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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

somebody help me!

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Tmallett92 · 27/10/2013 23:46

I have recently had my second child and am struggling with my weight. I've never been slim and have always struggled with losing weight. I am a big comfort eater which I know is bad but it's always been my way of dealing with things. I have now reached my highest weight of 20st 11lbs and I have tried every diet and pill going. I try to do as much exercise as possible but really struggle with it as I am very bottom heavy and it is very harsh on my joints. I have cut out all fatty foods and sugars but I haven't lost any weight in 7 years. I lost weight before but it was through bulimia so I don't want to lose it that way. I am at my wits end. please please help me. Any (kind) comments appreciated.

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IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 28/10/2013 07:12

Not much advice from me I'm afraid. Just wanted to say I know how you feel.

I've just had my 3rd child this year. I cant shift the weight properly. I'm on Slimming World at the moment, & whilst its is working, I dont like that I am following a plan. I know what you mean about the diet systems.

Sorry I'm not much help. I'm sure someone will be along soon.

I will be watching for info myself.

Spirulina · 28/10/2013 08:07

How old is your baby?

I recommend cutting the carbs... Not the fat..... And all processed food and SUGAR! Sugar isn't just cakes, biscuits. It's in more foods than you would imagine

Gentle exercise not putting too much stress on joints. Exercise bike? Or any bike.... Walking.... Swimming? Anything at all to start with.

I've lost 5 stone this year and got fit. Properly fit. I've amazed myself. To do that I had to out myself first and my family have for around me for once. (Easier as I have teens) I have thrown myself into clean eating and fitness and seen proper results.... And it's rubbed off on my dc too. Start small, but you have to really want to do this as I found my biggest barrier had always been what's going on in my head!

Tmallett92 · 28/10/2013 14:17

he is almost 4 months. I have a exercise bike and go on it daily and I eat healthily, it just doesn't come off. I've lost 3lbs in almost 7 years of trying Sad

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Hercy · 28/10/2013 14:45

If you eat healthily and exercise daily, then you should be losing weight. I think you have to figure it out through process of elimination.

Are you really eating healthily? I sometimes kid myself some meals I enjoy are healthy, because they're not out a packet or deep fried, but I know deep down they're not really healthy. It's surprising how much butter on bread or mayonaise on salad can all add up as well. Are your portions the right size? Are you having too much of a particular group eg carbs? Do you snack at all (I'm not an advocate of snacking, but it's not a bad thing if you eat a small amount of the right thing). Fruit contains a lot of sugar, so excessive consumption may lead to weight gain. Are you drinking a lot of fruit juice/smooties/other high in sugar drink/alcohol? I think using something like my fitness pal or similar to log every calorie you consume for a week would be the best place to start. If it comes to more than you were expecting, you may have your answer. If it comes to less...

Then the next thing would be to rule out medical issues, eg thyroid. If you do have something like thyroid issues, you have my sympathies, but don't be defeated, you can still lose weight, it will be difficult, but it can be done.

With the exercise, have you perhaps reached a plateau? Are you really pushing yourself? You need to pick an indicator and then work to targets, continually moving them. For example, when I started working out, I did 15 minutes on the bike. When I felt ready for more, which was approx every 10 days, I increased how long I cycled by 5 minutes. When I got up to 30 mins, I kept the time the same, but every week or two, put the intensity level up. When I reached the highest intensity level, I recorded the distance I cycled in 30 mins then I tried to knock 10 seconds off my time each week.

Doing things like that will help keep you working hard. It's important to only pick one at a time though, eg only pick one out of increase the time cycling, increase the distance, increase the intensity level, try and beat your previous time at a set distance, as it's easier to keep track of your progress and you don't want to set unrealistic targets.

I would keep a brutally honest food diary and push myself while using the bike for a week (I was told you should be "out of breath" but not to the extent you can't speak). Then you're in a better position to evaluate whether you should see a doctor.

IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 28/10/2013 14:47

I found that if I exercised just as that, exercise, I would fail. If however, I took the DC out every day for long walks etc then it was better.

What do youthink is the best way to lose weight? Maybe take that and try to turn it into a routine for you?

IfIDontKnowAndYouDontKnow · 28/10/2013 14:49

Or what Hercy said. ^ Excellent advice

Tmallett92 · 28/10/2013 14:55

I do have a thyroid problem, it runs in my family. I was embarrassed to say Blush I do my exercise bike until I physically cannot breathe, then I take a break and do some more. I follow portion sizes on packets but I do eat a lot of fruit to fill me up. Could this be the problem?

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Tmallett92 · 28/10/2013 14:58

I also joined my fitness pal and I alsays stay dead on or less of what I should be having. I want to try the 5:2 diet but if my sugars get too low i pass out

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DreamlessSleep · 28/10/2013 15:07

I used to eat a lot of fruit and it wasnt helping. I an def losing more now I eat less fruit. Brutally honest food diary for a few weeks to see what you actually eat is the way to go definitely.

Tmallett92 · 28/10/2013 15:09

okay thankyou, I will rry a food diary

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Tmallett92 · 28/10/2013 15:09

*try

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Hercy · 28/10/2013 15:13

I think the best thing for you is to see your GP then, for referrals as necessary. They can help you to come up with an eating plan that is safe for you. I'm afraid I don't have any direct experience of thyroid issues, and think the advice of an expert is your best port of call.

My aunt has thyroid trouble and her doctor (through referral to a dietician) helped devise a sensible eating plan that has seen her safely (albeit slowly) lose weight.

With regard to the bike, your rest periods shouldn't be too long. Interval training might be a good thing for you - do 2 minutes as fast as you possibly can, then rest for 30 seconds (by rest, still peddle but at a very slow speed with no intensity - how you would if cooling down) and repeat.

With the fruit, I don't think anyone should use it to fill up due to the sugars, but you'll have to be even more careful. Don't deny yourself completely, and it IS good for you in moderation. I would try to keep to 1-2 portions a day, and replace other portions with vegetables.

Tmallett92 · 28/10/2013 15:27

thankyou hercy. great advice

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Dawnie1234 · 29/10/2013 14:08

I was also over weight until I started to use a food diary and saw it wrote down in black and white what exactly I was putting in my mouth it was quite an eye opener. The trick for me was to be truthful because after all I was only fooling myself by pretending I wasn't over eating. Good luck x

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