation. I have the worst tastebuds and cannot eat anything but bland foods and on top of all that I have mobility problems and chronic pain that stops me exercising.
I honestly am at a point where I am tired of diets that do nothing and can never see me being slimmer ever. That's why I have no motivation I think. I want a gastric sleeve and am now on a course that's meant to help, if it does it'll be a miracle. If not I get the sleeve and hopefully force the issue. The only thing that scares me is the excess skin, I would rather be 100st than a deflated balloon. This stops me losing weight too as, as soon as my belly gets baggy I freak and eat.
I feel like my whole life has Ben based around my body size.
So that's me.

[OopsDearyMe]

Oh I forgot to say, my problem is not portions, its calories. I have such a sweet tooth. I don't eat a lot. Quantity wise I do however eat enormous amounts of calories because I go sweet sweet my favourites white chocolate, caramels, toffees etc I also could do with meal plans that I don't have to substitute so many of the meals because they all contain spices or pepper.

[OopsDearyMe]

What makes me cross is why there is no help for you out there to stop you getting so big, I often think, when you see these incredibly big people who's houses have to have walls knocked down to he them out. Where is their help? When they were 3 or 4 stone over weight, I have been looking at my medical records and it clearly shows that every year since I was 12 I asked the GP for help with my weight after he (and I know that was dodgy anyway) grabbed my slightly bulging belly and said " getting a bit tubby aren't we?" Even though my weight was recorded and was no where near the top end of normal.

[Reiltin]

Hi everyone! I have definitely 6 stone to lose, though it should be 8! I've had most luck doing it myself, using mfp etc. Planning on starting in the new year though.

[Littlepleasures]

Oops.....The medical profession can't find a solution or "cure." It saves face to blame the obese person for laziness, greediness, lack of willpower etc. If the calorie counting, low fat, more exercise, solution offered over the last 40'years works, why have obesity levels soared throughout that time? Of course cutting back calories will work in the short term which millions of us know. It's why weight loss is invariably gained back over time that is what should be the focus of research and treatment.

[PinotAndPlaydough]

It's so incredibly hard isn't it. I paid privately for weight loss surgery but it was a rushed decision and I didn't really know what I was getting my self into. It initially worked well and I lost 6st but now I've developed problems and when. I've asked my GP for help they have just said eat less and do more, which I am and it's working a bit BUT it is so so hard. I'm addicted to food and it's all I think about and that's what I need help with. It's not like you can just stop eating, it's like telling a heroin addict that they have to take a tiny bit each day but no more, it's almost impossible.
Any way I'm rambling, I'm determined to loss this weight but it's by far the hardest thing I've ever done and I'm so worried about maintaining the loss. Still one stone down seven to go, it's a start.

[ShuttyTown]

I've just discovered this thread after doing a search for people with a lot to lose. Anyone doing well losing?