How can i help my dh help himself?

[MrsPear]

DH had back problems and was sent to the hospital with a covering letter which we both read; it showed his weight as 76 kg in September 2009 and then now - 94 kg. We were both shocked. We both know he has gained weight but not that much. For his height (175cm) his BMI has jumped from normal to obese (24 to 30). The question is how can i help him? I am the one who cooks the evening meals and trying to make sure they are healthy and the right size portions but he complains they are small and simply gets bread and (goats) cheese to fill up! On top of that he denies he is eating anything during the day - he lives on coffee and fags! He is only 33 ffs! So any ideas?!

You can't help him unless he wants to help himself. Sorry. You're not his mum.

Unless he's really overrating it might be worth getting checked out for thyroid or other hormone problems (eg cushings). Otherwise is he drinking more? Taking less exercise? Can you make filling but low cal dishes- wholemeal pasta, lots of veg, tomato based sauce, just a little cheese?

But unless he wants to lose weight, you can't really do anything g!

would he be interested in low carb? Plenty of filling meat plus veggies and cheese?

I agree that you won't be able to do it for him - he has to want to. Hopefully if he really was shocked by seeing his weight gain in black & white then it will motivate him.

However, if you're thinking of making changes to the meals you cook in the evening then ime men tend to do very well on low-carb. It's generally more appealing, I think, than calorie-counting - he can keep his cheese habit for a start (just has to ditch the bread )

But tbh it's unlikely that it's just the evening meals and the odd bit of bread and cheese that are the problem. You may not be getting the full story about his daytime eating!

You cannot help him unless he wants to help himself
BUT
you can make sure that only sensible quantities of decent food are in the house
wholemeal bread
etc etc

and set this as the passworded background on his computer t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcR5ZhKnzMrVBKox3gnu1UuDobJlBCCfcSx2eQ1MSP9CgIrW4JmVWA
so shock away the smoking