Motivation the harsh way

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Has anyone got any proper harsh ways of motivating themselves to shed the flab? I've just been reading threads and toying with the idea of going back to Sw. Thought I'd brave the scales and weighed in at 13 stone 11. Mahoosive. Thing is I feel.... a bit numb about it all. Like I want to lose the weight but I can't really be arsed? I know that sounds really bad and I do get fed up with not looking good in clothes but somehow I don't think it's enough. I've seen AWFUL pics of me recently, one taken from the side which was a real corker but even that's not enough to spur me on. Maybe I need to break a chair or something? Or for my husband to tell me he thinks I'm a big fat Heffer and he doesn't want to shag me anymore?

It can be done easily though. I lost 3 stone on the PaulMackenna Way Of Eating. There's a good support thread on here.

It involves no calorie counting or weighing of food or eating mucky 'slimming' low fat food.

All you have to do is change a few bad habits so it's WHEN you eat, HOW you eat (that's the key)!!, WHY and WHERE!

Thanks, to be honest I didn't find it THAT hard last time, on SW. Felt a bit deprived every now and again but on the whole I liked the plan. I'm sure I'd be the same again. I don't know- it's just I feel quite apathetic about the whole thing and wish I didn't. I wish I had a burning desire and motivation to get this weight off but I don't. Why??

Looking at a full-length mirror naked side ways on keeps me at it. Also I've bought all new smaller clothes and if they start feeling tight I get back on it!

You have to want it and I get how you feel, it took me the whole of January to get into the right frame of mind. I'm now there and have lost a stone in 5 weeks.

The last straw was a photo I took of myself and it opened my eyes, also I really don't want to be the fat mummy at the school gate. I have deliberately not bought any new clothes and have dressed frumpy, when I've lost another stone I'll buy myself something then.

The mirror thing is a good idea. Years ago, before I lost weight and put most of it back on, I changed the furniture around in my bedroom. The next morning I was sat on the edge of my bed in bra and knickers drying my hair and caught sight of myself in the mirror! I remember now the shock of realising what my stomach looked like when I was siting down. Rolls of fat. I think I detach myself away from reality and just crack on and bury my head on the sand. I don't weigh that much less now than I did then, may try the mirror shock treatment. Thanks you've reminded me of that one!

Thanks popcorn. You're doing so well! Did you take a deliberately unflattering photo?

I think I kid myself I'm not that big cos there's people bigger than me out there. But there always will be if you look hard enough?! I think I normalise it in my head. But I weigh nearly 14 stone!

I went to buy a new bra at M&S the other day. Mirrors everywhere, and not at all flattering.

Im going to go again next week and have a good old look from all angles, so I can remind myself how crap I look carrying this weight.

I started losing weight in January v v motivated but its tailed off massively. I'm still losing it at the rate I want but I'm rather unenthusiastic.

Perhaps the key is to find some healthy recipes you love and get some exercise buddies so its a more natural progression rather than "I should lose weight"?

I just googled "slimming world" + whatever meals we like as a family- eg carbonara.

Having quick, hassle free snacks are essential too.

And I started couch to 5k (on a break due to injury but starting again tonight) I actually surprised myself that I enjoyed it enough to miss it when I hurt myself. I'd rather swim but harder to fit in family schedule right now.

I also made a chart that is taped onto my kitchen cupboard. Not sure if its having an effect on day to day meals but it certainly halts binges seeing the line going down.

Thanks both. Yes like the idea of natural progression- making it part of your life that fits in as opposed to starting something that you'll never stick to. As I said I did like SW last time as the recipes were good and we could all eat the food.

I look crap with this weight on me- I know I do. I don't carry it particularly well even though I'm tall. I'm all belly and chins! I just try not to think about it most of the time. Maybe I need to keep reminding myself? Maybe I should take a really bad bra and and knickers shot on my phone and have it as my screen saver!! Haha imagine people seeing that!

Yep I took a picture in just bra and pants and posted it on a secret Facebook group, I take the same picture every Monday and you can see a difference with the stone I've lost already

I've got the easiest crunch exercise in the world for the belly activating the abs. if you're interested Popcorn

What's that? I hate crunches but will do them if it gets rid of this horrible flab!

No you'll love this one I promise!!

1. Lie on a firm base or mattress (I do this in bed 3 times in the evening and 3 times in the morning).

1. with arms by your sides S L O W L Y to the count of 6 raise your shoulders up for approx. 6 c.m. hold for the count of 6 and lower for 6. (KEEPING YOUR HEAD IN LINE WITH YOUR SPINE) not poking forward or leaving it behind.

That's it it helps you sleep too. When you want to add to the difficulty raise your arms too behind your head.

It activates your muscles you can feel it working , even through the night so it's using up calories when you sleep .

Oh god I've just taken photos of me in gym leggings and sports bra- couldn't quite face knickers and bra. AWFUL. I did from the front and the side. The side one was hideous. My belly is massive, and it's bigger than my boobs. And I've got big boobs! I'm going to keep the photos on my phone and try and look at them everyday to remind me why I want to lose this fat.