I don't want to take my dds with me to Weight Watchers as I don't want them to know about dieting

[Enid]

so consequently must miss meeting today

I mentioned this last week to leader and she had no idea what I was on about

she said she'd bring crayons in for them today (?)

am I being overly paranoid?

I don't think you're being paranoid at all - I wouldn't take my children either. And I started being rather cagey about my WeightWatchering when ds1 started saying things like "this is nice, Mum - is it WW? How many points is it?" So now I tend to say "oh it's so n' so's recipe..."

I just don't think they need to have a knowledge of diets and actively trying to lose weight when they are children - awareness of healthy eating, yes...dieting, no.

Lots of people do take their kids though - the crayons, I guess because the meetings are pretty dull for children to sit through (or maybe for them to eat...?)

It is up to you Enid
My DH asked me to stop me calling it Fat Club for our DDs sake at he is right. I know tell them that mummy is off to her Health Club so they don?t know much about it. I think if you (in the general sense of the word "you") change your eating habits to healthy ones then that is the only positive knock on effect you need as they will find a fridge and house full of fruit and veg, healthier meals and snacks, and maybe even copy your own good example.
We talk to her all the time about healthy food and what is not that healthy so have in small amounts only now and again. She seems really interested. I would never talk to her about losing weight and about it being a good thing - she just doesn?t need that information right now and would hate to think she might copy me

yes I can pass it off as helathy eating (although we eat healthuily anyway - just too much of it in my case )

but they dont need to hear how fabulous it is that Gladys has lost a pound and everyone clapping

I am totally with you Enid

I want to bang people over the head with my frying pan if they say the word "fat" in the house

Here's a good quote from Zadie Smith's latest book which resonated with me:

"This was why Kiki dreaded having girls: she knew she wouldn't be able to protect them from self-disgust. To that end she had tried banning television in the early years, and never had a lipstick or a women's magazine crossed the threshhold of her home to Kiki's knowledge, but these and other precautionary measures had made no difference. It was in the air, or so it seemed to Kiki, this hatred of women and their bodies - it seeped in with every draught in the house; people brought it home on their shoes, they breathed it in off their newspapers, There was no way to control it."

you are right Enid

Hi all, im new to this site but not so new to slimming world diet,
Im not sure where I stand on this one because even though I think children do need to be protected from over dieting and eating disorders, im not sure they should be completely blocked away from it all, I want my kids to know that they can come to me with there problems and I think part of getting that trust from them is by explaining in away that they wood understand for their age my problems and why it is that I am doing this.

Im a single mum to 3 and now its the school hols I will probably take my son with me to the meetings (normally they wood be at school when I go) I don?t think it is a bad thing for them to know about healthy eating and that when faced with a weight problem there are organized groups that can help in a sensible way, dieting is a good thing, it shouldn't be shameful thing, I think when there?s shame involved that?s when diets can over take you, kids already know a lot more than we give them credit for and hiding the kids away from it makes it worse because then they want to know even more than they would other wise and they become misinformed or can get anxious wondering what the big secret is, isn?t educating them the key to helping them in their life?s? I mean most of us here probably in one way or another learned our eating habits from child hood from either being given too much or not getting enough! So, isn't it down to us as parents to re learn how to eat and what our relationship is with food so we can teach them? Im not in anyway saying kids should diet or not have treats after all they need to grow but they should know about a healthy balanced diet. I have been a vegetarian since I was five. Im now twenty-five I would like to eat meat but cant, as it?s to drummed into me how wrong it is from my family. I don?t want my kids to ever feel that way so my kids know they can eat meat and they do sometimes, know I support them in it, im sure if u explained to your kids that your doing this because it is a healthy thing for you and it will help your self esteem you might find their not very interested or that they give you extra support in what you are doing.
I only re joined last week because I had a baby eight weeks ago and have a couple of pounds to shift, when I told my eight year old he hugged me and said ?well done mum?, and that for me was a big help in doing this as I am on my own. I know a lot of you will probably disagree with me on this, and im sorry if I have offended anyone, but it?s just my views on it.
I do think if you explain it in a way that is right for there age group then it is a good thing,
If you are not going to take them with you to class please don?t give up on doing it at home, or even if you could just go in for a few minuets early and just get weighed then go? You don't have to stay for the meetings but just knowing that you will still have your weight recorded might help you to stay on track?
good luck,

I agree Enid.

Morningpaper that quote is creepy, but very true. My DD (aged 6) is bothered about being fat. In fact she's skinny. I think it's started since she went to school as I tried so hard to protect her from it.

"she knew she wouldn't be able to protect them from self-disgust"

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Not at all paranoid. I wouldn't bring any child to a WW meeting or any other meeting to do with losing weight.

I personally dont have a problem with my children coming with me.My youngest is 8,he knows i go to the class,im the clerk,but he doesnt really take any notice of what is going on.He knows i go and that our leader chats and cooks food,but he has never mentioned anything about diets,i think if you are open about these things you dont have problems as such,my 13 year old has come aswell,she just thinks its all boring stuff.I mean in the outside world there are talks about diets and stuff all the time so sitting in a class is no different.I dont really think the children take in what is being said,a bit like church as a kid,you would hear the priest chatting on and on but never took in what was being said.