Does anybody else have down days or is it just me?

[BiteMeEricNorthman]

Hi

I have been calorie counting since New Year's Day, and have lost 3 stone so far. I was 13stone, am not 9stone 13lb and my target weight is 9 stone (I'm 5'1'')

Generally, I have found it quite easy. I had a terrible diet before, literally no fruit or veg, and NEVER used to drink water. I now eat fruit and veg every day, and drink at least 2 litres of water a day. If i want to have some crisps/takeaway/fizzy pop, I will but not to the extent I used to. I use MFP and now I realise how much I was over eating before (at least 3000 calories a day), I never want to go back. I feel so much better about myself, I'm now wearing size 12 whereas before I was a 16 and hope to be in size 8-10 once I reach my target weight.

But today I just feel a bit shit about it. Even though I'm only 13lbs off my target weight, I just feel like I will never get there or that when I do, I won't be happy. So many people have come and told me how brill I look, but when I look in te mirror I still see my wobbly thighs and fat belly.

I am going away at the end of next month for hen do, and hoped to be at my goal weight for then ( I have already brought a size 10 dress for the night ) but I feel like I've have too many days 'off' from the diet and that there's no way I'm going to look good in the dress for then.

This is pretty much just a massive ramble and probably makes no sense. I have always been chubby and I suppose the thought of being 'thin' just seems so unattainable, that rather then inspiring me to lose this last stone, it's actually pushing me back if that makes sense?

Just read it back and I sound so whiney

Not whiney at all. totally know how you feel..you've done amazingly well tho
I'm 5.2 and 9.5 so in a similar place but loosing those last few pounds feels like an uphill struggle.

You have done so well. I think everybody has these days and I find the closer to target you get the more critical you become.

Im sure you look fabulous, just try and ride it out on the down days and hopefully tomorrow will be a good day.

Thanks to both of you for replying!

I feel way better today, I think it was guilt from having a takeaway Tuesday night that made me feel bad yesterday haha.

I am going to go and treat myself to a new outfit from a charity shop and window shop for some lovely outfits for when this last stone has gone!

Thanks again

You are engaging in something called 'catastrophic thinking' - tormenting yourself with worst case scenario/negative what if? thoughts.

You have achieved some fantastic things - not just a significant weightloss, but overhauling your diet and introducing healthy eating habits. Taking things one day at a time and telling yourself how much you have achieved might help counteract any negative thoughts. Another suggestion might be to add a little leeway to your targets - you mention quite a few numbers/targets in your opening post. Aiming for very specific results by a specific date can be a tall order. It's fine to aim for targets, but be kind to yourself if they aren't quite met, or if there are hiccups along the way. Continue with your healthy eating habits and you'll be fine. But don't punish yourself if there are any blips (you mention 'too many days off from the diet') - draw a line, move on and focus on how far you've come and what you are achieving overall.

Hope you bought yourself something you feel fab in..love charity shops it's my favourite shopping destination!
I've had a rubbish few days diet wise..its the first thing to go when I'm feeling a bit low. Hey ho..have managed to make a healthy choice for tea at least..baby steps and all that