Still feel as if I look the same

[Rhinosaurus]

I have lost almost three stone on SW, since March. Everybody comments on how much weight I have lost as I was a definite Apple shape and have lost a lot around my midriff and tummy and am now in size 14/16 instead of 18/20z

My problem is I look in the mirror and still see an extremely overweight person, and still wear baggy clothes to cover up, I don't feel confident enough to wear tighter clothes.

I have got a party to attend in November and all my friends are saying wear an LBD (or rather a medium one!) but the though of it fills me with horror!

I just cannot see the weight loss and still feel fat! Does anyone else who has lost a bit feel like this?

I think it takes your brain longer to catch up and I think others will always notice a weight loss before you notice it yourself but maybe that's just me.

Have you got any photos recently you can compare with old ones? That's helped me before. Trying on old clothes to, just to see how big they've got is interesting too!

This is a real thing - it's called a mind map and your brain takes a while to readjust. It's also worth really thinking hard about any psychological stuff you've got with regards to weight.

I used my weight as a "cloak of invisibility" so that I could blame my weight on people not talking to me/listening to what I had to say/etc. I would tell myself I wasn't worth as much as a thin person, ugh. It was toxic. I really had to release those emotions while the weight was coming off and people started noticing it.

It's still a work in progress for me. Sometimes I will look in the mirror and go, "wow, I look really slim" but most of the time I feel like I look the same. I think another subconscious expectation I had was that I would lose weight and look like a different person. Nope. I still look like me; I still have the same body shape overall, I'm just smaller. My stretchmarks are still there, my legs are still stumpy, etc. I can accept all that, I just need to pay attention to subconscious thought patterns. Meditation has helped with that enormously.

Yes!
I feel the same and wonder why people keep going on about how different i look, then i look at old photos of when i was much bigger but strangely i also don't remember looking that big!
Its weird!

When you walk in front of a mirror, you see what you expect to see, not what is truly there.

Many anorexics, if asked to draw around their skin and bone outline, draw a fat person.

Many fat people cannot see the size they truly are (hence them crashing into me today)

You have two choices :
try for an unexpected reflection
or go for the infallible waistband test
you can either put on and zip up those pre children jeans
or you cannot