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Just started mourning "fat" me - has this happened to anyone else?

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BumgrapesofWrath · 02/02/2014 20:24

So far I have lost 3 stone 6 pounds, with the hope of losing another 2 stone. (My top weight was 17 stone 9, and I'm 5'5).

When I started losing weight, initially it was purely for health reasons. I had a lot of aches and pains, my ankles and knees were suffering, and honestly my digestive system just felt fucked! When I started losing weight I started feeling better, but also started looking better and I enjoyed this by-product, and this really spurred me on.

A friend of mine has just started doing "comparison" photos, before and after weight loss, and I thought I'd dig out some of my old photos, and this is where I start to feel sad. On all my old photos I look really happy. I was happy, I didn't really think about how I looked, didn't look in a mirror. I was free in a way!!

Since I've started focussing on my weight loss, and how I look, I realise I am considerably less happy. I notice how fat I still am. I notice how far I've got left to go. I notice how clothes look on me. All these things passed me by when I was really fat!!

I think maybe I feel sad because I find this journey a bit consuming at times. I'm always having to plan my gym trips around the children, and work, and spending what little time I have with my husband. On my days off from work I'm thinking of what we can have for tea for the next 5 nights etc. It feels like to lose the weight I can't escape from it. (and I'm not "dieting" as such, it's a "lifestyle change")

I can't lose focus. Though I was happy before, I don't want to go back as I do enjoy buying clothes now (something I've recently discovered) and I do feel really healthy and fit. I just wish I felt happier about it all...

Does this sound familiar to anyone??

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GertyD · 02/02/2014 22:33

I can certainly empathise and have had a similar weight loss to you. I get sick of planning meals, gym trips (also around DP and kids) and having to 'think' about everything all the time.

Spending my 20's carefree and eating/drinking/not exercising is a distant memory now and like it happened to someone else. I miss those carefree days. I think my DP misses those days too (but he certainly appreciates the results).

The whole 'lifestyle change' change can sometimes be overwhelming and almost like a life sentence of daily punishment.

Just hoping that my (like you) improved digestion, energy levels, appearance and overall health is enough to keep me motivated to keep doing this. For the rest of my life.

TalkinPeace · 03/02/2014 21:37

think about how great its going to be to be fit and healthy when your kids are letting you look after your grandchildren - and you can follow them down the slide

the big picture is to have a long and healthy life
that is worth smiling about

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