Fellow overweight/obese mums can I ask you something if you do school runs please?

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Do your DCs (talking primary age here really) get teased because of your size? Or do their friends make comments etc?

A couple of DD's friends have now, nothing major, just like "soandso says your mum's FAT " but it upset my sensitive DD. She's in yr2 BTW.

I just shrug it off and tell her to do the same or say "So? " as I know children that age don't always have a 'filter' and, well, it's obviously true! (Am losing now but will take a while before I'm a normal size as I'm doing it slowly and safely following illness.) I've no idea if the other children in her class with bigger mums get the same thing. If it's relevant, DD is really skinny.

I don't remember this ever being a popular subject for teasing when I was younger - that said I was bullied myself anyway so evidently they found enough wrong with me (I was a normal weight at this point BTW) to not need to mention my mum too

It's on my mind as I heard DD's best friend say something, she checked herself though and I don't think DD heard. But she's spending the day with us soon and now I'm thinking this may just be one more thing she (lovely and really fun but a non 'filtered' child if ever there was one :o) may comment on which is making me dread it a bit, as I'm not actually sure how I'd handle it if it comes up and DD is upset.

Apologies for the nonsensical rambling. So is this a regular topic of 'teasing' these days? And how do you deal with it?

I dont think either of mine have been teased about me. I am just over 15 stone but seem to carry it quite well and go to a few exercise classes a week so I may be fat but also fairly fit.

I'm currently around size 20 but 18st (have lost two dress sizes in the last couple of months but not a single pound ) so very obviously big.

I carried it well when I was a 16/18 I think... That was before I got ill though, I totally stopped caring TBH. That's changing now though. Got to buy size 18 jeans soon as mine are too big. I'll get there!

No-one has said anything yet, although I do worry about possible teasing. I've been doing MyFitnessPal for 3 days so far (not long, but we've all got to start somewhere!!) because I really do need to lose weight (just under 16 stone, only 5'2-look vile, fed up of looking in the mirror and telling myself how disgusting I am). Will I get there? No idea, but need to keep trying!!

If I can do it anyone can, dolally! :o

I am not dieting or banning anything, I'm over on the EatBetterer thread and taking a positive approach has done wonders for my self esteem as well as my waistline.

I'm walking more as I've only recently started doing the school run regularly and maybe that's why my size is more of a novelty

I just hope it doesn't come up - I want to really enjoy the day but now I'm worried TBH. I wouldn't know what to do as technically it's just the truth and you can't really say the truth is rude can you. Hopefully I'm just being paranoid but this friend saying it has rattled me a bit, even though other children saying stuff hasn't bothered me.

I would love to get walking more, but I'm agoraphobic, so this is difficult. Although part of my CBT is to get out, even if it's just round the block. I have been doing this some days, but I have to concentrate on the 'getting out' bit, not the 'power walking, good for you' bit-but every little helps, I guess.

I think I'll scoot on over to the EatBetterer thread and have a little look. It can only help to read other people's stories. We can all do it!!

I sympathise, I was agoraphobic for a long time, barely went downstairs in my house sometimes! I still have social anxiety but I wouldn't say I'm phobic anymore.

Baby steps. You can do it. If even getting out the front door is an achievement, then celebrate it and be proud!

I even have a pedometer, if anyone had told me I'd be religiously using one even a few months ago I'd have laughed in their face! :o I manage over 10,000 steps some days but am aiming for 7,000 a day average to start with, and gradually moving up. It also has more impact than I'd expected on my mental health. :)

Next comes more 'proper' exercise but due to my health conditions I have to be really careful. I'd love to join a gym but not allowed yet (consultant said so) - hoping to in the foreseeable future though.

Yes, my DD got teased at primary school for me being fat. It was mostly one boy who did it. In the end I spoke to his mother and to him and explained that my DD didn't like it. I asked him how he would like my DD saying something mean about his mummy. He eventually stopped.

I got teased at school for my parents being fat (20 years ago). It was a lower primary thing, and stopped when I reached year 4 I think.

It upset me as it felt like my parents didn't care about me enough to lose weight to stop the teasing. Neither ever had any intention of losing any weight though, I imagine it would have been different if they were actively trying.

Wow, not getting downstairs must have been tough. I don't have a problem being in my flat, but there was a time I found putting the bins out really hard. Doesn't that sound silly when you say it!

I think I should invest in a pedometer, it's a really good way of keeping track. Even if it's round the block several times, moving is moving