You don't need to lose any more weight now...do you?

[ApocalypseNowt]

Argh!

Just need to vent really. After having 2 DC I decided it was time to do something about those extra pounds several stone I was carrying so I joined SW. I have lost 3 stone and am within a few pounds of my target.

People have obviously noticed my weight loss and comment on it. I have no problem with this...most are of the 'you look good' variety and I can deal with that! But what's annoying me is quite a few people are following this up with "....but you don't need to lose anymore now do you?".

Erm, actually yes I do. My original target is at the very top of my healthy range - my ideal weight would mean losing another stone / stone and a half.

I look much better than I did but i'm not wasting away by any stretch of the imagination. For reference i am 5'6" and weigh 11 stone 3lb at the moment.

Does anyone else find this happening to them? What response do you use? It's starting to get on my nerves!

I think these people are either being kind or they are diet saboteurs who don't want you to show them up. I'd just explain to them that you're aiming for the middle of your healthy BMI. Add something self-depreciating like "to give me room for Christmas!" if you need to soften the situation. Congratulations by the way! I'm 5' 7", currently just under 12 stone and aiming for just under 10, I'd love to be where you are now but I wouldn't be stopping either.

Thank you!

Yes around 10st is where I'd really like to be (and WILL be one day).

I think part of it is i've been overweight for quite some time so probably look comparatively "skinny" to what I was.

Well done you, very envious. Do what you want you feel is right for you, .....it is your body... Could they be jealous?

Maybe? I don't think so though.

One girl is very skinny and a bit funny about food and i sort of get the 'i might be encroaching on her territory' kind of vibe but everyone else....dunno...it's just weird and very annoying.

Self-deprecating! Much loling here about depreciating oneself! Anyhow...

Apocalypse I want to be under 10 just to be in single figures, I'm quite happy to be 9 stone 13 3/4 lbs! I was always under 9 1/2 but I'm not sure it'll be that flattering on the face at this advanced age. It's funny isn't it? You always think of yourself just having put on some weight but new people who meet you just think they've met an overweight person. Time to sort that one out!

I've lost nearly 5 stone and people started saying I should stop when I'd lost 3! I still need to lose another 2.5 to get my BMI to the top end of the healthy range. I think people's perceptions of weight are skewed these days. I am still obese, but I look a lot better than I used to and am relatively slim compared to a lot of people, so some people seem to think I have done enough and should stop.

In your case OP, some people may be jealous, but most people are probably just thinking you look great and can't visualise what you would look like at your ideal weight.

Just smile sweetly and do what you think is best. Good luck!

I've had the same thing from my mother - have lost just over three stone since the start of the summer, another stone and nine pounds to get to the top end of a healthy BMI, so again, by no means wasting away. In her case, I think it's a completely unconscious refusal to admit I was dangerously overweight before, because it (rightly) reflects on my childhood upbringing and her own unhealthy attitude to food.

Was just coming on to post the same (5ft6 now 10st 12 having lost 2st 11). I'm still a stone off target & I'm also finding the constant comments partly lovely but also very annoying now! Just today I had "you'll waste away if you lose anymore" from my mum who is 5ft5 & 8 stone!!! I know we shouldn't moan about being complimented but literally every day people commenting does feel quite uncomfortable after a while (I'm even getting sick of the lovely ones ). I do think people are so used to seeing you a certain size that being significantly smaller does skew their reality as if they met me for the first time I can guarantee they certainly wouldn't describe me as being thin

Wow, we're exactly the same height and weight and I've lost almost 3 stone since giving birth. Are you me?!
Our BMI is 25, so still (just) overweight and like you I'm aiming to lose more. I'd love to be 10 stone by Christmas...

I've had this too, and from someone I've only ever chatted to casually at the school gate suddenly I'm being lectured for being too thin
I'm not too thin I have lost six stone this year but am still two stone off the top end of a healthy bmi weight and its none of their business anyway.
I can't imagine them (or anyone) lecturing someone for getting too fat but it's ok the other way round. I kept trying to laugh it off and be polite to the stranger but she was so emphatic I needed to eat something. I'm doing sw I eat loads (probably too much or I'd shifted the last of it by now) it's taken 40 weeks so I'm not rushing and I'm using jillian Michaels DVDs so I am a damn sight fitter but I didn't expect to have to justify myself to randoms.
Sorry a tad ranty there but I feel better for venting!

Yes the rant made me feel better too!

I'm still definitely a size 14 which is a vast improvement but i'm in no danger of wasting away just yet!

Well done on your weight loss Corneliusmurphy - six stone is amazing

Well done on the great weight loss-v impressive.

Do you think the people might just be trying to compliment you? Sometimes it can be awkward saying 'have you lost weight' so they might follow it up with a 'not that you need to' type statement incase they are offending you.
I can be a bit clumsy at times, perhaps they are similar?

Maybe TheEnchantedForest - I hadn't thought of that but yes agree maybe they are just chatting and wording it poorly.

I think it's the "..do you?" on the end that bugs me because then i either have to agree (which i don't) or disagree and feel compelled to explain my weight loss in more detail than i planned to or they actually want know

I think, as a society, we have lost sight of healthy weight so it is a shock to realise what that actually looks like.