Help keep me motivated please! Need to lose 1.5 stone

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I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for past few years. Dh has been out of work for a year (he worked for 2 months on low wage earlier this year) and financially we are really struggling.

I have been comfort eating a lot, lots of chocolate and popcorn.

I know I can lose weight by low carbing, but as soon as I'm having a bad day I reach for the chocolate, I have no willpower. Also dh is quick to suggest treats at the weekend and I can't say no.

Also going to mil's for 4 days, she thinks I'm picky and weird because of low carbing in the past. Then visiting dd in Germany for 5 days, she lives off pasta and bread.

Any ideas how to keep myself on track? I know I'm asking for the impossible, but I'm so frustrated. I want to be able to eat healthily, but don't know what eating normally is anymore.

With low carb I struggle as it's too expensive and I'm fed up of eating eggs etc.

It feels like an impossible task, but I need to do something. The weight is piling on.

I don't exercise, only walking the dog and I can't when it's really hot, as I get really dizzy in the heat

Sorry for the rant.

Does anyone want to join me in losing weight and/or give suggestions of what to eat.?

Not entirely sure what I'll be eating at MILs

Will try to be reasonably healthy though.

Have a good week everyone Btw I totally understand if some of us don't want to post weight or measurements. Hope we can still motivate and help each other.

I started the day with 2 Ryvita with a little butter and brie because there' s nothing else in the house!

How are we all today?
Right, today's food:
Two coffees with milk
Breakfast- 2 poached eggs, some ham, half an avocado
Lunch- Salad with cheese. Some raspberries with yogurt.
Dinner- grilled salmon with mustard, cauliflower rice, broccoli
Snack- some mixed nuts and seeds
Broadly low carb I think but have been using mfp and it's around 1500kcal which seems ok.
Cycled to work and back and then did Shred when I got home! Feeling proud and tired and sweaty. Not so starving hungry today though. Hope I can keep this up. I do often start off really well like this but then because ice set my standard too high, I can't stick to it and I give up. Anyone else struggle to allow themselves to fail and then if they do, give up altogether?

May have a glass of wine later.

I'm 5ft4 and 10 and a half stone- want to be around 9 and a half. Don't know my measurements as I don't have a tape measure! Must get one.

Hi everyone, hope you all had a good day.

Not to bad food wise today.

B Greek yogurt and berries, tea with cream.
L chicken and bacon salad with cheese
S walnuts / cheese
T chicken and chorizo with mushrooms and toms.

Will be having a couple of glasses of wine tonight whilst getting my nails done.

I am feeling quite smug, went to softplay today with dd and kids I mind and didn't have cake. This is nothing short of a miracle!!!

I've not had time to exercise, also still hurting from shred. We are off blackberrying tomorrow so lots of walking up hills and in woods.

Guy and Glen, sounds good

Not eaten well really, although not the vast amounts I have been eating.

Had bacon and eggs for lunch, a small bag of crisps in the car, then corned beef pie with salad and a little chocolate trifle, at MILs. Not healthy food, but small portions.

Time to finally update now my Internet is back!

Breakfast: 40g porridge with semi skimmed milk

Lunch: chicken and veg stir fry in black bean sauce

Dinner: roast chicken and stuffing with mixed veg and homemade roast potatoes cooked in fry light, extra light mayo. Also made a conscious effort to drink more water, I downed 3 cups before I started work because I felt hungry!

Snacks: 3 cups of tea, 2 werthers originals and 6 chewitts absolutely nothing else

Does anyone else find that porridge doesn't fill them up for long? I have a bowl and I'm stuffed finishing it but then by half 10 my stomach is growling

Jumble, I'm the same with porridge, it doesn't fill me up for long. The only thing that keeps me full is omelette or bacon and eggs.

I've entered what I've eaten in MFP and am within my allowance of 1200 calories

Glad I'm not the only one, I definitely prefer to have scrambled eggs or an omelette. And you got to have a chocolate trifle too even the thought of it is making me drool a bit...

Glenthebattleostrich (I can't think how I can shorten your username!) cake is always a big downfall when I go to a cafe, it doesn't feel like properly yummy coffee if there's not cake to have with it. Even if I do have to share it with DP and DD (I suppose that's a secret blessing). Well done for resisting

I really do need to find a low fat yummy cake recipe!

How's the motivation today everyone? I'm still feeling strong. My downfall is always if I give in to temptation just once I then just think sod it, I've failed now- then I end up binging. Not sure why I feel like that but I need to work or how to avoid being so all-or-nothing.

Guybrush I'm the same!

I can't just have 1 piece of chocolate, I have to have the whole bar.

I can't just have a normal sized bar, I have to have the family sized one.

I did the second run of week 1 C25K and some weights for my arms, I was so tired and my legs hurt from the first run but I finished it treated myself to a latte, jacket potato with tuna and an orange after

I'm the same, if I slip up once I give up and binge.

Food hasn't been great today, but I've walked lots this afternoon.

We had 4 rashers bacon, 1 small sausage and 1 fried egg for brunch and a donut this afternoon, for dinner we're having roast pork with new potatoes (just a little one for me! ) cauliflower and sprouts. Tonight I'll have a small white wine spritzer.

How' s everyone else doing?

Good(ish) day for me so far.

Breakfast was porridge with strawberries and grapes. Lunch was jacket potato with tuna and salad and orange for after. Dinner will be sizzling steak with home made slimming world chips and a goats cheese and beetroot salad. My one downfall today was that DD didn't eat much of her tea (steak, chips, tomatoes, olives and cheese-strange mix!) so I ended up eating the leftovers there was only a small bit of cheese but I still feel bad. Going to make sure I don't have too many chips and make the salad extra large!

Jumble, do you have sugar with your porridge? I can't eat it without a sprinkling.

Sounds like you did well, all healthy choices.

Hi everyone. Eaten far to much today. Mostly low carb but too much.

Took the kids blackberrying today so lots of walking

I do the binge thing to. It is infuriating that I throw away days of work with a silly binge, when I know how awful I will feel afterwards.

I could never have porridge for breakfast. It leaves me starving after 2 hours. Have you tried fruit and yogurt instead, much more filling.

I have it with a little bit of sweetener, I couldn't eat it just by itself!

Fruit with natural yogurt is another one of my favourites, may have a small bowl for pudding because I have some calories left for the day

Also I totally get the after feeling of a binge, where you're full and know you didn't need ANY of what you've eaten. I need to stop seeing junk food as a treat, for example when DP plays football on a Friday night I'd usually get sweets and a big bar of chocolate and I wouldn't have to share ANY. And sometimes I won't tell him I've bought anything and I'll eat it in secret (and make sure the wrappers are destroyed!) before he gets in because I don't want him to think 'you fat pig!'. I used to secretly eat a lot when I was younger, I had lots of wrappers hidden under the bed

I did that too when I was little. I sometimes blame my mum who had always kept a close eye on both my and her weight. Buy ultimately I have to take responsibility.
Yesterday was ok although we had guests for dinner and I found it hard to still keep an eye on things. I didn't drink though which I think helped.
Are any of you following a particular diet or 'woe'?
Glad we haven't given up yet! As we all have a tenancy to Nobber I wonder if it's worth admitting it here if one if us feels like doing it and then the others can try and motivate us. I remise that'd easier said than done- one I 'decide' I've failed, it feels like there's no going back. Worth a try though!

Nobber????!!!! Binge! I meant binge!!!! Excellent auto correct fail!

Ha, love a bit of nobber sneaking in there

Same here, my mum was very overweight and lost over 9 stone following slimming world. She also battled bulimia for years. She won a competition to be slimmer of the year but told me I couldn't be in the newspaper pictures with her because I was "too fat to be the slimmer of the years daughter". She was always very harsh to me about my weight, making me weigh myself every Sunday, telling me off if I hadn't lost anything, glaring at me if I had eaten something I shouldn't have etc. I had this up until the age of 13 when she left and I overindulged because I didn't have someone breathing down my neck all the time. Now if she ever mentions my weight I stop her in her tracks and tell her it's not a discussion topic.

I shall definitely be doing that, I need someone else to remind me how well I've been doing and that I shouldn't give up. DP, whilst lovely, would never say anything along the lines of "you shouldn't order a Dominoes, you've been doing so well" for fear of upsetting me. He's too kind for my own good

Sorry to hear about your mums, can't believe they treated you both like that

My mum didn't bother about what I ate, but I was a skinny kid. However a few years ago she told me I'd put on a lot of weight and it really upset me. Now I worry she'll say something again. I can't believe how much it upset me

Ended up eating crisps last night, but think I only went over my calorie allowance by a bit.

I'm planning to eat relatively low carb most of the time and also try to stick to a certain number of calories.

It's amazing how other people's unwelcome opinions can dictate or self worth, isn't it? I wish I didn't care so much what people thought of me, but I do.

Also to answer your question before Grey (because I forgot to) I'm doing myfitnesspal with a calorie allowance of 1,720 per day. The year before I fell pregnant I lost 4 stone by counting calories on MFP and C25k so I know it CAN be done. I just need that lightbulb moment I had back then, when suddenly it just made sense to eat sensibly.

I have been prepared this morning made a huge salad to have with tonight's tea, boiled eggs to keep as snacks and made up a huge fruit salad to pick on/for breakfast tomorrow. I always find that if I'm not prepared with my food and shopping it's always so much easier to run to the shop for a pizza or get a takeaway. Me and DP are both on evening shift tonight so won't get home till 9 tonight and we'll both be too tired to cook so we're having tea for lunch and something easy for tea

I feel bad- my mum is a really good mum and I love her to bird. She knows she screwed me up a bit. I think she tried not to. She likes to think of herself as passionate about nutrition, but in reality she just obsessive about it. She doesn't mean to. She never says anything about it not but if I eat something particularly fattening in front of her, she gives me a look. I don't think she even know she's doing it. She talks about what other people eat as well and is always commenting how some people can eat anything without gaining weight etc. She's just obsessive with it. Ironically because she is really REALLY slim without having to work too much at it now.

HI, can I join you? I have a similar goal.

I started last Monday at 11st 4 lbs
This Monday I was 11st 1lb

I would like to get to around 9st 7lbs but not sure how likely this is. I've not been that size for 5 years (pre DP - he's a feeder)

I have quit;

chocolate
cake
crisps
biscuits

My meals etc I am happy with but I'm having a bowl of cereal instead of cereal bar in the morning. It's much more filling.

The big change is not snacking - both at work and in front of the TV when DS is in bed. I was eating SO much rubbish in this way.

I've restarted couch to 5k, I had used the weather as an excuse to stop and eat ice cream but back at it now.

Seeing this as a permanent change. I don't want to be like a few women at work who were probably my size 10 years ago and have just carried on eating badly and being inactive and ended up being early forties, chubby and unfit.

Thereslots, that's me now Nearly 50, unfit and chubby

Welcome

I know about the looks Grey.

I think it's so hard for parents because of course you want your child to grow up healthy and happy, but if your child has a weight problem (or not but the parents THINK they do) it's such a fine line to tread of making sure they eat healthily and knowing that certain foods aren't good for them. I know that my mum was right to be concerned about my weight, but she went about it completely the wrong way. However she had mental health problems at the time which were undiagnosed so I can't entirely blame her.

On a lighter note, how's everyone done food wise today?

Breakfast was onion, mushroom, pepper and tomato omelette (which as soon as DD saw she HAD to share it--I can't ignore her big blue eyes and her "'mmmm"ing)

Lunch was ham, syn free roast potatoes and mixed veg with extra light mayo.

Dinner was baked potato with leftover sizzling steak, a big salad with a boiled egg and more mayo.

Snacks a million 3 cups of tea, fruit salad with fat free natural yogurt and I lost count of how many chewitts I ate at work still in my calorie allowance though

I have been low carbing for 9 weeks and am down by a stone. I am doing the Dissidents Diet by Dawn Waldron - it is an eBook but she does have a website.

I have found it pretty easy until this week when we are on holiday. Why does every bloody meal you eat out now come with spuds or pasta of some sort? Even the blooming salads I have seen on menus include new potatoes or croutons!

Anyway this diet cuts out dense carbs like potatoes etc for six days a week. Then you can have a carb day. Then you go back on the diet hard. For a day you restrict dairy, which can be high in carbs weight for weight. Then for five days you just restrict carbs.

My typical day is

B: two or three rashers of bacon, poached egg and either fried tomato or mushrooms fried in butter. Or I will have sausage instead of the bacon. Or a couple of eggs scrambled with grated cheese and grilled tomato. Or full fat Greek yogurt with 50 gems of berries

L: a roast chicken leg, skin on. Or grated cheese. Or half a tin of tuna with Mayo. Or ham. All with loads of salad and full fat Mayo.

D: whatever the rest of the family are having but with extra veg. On this diet you have to be careful what veg you eat. Salad leaves, cucumber, mushrooms, green beans, avocado, asparagus, leeks, spring onions, green peppers, courgettes, aubergine tomatoes and a few others are allowed unlimited but carrots,onions, peas, cabbage plus a few others are higher carbs and you can only have them as part of three portions of higher carb stuff a day. Included in that three portions a day is full fat milk, nuts, and fruit. So you have to juggle a bit.

Then I have another 50grm berries with double cream for dessert and 20grms of 85% chocolate as treat usually each night with a cuppa.

I do try to walk every day but this I harder now it is achooly holidays. I think my son's legs have gone on strike and as DH works away three times a week it isn't easy to get some me time to get out on my own.

It has certainly been a relatively easy diet to follow. Hopefully I can get back on track once we get home and I have some control over my food choices. I will let you know!