Calling out to BigFellaThanks. Want to reach out to you - as read your thread about your partner. Tbh I could have written it myself and I would love to know how you have got on after reaching out last year on this forum.
I am reaching the end of tether with my husband of 24 years he is bigger now than ever and I am so worried about him. I really feel as if he is wasting his life being overweight, and I am beginning to resent it. I too feel soooo angry when people judge him (even my own father is prejudiced against him). All our children are grown (our youngest is at Uni) so its just us. For over a year now he has worked away during the week - living in a hotel, which doesnt help as he has starters and mains and a drink every night. He has never lost a significant amount of weight - he gave up smoking back in 1996 and it has crept on ever since.
I think he has also the start of erectile disfunction as a few times he has not been able to (you know what!). He will be 45 this year and we intend going on 'posh' holidays now the kids are grown. But all I can worry about is how other people will see him and how much he will suffer in any sort of heat. Was awful when we went to Italy a few years ago - some kids were taking the mickey out of him and I was like a mumma bear protecting him. Reading this back - I sound so shallow, but I love him so much and would love him to be fit and well, but he really doesnt seem to care enough to do anything about it.
I really dont know what to do. I would encourage him to have surgery if I thought it would treat the problem but I dont think it would and plus he wouldnt be able to eat 'normally' ever again.
What to do?? :(