Struggling with weight

[Serexo]

Okay so there will probably be so many of these threads about but I just need some advice if possible.

I am not massively overweight but I need to losing about 4 stone to feel good about myself. I can't afford to be spending loads on foods to help me losing weight as I am going to be out of work in the next 3 weeks. I am just about to start drinking as much water as possible everyday as I have heard that it helps with the bloating and aids losing weight.

I know I need to workout too but I never seem to have the motivation to do it or I am always to tired which I know could be solved by exercising more, so it's just a huge circle I'm going in.

I lost my mum before Christmas and she had a weight problem and I have promised myself and her that I would not get to much over weight. I just don't know where to start or how to make myself motivated enough to workout more.

Any advice would be appreciated as I need to kick start the healthy part of my life now.

Thanks

Hi serexo
I had 4 and 1/2 stone to lose. I started in sept, and as of today I have lost 2 stone.

I am by no means an expert but I do have nutritional and fitness qualifications. I'm planning to do a Personal Trainer course over the summer, lose the other 2 and a half stone by new year, and hopefully start my own business in Jan. (so only small goals then )

I've been reading weight loss chat a lot, as part of my research for my business plan, and I wanted to see if I could ask people to be a guinea pig for me.

Feel free to tell me no. No offence will be taken.

Hi Serexo, sorry to hear about your mum. I'm dreading anything happening to mine.

You could try the new Paul McKenna book called Freedom From Emotional Eating. www.amazon.co.uk/Freedom-From-Emotional-Eating-DVD/dp/0593064070
He thinks the diet industry is a rip off and that dieting makes you fat.
You don't need to eat special foods or go to the gym.
It teaches you to recognise when you are really hungry and when you are satiated...then to stop eating.

I bought it last week and am very impressed so far.
My relationship with food has never been very good and this seems to be ideal.

The DVD and CD heal with feelings and emotions to change them to positive ones.

Good luck with your weight.

Me too.
I'm about the same overweightness.
I started BIWI's bootcamp and did really well, was thrilled. Then my chronically ill kid hada blip - and, well, comfort eating is what works for supporting my sanity.

I might give McKenna a whirl - I need to give myself a kick, I'm such a bad example to my children. Sigh.

Hi Siiiiiiigh I know exactly what you mean about being a bad example to your children.
My 12 yr old daughter seems to have a bad relationship with food now too.
I've persuaded her to do the Paul McKenna book with me.
She said that she doesn't believe in it, but I told her that she doesn't need to...just needs to do it!

Hope your child is better now.

Yep. I wasn't even that fat as a teen - thought I was a heffalump. Was really shocked to see photos of me as a student, I was gorgeous! And, all that time, I was miserable. I really don't want my daughter to waste the same amount of energy fretting about something that's such a nonsense.

Part of the problem is that my understanding about what a good diet is is skewed after years and years of messing up.

Where can we get good advice about what a portion is, what proportion of carbs/fat is - like, evidence based stuff?

Because, I'm bemused. and fat

Siiiiiiigh I do cook healthy meals, but had been eating other stuff that piled the weight on.
The Jamie Oliver cookbooks are pretty good for healthy food that can be prepared quite quickly.

I've been playing the Paul M. track during my meals that tells you to chew each bite 20 times.
Each time it lengthens the time between bites a bit more.
By the end, I've found that I am full and don't want any more.

Tonight I had made lasagne and served myself about half of what I would normally have eaten.
With eating it so slowly, I was full without eating as much as I had before.

Yep, me too.

I cook from scratch, and, am good at it - in that, it's functional food. I turn a chicken into roast/pie/pasta/stir fry/stock for soup - the MN approved use of chicken.

We eat loads of veg and fruit...but, I am partial to sitting up far too late at night and scoffing nibbling. Before I know it it's 1am.

so, that's the first change. Earlier to bed, more sleep, more energy means I'll go swimming.

Will order the PMcK. I think.

I do Paul McKenna. Been doing it for about 10 years now and it is all about the "eating like a normal person with no diet issues". You eat when you are truly hungry and stop when you are satisfied. It may only be a couple of mouthfuls but its learning that sometimes that is all you need. O and also eating whatever you want. Anything. At first you might eat all the things you have always forbidden yourself because of dieting but once you get used to the idea that no food is bad and that its just food then you let go of the diet mentality and just buy any food you want. I have chocolate sitting in my cupboards, cakes, cream, full fat yoghurt etc but I never overeat them anymore. They are just food. I don't eat chocolate every day nor cakes but if I want them, they are there. I eat loads of fresh food too.

In my opinion, diets are what makes you gain weight. It is a huge business out there making loads of money. Why should you ever need to eat special foods. Eating mindfully and instinctively is body led calorie control ie you only ever eat when you are really hungry and stop when full. It takes consciousness every time you go to eat but its so worth it.

Hi Zappetite, what was it that you had in mind like. Guess I'm willing to give everything a try at the moment lol!

I have looked at the Paul M book and it does look great but can't afford to be buying it at the moment so stuck really. Will get it when I can though anything to help me.

I just don't have the motivation to do anything, it's like a huge circle because I don't have the energy to do anything like exercise but I need to do it to get the energy. I just need the motivation to kick myself in the right direction.

Plus my depression seems to be coming back slightly and I just know if I could get myself sorted then I could stop it before it gets too bad.