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No one has noticed - what does this mean

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Revealall · 20/10/2016 17:29

So normally the next thing other women say after hello is - "nice hair/dress/ shoes" or "you've lost weight". It's a thing isn't it. I was doing a bit of exercise and loss less than half a stone before the summer ( was 12 stone and a bit) and everyone was all over themselves telling me how well I was doing

For the last month I have been cutting out all the crap ( of which there was a lot), low carbing and keeping up the exercise. I have lost nearly a stone.
No one has noticed or said anything.

I'm not thin ( just under 11 stone now and short) so I don't look ill or anything. I'm still in the same clothes but they fit better and I can get into some old ones again.

I'm getting a bit " is it worth it" as I would dearly love a bit of cake and wine. How do I keep motivated.

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bubblyone · 29/10/2016 10:17

Revealall - I don't know what I am! I suppose feeling my clothes fit differently etc does make some kind of restriction thing click. How are yours fitting? Any other changes like the feeling of your waist? I read yesterday that one needs to lose quite a lot before people notice. Sigh.

Hard to even know how much more to go for me. I suppose that's part of it - if people were saying something I'd kind of know if I'd made a noticeable dent! Maybe 7-10lbs? Which isn't much in the grand scheme of things, but not pounds that whizz off when you're already down 20 or so and under 5ft...

FluffyFluffster · 30/10/2016 07:57

Take photos so you can see your own progress. I get that it's nice to have external validation, but let the pictures be the proof you need. You've made an awesome effort so you should be proud of yourself!!

bubblyone · 30/10/2016 09:54

www.today.com/health/study-shows-how-much-weight-you-need-lose-look-more-t60261

Need to lose a fair bit for people to notice!

Although two people have said it this week. Think I've had a "whoosh" because I think I look suddenly leaner too. Photos definitely help, especially comparing to March where I was contemplating doing something...but didn't. Have to say there were lots of interval photos where clothes felt looser etc but I still couldn't actually see much difference. Measurements were good too.

Richardhun · 01/11/2016 09:34

My friend lost a lot of weight, no one noticed until she lost 4 stone, then she got comments everyday.

It was a bit odd.

Revealall · 01/11/2016 17:47

Bubbly- interesting link. I also wonder if people don't comment if they think you are going to put it all back on. I know I haven't said much to colleagues at work who lose weight but I know are the first ones into the cakes and sweets normally.
The two friends I had who lost lots of weight and have kept it off were propbably the two I doubted most.

Half term has been a disaster! I need to get back in the game.

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roarfeckingroar · 01/11/2016 17:50

Totally odd the point but after what a PP said about only her dad noticing
... I'm not overweight at all - 5"4 and 8 stone 10ish with lots of muscle but every time I see my dad he makes a fuss over me for being too thin just because he knows it makes me feel great. He doesn't know I know and I love him dearly.

amusedbush · 10/11/2016 11:37

People can be odd about weight loss, I don’t know if it’s jealousy or if our view of a healthy size is just totally skewed. A few years ago I went from 15st 10lbs to 12st 10lbs, which is not at all “thin” on my 5’ 4 frame.

People lost their shit about how thin I was and how I must be near my goal weight, I shouldn’t lose any more or I’d be too skinny Confused

I’m now even heavier than my previous top weight and people keep saying that I look great and not to worry! ShockConfused

lisaneedsarest · 10/11/2016 11:47

I never comment on people's weight after having a family member with an eating disorder.
Also it's likely the time of year for two reasons, one it's colder so you have more layers on and two people rush about more and spend less time standing around chatting so will not pay as much attention to others.
Don't be disheartened, you've done great!

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