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feeling a bit deflated

31 replies

RavioliOnToast · 18/04/2015 09:33

It's been almost 2 weeks since I decided to 'change my life'. I signed u to the gym and sorted out healthier eating.

two weeks ago, I weighed 15st 3 Sad
today, I weigh 15st 6 and a half.

What the fuck Sad
I feel really deflated and feel like what's the point.

today for breakfast I've had 2 weetabix (lidl version though) with semi skimmed milk and 2tsp powder sweetener.

for lunch I was thinking either tuna pasta, with brown pasta, light mayo and sweetcorn or swap pasta for a jacket potato.

for tea I was thinking chicken breast, rice and veg.

is this too much? I've also got a chicken breast in the oven to snack on today, or maybe fr dinner I could have just rice and a load of veg mixed in, with sweet chilli sauce and some fruit? I don't know, I'm Crap with the diet side of anything.

I'm tempted to fuck it all off this weekend, comfort eat and starting Monday, get back into 30 day shred and healthy eating. But I don't want to do that :(

someone please help, criticise me!!!

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mrswhiskers · 18/04/2015 18:53

Are you weighing your portions of food and counting the calories accurately?
how many calories a day are you aiming for?
The most common reason for not losing weight is under estimating calories consumed and over estimating calories burned.
My Fitness Pal is a useful site and app for calorie counting.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 18/04/2015 18:59

Are you actually calorie counting? You need to monitor what you are eating a bit better. It's not about what you eat it's about how much really.

sebsmummy1 · 18/04/2015 19:04

What diet are you doing? All I can tell you is I started WW last week. Decided to do pro points and was shocked at how many 'points' things like chicken and jacket potato are. It's turned my whole concept of healthy eating on my head, my portion sizes have decreased dramatically and 4.5lb off this week.

HubrisNemesis · 18/04/2015 19:05

Is that typical of what you've eaten during the two weeks you've been trying to eat healthily? It's hard to know what's stopped weight loss without knowing exact portion sizes and how active you are. I ate very good food when I was overweight - I'm not one for junk - but I ate far too much of it.

Also, what time of the month of it is it for you? I can gain and lose between five and seven pounds around my period. Might that be masking your loss?

OftheTwilighttheDarkness · 18/04/2015 19:11

Have you worked out what your total daily energy expenditure (TDEE) is? You can find calculators online. Depending on your height / weight etc it may be much lower than you expect. Mine is around 1600 calories per day.

As has been said above it is really easy to underestimate calories consumed and burned off. My fitness pal is really good for tracking this. I have lost 2 stone this year doing the 5:2 diet. I find it easier to get a weekly calorie deficit doing this than trying to stick to 1200 calories each day.

OftheTwilighttheDarkness · 18/04/2015 19:13

Your meals do sound a bit carby. I would not eat rice and pasta in the same day. Veg soup is your friend.

DharmaBums · 18/04/2015 19:25

First well done on changing your life...it's a first step and I always say it didn't take two weeks to put the weight on, so it won't all come off in two weeks either.

I'm going through the same process and have about 3 stone to lose.

IMO, and I'm not an expert, it sounds really carb heavy. Every meal is carb-based. As others have said try carbs at lunch at breakfast and fill up on protein and veg the rest of the time. Measure everything and use my fitness pal to see how many calories you're consuming. Potatoes, cereal and rice are quite calorific.

I've also been told (not sure if this is true though), that once you start working out, especially using weights, etc, that the scales will show you that you are heavier. The best way to judge weight loss if you are working out is your clothes.

Good luck OP!

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RavioliOnToast · 18/04/2015 21:01

I use mfp and weigh everything, the scales are on the bench ready for every meal, I ended up just eating breakfast today after feeling like a failure, I.know not eating isn't the answer either but I just felt like I should be punished a bit. for now I'm going to have 2 meal replacement shakes a day to lower my appetite so it takes me less to get full. My downfall seems to be having a decent dinner/tea, then snacking on grapes, apples, oranges etc because I'm not full with the smaller portion sizes. My tdee is 1200, I've stuck to this every day bar one when I had a mini meltdown due to lack.of sleep and went on a total binge. We are at mil's tomorrow, probably won't do well tomorrow either, but have everything in ready for Monday.

example of my meal.plan next week is:
Breakfast: shake
snack: muller light or carrots and houmous
dinner: shake
snack: smoothie
tea: something balanced, low fat, chicken salad or jacket potato etc
snack: plain popcorn or muller light

what does this sound like?
I will drink green tea 2-3 times a day also, and lots of water.

It took me around 2 hours to plan this for two weeks and do an online shop for it all so a lot of planning and determination is there but I don't really know whether it's all the right stuff?

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aintnothinbutagstring · 18/04/2015 21:34

I think OP, with weight loss, you just need to be patient and persistant. Weight loss is boring and it takes time, you have to be in it for the long game. Try low carb or paleo for quicker initial weight loss, but even these diets require adhering to for the long term. Don't weigh yourself too much, if at all, weight is dependant on so many things. Use a tape measure instead to measure key areas like waist, hips, thighs. Look for signs in the mirror that you're losing weight rather than the scales.

aintnothinbutagstring · 18/04/2015 21:37

Be careful of low fat foods like muller light as it will be higher in added sugar. A full fat natural yoghurt would be better but not everyone can tolerate the taste of it.

TheCowThatLaughs · 18/04/2015 21:52

Are you either ovulating, pre-menstrual, or on your period? Weight can fluctuate a fair bit at these times!!

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RavioliOnToast · 18/04/2015 22:12

not sure about totm etc, only had one period since DD2 born and prior to pregnancy I always had erratic periods that dint have much of a pattern. I can eat natural yoghurt with cinnamon in? would natural yoghurt and sweetener be better? or avoid sweeteners too?

sorry for all the questions, I need a bit of guidance, I'm really rubbish at diets and knowing what's right and wrong foods

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TalkinPeace · 18/04/2015 22:30

(a) cut out the snacks - you do not need them - you will not starve as you have 10,000 calories in reserve across the back of your hips

(b) how long did it take you to put on the weight? - losing it for ever will take around the same amount of time

(c) ignore the scales - measure with a tape measure and take pictures

(d) tone, exercise, tone, exercise : toned muscle is smaller than flab Smile

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 18/04/2015 22:35

I don't think your TDEE can be 1200. Maybe your basal metabolic rate? It's important to get the figures right.

juneybean · 18/04/2015 22:37

What mfp tells you to eat to lose 2 lbs a week is not your tdee. Try eating 1600 and I imagine you'll lose steadily.

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RavioliOnToast · 18/04/2015 22:51

Is tdee the figure to maintain on mfp? I have chosen to lose 2lbs per week and that's where the 1200 came from

it initially stemmed from having dd1 but then I lost quite a lot of weight, I've out half a stone on since having DD2 and about a.stone before that while I gained over about 8 months when I got comfortable with my now husband.

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TalkinPeace · 18/04/2015 22:57

2lb per week is NOT sustainable
set MFP for 1 lb max
that is still 4 stone in a year

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 18/04/2015 22:59

Honestly 1200 is not sustainable at all

TalkinPeace · 18/04/2015 23:02

1200 is sustainable if you are teeny tiny and slim
BUT
if your TDEE is over 1800 then its a recipe for failure

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RavioliOnToast · 19/04/2015 07:10

I'll have a play around now and see how I change it and I'll lower it to lose 1lb per week, see if that changes the calorie amount Smile

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RavioliOnToast · 19/04/2015 07:14

I've changed it to 1lb loss a week, it's upped my cals to 1640. I've put on that I'm sedentary, I walk all over with th pram and am starting 30 day shred again Monday, and I go to the gym 2-3 times a week which I've never done before. the lady at the gym took my inches 2 weeks ago and they aren't getting done for another 6 weeks now along with my weight, but when I got on the scales yesterday it was a huge shock that I'd gained 3lbs Sad I'm starting to panic about it.

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EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 19/04/2015 08:01

Ok, don't panic. We're the conditions the same when you weighed yourself? Daily fluctuations can be huge. If I were you I would add in half your exercise and try to eat those calories too, but only the extra exercise you do, not all the walking.

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RavioliOnToast · 19/04/2015 16:41

I got weighed at the gym, and then at home the 2nd time. the first time was 8pm, the second was first thing on a morning.

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Sallycinnamum · 19/04/2015 16:46

I started WW online two weeks ago and I echo sebsmummy, I was really shocked how mych I have been consuming.

It's easy to see where this unwanted stone has sprung from.

I've been dubious in the past as to the effectiveness of WW but I've lost 4lbs so far.

TalkinPeace · 19/04/2015 16:49

ravioli
weighing times make a huge difference
a wee and a poo add up to over 2lb ; let alone the fasted state of early morning
I ONLY count the weight on a Friday morning after a healthy week before any food.
Year in, year out it holds steady
during the week I fluctuate by up to 4lb because of meals and exercise and booze
but its fluctuation, not gain