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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

Help losing weight

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TristanFarnon · 03/06/2014 14:18

I am too heavy. I have been for a while and I am really struggling to shift it. Is it worth going to the doctor to talk about getting help from the NHS? I just don't seem to be making any headway on my own and it is really getting me down.

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BIWI · 03/06/2014 14:22

Come and join us on Bootcamp!

We're in week 5 (of 10) but it doesn't matter - people are joining all the time.

Lots of help, information and support - you really won't feel on your own

Tansie · 03/06/2014 16:18

Unless you're 'dangerously' obese, it'd be my thought that your common-or-garden GP won't be of much help. You'd get way more and I'd suggest better advice on this board, tbh. We wimmin are experts, living as we do in a culture surrounded by lovely and fattening, empty-calorie foodstuffs meanwhile having our value as human beings judged by our dress size.

You could expect to be told to 'join a diet club', be given some printed handout telling you the calorific values of food and be told 'to exercise more'. None of which addresses the root cause/s of why you overeat.

You need to start by being frank with yourself, such as asking yourself 'Do I really want to lose this weight, or do I just think I 'should'? Often you need that line-in-the-sand moment to spur you on. Only you know when you feel that enough is enough, this stops here.

You then need to ask yourself if you're an emotional eater- do you comfort yourself with food? If you believe that to be the case, your 'go to' advice is Paul McKenna's 'Overcoming emotional eating'. I am a greedy old bag which is why I'm overweight Grin. I carelessly place food in my mouth without thinking, so I am doing PMcK's 'I Can Make You Slim' which is all about eating mindfully.

You will find advice on every type of woe (way of eating) under the sun on here plus tons of advice about how to resist temptation. There are loads of people along for each ride!

Personally I am not big on 'organised dieting' (SW, WW etc) although I readily acknowledge it has its place and has helped a lot of people. Personally I see my weight gain as my thing, my issues, requiring my solution- which also means I am relatively impervious about what other people think about me and my size! This backfires sometimes as I also have 'reverse' body-dysmorphia. I a) wasn't convinced I really was a lard arse (13 stone at 5'6" at one stage, so evidently was!) and b) still am not entirely sure I look any thinner, now at 11 stone 6 lbs! Though I'm reefing my belt in.

I am also not a fan of fad dieting as, imho, it doesn't re-educate you so the moment you stop with the cabbage soup/juicing/ beetroot juice etc, because your body and mind haven't had to recalibrate, you can easily put all the weight back on. I go Hmm at '7lbs in 7 days'- I can believe the figures but doubt that 7lbs will still be off 6 months hence!

BIWI low carbs which certainly seems to work and be sustainable. I salute her- she is a fount of knowledge but I know my 51 year old self well enough to know that I just wouldn't be able to sustain excluding a whole everyday food group from my diet! I go easy on the carbs, mind, and heavier on the protein that 'conventional' dieting lore would advise as the science is compelling. Also, I believe sugar is the enemy (carbs!) not fat (unless transfats etc).

The other thing you have to do is exercise. I am lucky in that I have a running machine rigged up in front of a telly so I fast/breathless walk for 2 miles/half an hour every day.

Anyway, I am not expert and am still baby-stepping (1 stone in 2 months) but I feel I'm getting there!

Let us know your thoughts!

VictoriaE1 · 03/06/2014 17:27

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BIWI · 03/06/2014 17:32

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TristanFarnon · 04/06/2014 11:16

Thank you, this has been fantastic. Really motivating actually!

On my own I have managed to drop from morbidly obese down to "just" obese, so yes I am dangerously overweight. And I have really reached the point where I have had enough. I need to make sustainable change in how I eat and excercise to make lasting changes. I need to lose almost half my body weight to get back down to healthy again and it is just so daunting.

I am totally an emotional eater!! Bad day? Never mind, I'll have some cake. Good day? Brilliant! I'll celebrate with some cake. The other complication at the moment is my lovely 10 month old baby. He is a joy and a delight, but like a typical baby needs a lot from me, and I am not prioritising myself atm. I do everything that NEEDS to be done, miss meals, end up feeling really hungry and eating donuts and cheese is just easier.

Not too concerned about looking "cute" while doing yoga though, thanks ;)

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Tansie · 04/06/2014 18:21

Getting from morbidly obese to obese is a bloody good start! Well done.

I'd imagine that you'd 'qualify' for NHS help- I'd hope so as you'd think an overweight person wanting to get back in control would be money very well spent, wouldn't you?! However, without NHS help (if they provide it!) these boards alone are a huge source of advice and encouragement. It's a broad church (ha ha) with the odd 'Eek! I'm 7 stone 3 and need to get down to 7 stone 2!' post, along with 'I have to shift 10 stone' post.

Reaching your 'line in the sand' moment is a biggie (no pun intended!). The 'enough' moment. Maybe the Oprah "AM I leading the best version of my life that I want?' question.

Do you know what encouraged you to start overeating in the first place? (Not asking you to detail it here!). Are there ishooz there that need addressing? People say CBT can be useful here, but maybe going 'dammit, bad day!' and reaching for the cake & might imply you're more like me- just lazy and a tad greedy!- rather than using the food to fill emotional holes in your life.

Having a young baby doesn't help, either, does it? The grab "whatever's in the fridge" approach to eating! I recall that. Maybe a conscious effort to put more nutritionally sound food within reach? I do the old carrot sticks and cherry tomatoes thing as otherwise I'd be reaching for the cheese, too! However, I do advocate some protein as it really does make you feel fuller for longer. And I am the world's number one sceptic! You also need to banish the demon doughnuts from your grasp! I have found I just can't have one, I'll be back for another before the day is out, so I 'deny' myself one..... at least at this stage. Once I'm at my goal weight I certainly won't be denying myself, but I will have half a doughnut, maybe just a bite, not 3!

BUT I avoid talk of good food and bad food (joking about demon-food aside!). It's just food. If you eat it, you're not being 'good' or 'bad', you're just exercising your choice as to what passes your lips.

Having an under 1 year old implies you're young; you have years to enjoy not being 'the fat one'.

And for the record, I don't look cute as I pound my treadmill, either Grin

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