Need some help please and a (nice) kick up the bum to lose weight.

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Hi, not sure how to start this... Sorry if this doesn't make sense or if I'm rambling on and on.

I need to lose weight and it's got to the point where I don't go shopping often because I can't find anything that fits and isn't matronly or in lurid bright colours. Its not about the shopping really, I just hate feeling like a failure where nothing fits and constantly worrying about if people are thinking this is why she is fat. I mean on public transport, if I have a sandwich or a packet of crisps or an orange, generally eating anything on the train seems to ellicit hate from other passengers.- I know it's probably my imagination, but I'd love to have one day where I don't worry about my weight and how I look.

It doesn't help that my parents - my mother is so cruel and harsh. I know she is trying to care but critising me everytime I go downstairs of eating or speaking horribly about me just makes me feel shittier. There isn't anything to gorge on at home, but whenever she sees me, she just goes on about my weight, how disgusting I am, how I will never be able to get a job or married etc. I still live at home, it's too expensive for me to move out at the moment and truth is I'd worry about my parents health.
My father's ill at the moment and has recently been admitted to hospital for two weeks , in the past he had major surgery and now has been diagnosed with another illness.

Anyway, the reason why I started this thread is that I went to the doctors this morning to get some medicine for this horrid cough I've had. I hadn't seen my doctor for years, and so she did a height and weight check.

I'm 103kg with a BMI of 34 . So that's not overweight but in the obese catergory. I know BMI doesn't differentiate between fat and muscle, but it means that I'm really unhealthy for my height. I should add that I'm in my early 20's. I'm in shock. I didn't know that's how big I was, seeing it in numbers just clarifies it for me

I just need advice for steps to take next and some reassurance that I can do it. Have you lost a lot of weight, how long does it take. Could you point me towards any other threads please

Thank you. I'll leave it here for now... sorry for the essay.

Well done for facing up to the problem. Because it is a problem and you do need to lose the weight for your health. Can I suggest the 5:2 threads? You can learn absolutely all you need from the threads and you can start tomorrow and it works! Come join us.

I am totally the same as you, early 20's 5ft 2' and I weigh 83kg which makes my BMI 32.8 so an obese :(

I had a baby a few months ago and lost a good amount of weight during pregnancy almost 10kg by cutting out sugar and I felt the healthiest ever and felt amazing after she was born as I looked really slim a few day after giving birth weighed less than I had done for a long time. But the the past few months all I have done it eat and eat.

I feel so frumpy which is not good in your 20's. I needy mouth stitched up lol

You can pm me if you need a hand to hold while we both shift our weight

Thank you so much for replying, really appreciate your advice.
I'll have a look at the 5.2 thread now. But my main problem is sticking to my decision and maintaining the weight loss. Hopefully if I post on the threads I'd feel less likely to back out.

Yes, I just hate feeling frumpy, Retromama and I know I can do something about it. I completely understand, I cut out sugar a few months back and I lost a stone but I've put more on.
Thank you, I'd love any tips you can give and we can motivate each other as we lose the weight!

It might be worth trying MyFitnessPal. I've just joined and am finding it really helpful with letting me know when it's time to stop eating.

I am always hungry can never fill up. I think it's just greed but then sometimes I wonder if maybe it's a thyroid problem but that's excuses lol before pregnancy I would eat and feel full maybe hormones are still out of whack.

Am so lazy and have no motivation, I promised myself that I would lose weight for myself to feel happy. I am not going to set a goal target because if I don't reach it then I will feel crap and feel that everything I am doing is pointless so I think I will just weigh myself once month and remove the scales from the bathroom so if I do lose weight I will see larger results rather than weighing every day.

If the rain would do one I would go out walks but it's always freezing !

Hi! Spent some time thinking last night and this morning woke up motivated to change. I know its only the first day, but I feel a lot better about myself already .

Thanks whothehellknows, I have a similar app on my phone so I've used that to track what I'm eating and it counts the steps I take.

I had a look at the 5.2 threads and the concept of feasting and fasting isn't for me at the moment. I reckon I would over indulge on the feast days and end up eating more. I'll give a go if my weight loss drops once I get settled in a routine.

Yes I'm not weighing myself everyday, because I know I will obsess over it. I'm thinking of weighing in every fortnight or weekly, just to check in. It wasn't too cold today where I live so I walked for 30 minutes and I'm going to the shops on the weekend to get a dvd that I can do at home. It's just finding the time and making sure the house is empty before I bound around the living room! haha. We can do it! You might be dehydrated Retromama, sometimes I feel hungry after I had a meal, a big glass of water makes me full.