I know I need to change

[ImaginingDragons]

I am obese, I need to lose about 4 stone, but even 1 stone would make me happier. I think about my weigh a lot - every day. I know I am at risk of illness, I have many increased risk factors for diabetes apart from my weight. I attended an annual event at the weekend and can remember thinking last year 'I will be thinner this time next year', but I am even heavier. I have tried many diets, have lost weight in the past but put it back on plus more. Every morning I wake up thinking 'today's the day I will start', but I just eat more as the day goes on. I work in the evening, so tend to eat my evening meal around 6pm, then when I come home at 11pm I start to binge and stay up to about 2-3am, I am hungry but just eat crap.

I want to be a different person - no-one has every mentioned my weight but I am sure people are thinking it. I love nice clothes, jewellery, I want to be fitter, sexier, healthier. I am at the limit of most of my clothes fitting, lots of things that don't fit. I know that there are so many positives to losing weight and the only person that can control what goes in my mouth is me, but it just doesn't happen.

I don't really know why I am writing this, maybe I need a kick up the backside or just someone to be accountable to... I don't know but it feels good to write it down.

Thank you for reading x

I empathise. I think you'll reach a point soon where you decide "that's it!" Except this time you'll actually do something about it. You need to be in the right frame of mind. You're heading that way otherwise you wouldn't be posting on here. Good luck x

You are not alone.
I'm always starting a diet then giving up. I started the recent bootcamp promptly lost 4lbs. Got sick of all the eggs & meat & have put on 9 fucking lbs going binge crazy. Ughhhh hate myself so much. I think any diet works if you can stick to it
Good luck

Losing weight is hard. If you've dieted before, then you have learnt that a) diets are hard and b) ultimately they don't work because you can't stick to them long term. So it's not surprising that you don't feel keen on starting another one!

It's no good just starting another crash diet. Just choose some small changes you think you can stick to, and start with those. Then if you're doing well you can tweak or add to them later. Take it slooowly and don't expect major weight loss in a short time. Be kind to yourself if you have a bad day (or week!) and just carry on after. It's the beating yourself up which makes you think 'Oh what's the point anyway? I'm rubbish at this. I'll never succeed. Might as well go and stuff myself with cake!'

Almost any positive changes will make a difference. It depends what your downfalls are. Have fizzy water instead of sugary drinks? Only have fruit as a snack? Key thing is, don't go over the top and make too many rules or too impossible ones!

Well dh and I have done a lifestyle change breakfast lunch dinner no snacks, exercise 30 mins 5 days a week. A glass of wine or two on Friday night and that's it. Both of us have lost one st ten lbs each and it's not been a trial or diet just changed for good. It's doable.

That's good going Meg. Sounds like a very sensible plan too.