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I have lost all motivation after the weight stopped falling off

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Hurr1cane · 04/03/2015 04:48

Just that really.

I was 11 stone 1, worked hard, got down to 9 stone 13

Then the next couple of weeks it was 9 stone 12.5, 9 stone 13 and 10 stone randomly. Nothing else off.

T 25 is boring me. I feel tired and sore all the time and my stomach is in that much pain that I don't want to even move.

I've been eating healthy, dropped calories when I stopped losing, but nothing helped, my measurements are the same and my weight is the same and photos are the same and I just feel and look fat.

Tried doing the T25 today but just was so bored of his voice that eventually I just turned it off.

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TalkinPeace · 04/03/2015 21:12

What is your current TDEE?
What is your TDEE at happy weight
you probably need to drop your portions a tad more
as exercise is only about 10% of weight loss

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Hurr1cane · 04/03/2015 21:58

I had dropped and dropped my portions until I was eating 400 calories a day. I'm 5"7 and 9 stone 12. I want to be 9 stone 4 or 5.

I'm taking a break this week because I'm shattered with it all

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TalkinPeace · 04/03/2015 22:00

That does not make sense.
On 400 a day you'd be losing weight FAST.

I suspect your portion measurements are out.
Have you been using MFP and an accurate set of scales?

On the other hand, if you can manage on 400 in a day, have a go at 5:2 as it might be the trigger to get you where you want to be.

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 09:43

Portion sizes weren't out. It says just how many calories are in what I was eating. Weight loss just stopped dead. Never happened before.

I usually do the 5:2 when I'm at the weight I want to be at to maintain

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WowOoo · 05/03/2015 10:06

Have you tried doing weights for toning? I feel better about my wobbly bits now that are not quite so wobbly. Also after a short time you really do see and feel the difference. I feel stronger too.

Might be worth doing it to stop you obsessing about those pounds you want to shift. Smile You'll get there.

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 10:20

No I haven't got any weights and can't really afford any right now... But I carry around my disabled, very tall 8 year old if that counts as weight lifting Grin. I'm going to start again on Monday I think and just have a weekend off for myself.

I started it all to take my mind off my miscarriage and as soon as it stopped working my head just went straight back to it all and now I feel horribly down again :(

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WowOoo · 05/03/2015 10:28

Lifting an 8 year old is a workout! Hold that stomach tight to support your back and strengthen your tum. Yes, have a weekend off. Sounds like you need a break.

You can fill up empty plastic bottles of water or pop with water or even sand to make temporary weights. They are harder to hold though and look daft, but who's looking?!
Have a good weekend Flowers

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 11:08

Good idea! I'll do that! No ones looking, I don't go to the gym I don't have the self confidence Grin

I know I don't NEED to lose more weight as I'm bang in the middle of my BMI but my happy weight is 9 stone 5. Im due on tomorrow as well which isn't helping with the motivation as my stomach is killing me!

Be the first one since the miscarriage as well Sad is it weird to find that really sad? I just want to either be skinny or pregnant right now.

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StrikesMatches · 05/03/2015 11:28

If you're surviving on 400 cals a day then your body is likely gone into starvation mode. I have lost 4 stone in the last 18 months with a calorie intake of 1200 per day. If you're starving it's no wonder you're shattered and losing interest!

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 11:52

Strikes from what I've read starvation mode doesn't exist. I can't really eat much more than 600 calories healthily. the stuff I like eating apart from chocolate and wine doesn't even have many calories. I can't eat stuff like rice and potatoes or break because it makes me throw up. So when I cut those out it doesn't leave many calories haha

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Quitelikely · 05/03/2015 11:59

What is the point in eating 400 cals per day? It's not sustainable and you are setting yourself up for failure.

At 5ft 7 you must be quite slim.

Be happy with what you have achieved so far or see it this way if you lose a 1lb a month in a few months you will have met your target.

StrikesMatches · 05/03/2015 12:03

Really? I haven't read that much so maybe what I've seen is out of date, although I have read that 1200 is the lower limit for healthy weight loss. I would absolutely struggle on 400 calories per day, although now that I'm used to 1200, I find I don't always get to 1600, which is my recommended intake.

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 12:05

Quite likely. Basically I can eat 600, that's the most I managed using MFP when cutting out chocolate and wine.

I can only eat small meals because my stomach isn't great, and I don't eat meat or fish and try to stay away from eggs and dairy as much as possible.

I also don't have much time so tend to eat 'on the hop' so I'll grab something like a salad or a soup and shove it down then go.

My little boy is disabled and can't feed himself so I cook for him and then feed him and then can leave him 5 minutes while I clean up and even that's dodgy.

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 12:20

So all the weight I put on was from chocolate and wine over christmas Grin then much much much too much chocolate and lying down when I was sick.

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 12:56

So all the weight I put on was from chocolate and wine over christmas Grin then much much much too much chocolate and lying down when I was sick.

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 13:06

No idea why that posted twice half an hour apart! Stupid phone.

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Quitelikely · 05/03/2015 13:12

I wonder if your thyroid needs checking.

Having said that you must be a size 8-10 at your height??

reup · 05/03/2015 13:26

If you are due on you could be retaining water which would put on a few pounds.

Do you eat any protein?

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 15:45

I'm a size 12 bottoms 10 top. Never been under 12 bottoms even when I was under weight because of the massive hip bones Grin

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 15:46

Not a vast amount of protein no. I take multi vitamins because I'm aware my diet is quite shit.

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Hurr1cane · 05/03/2015 18:54

It might be just period weight. I don't want period weight though Sad I don't want my period. Bloody hard at the moment.

DS is getting constantly hurt by another child at school, I thought it was someone with very severe learning disabilities and that he was just getting in the other childs space, but I visited school today, and no. The child is high functioning and taking it upon himself to 'discipline' DS every time he stands up or talks, and from what I saw, none of this behaviour is being checked by any member of staff. Today I witnessed:

1 punch,
1 kick
2 bites
1 hard push
And 1 grab, nipping both arms hard for 2 minutes before I couldn't hold back and intervened by pulling DS away.

Members of staff led me to believe that the injuries DS was getting was due to 'rough housing' between boys. Which I did witness with other children, them pushing DS gently and DS laughing etc. But this child was not rough housing, I've never seen aggression like it and I run an autism group.

So now I want to pull him out of school.

today I also saw my friend with her newborn baby for the first time, she didn't know I had a miscarriage as has not been to school because of giving birth etc and went on and on about how having a baby sister was the making of her son and how DS would definitely benefit from it as well and she knows how good a mum I am etc etc. So I had to smile and pretend it was all fine and we were sort of half heartedly trying by stopping contraception. But really I wanted to say "stop it please, I lost my baby"

And DP is working tomorrow night while DS is at his dad's so I'm alone with my thoughts and I don't want to be.

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Alwaysbeenwrong · 05/03/2015 19:07

Sounds like you're having a shit time. Cut yourself some slack over the weight loss. You should be spoiling yourself right now Thanks

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