how to deal with having 3-4 stone to lose?

[nearlyfinisheduni]

hi i have between 3 and 4 stone to lose and have been overweight for the past four years. Every day i 'start again' as i sabotage my healthy eating the day before. I think it is because i have a significant amount of weight to lose it just seems so impossible, how do i deal with this and sort it out once and for all?

[xxxresixxx]

I did it through Ww. I found just concentrating on losing my weekly goal was the easy way. All those 1lb and 2lb add up! Sometimes if I had a big event I would set myself a target weight and a target weekly loss plan. Felt very achievable that way..

[sookiesookie]

I have lost 4 stone. My fitness pal app on my phone is the best thing ever. I committed to record everything ever day (good and bad).
When you have to record the calories, its amazing how it changes your thinking. It really helps me keep to the healthier choices.

[sookiesookie]

I also second, third, fourth and fifth the advice to take small steps. :).

I still have some weight to loose but only think about the next 7lbs or what I would like to be by the end of the month.

[Coffeeformeplease]

Hi there (my first ever post)
How to deal with having 4 stone to lose? Never stop believing that you can do it.
Because you can! Everyone can. I know because I did it ;)
I lost 5 stone in a period of 10 months, did my own plan, stuck to it. I was overweight, very overweight for 10 years and had crossed the border to obese last year and that did it for me. I had enough, wanted to go back to the shape I was before children, and I did, from 15 stone to 10, from size 16/18 to 10.
I changed my way of eating: I eat only when I'm hungry, 3 meals (no skipping breakfast!), no snacks, low carb, high protein, and most importantly: I separated food from emotion. No more eating when I'm stressed, bored, depressed, lonely, upset, angry...
I think most women know exactly how much calories any random food has, I've been a walking calorie-spreadsheet for years, and we know how much to eat and what better not to eat. Nobody tells you though how to undo bad eating habits once you start eating for any other reason than hunger.

Secondly, exercise: I only did and still do exercise I love. I've had gym memberships for years and never shifted more than a few miserable pounds.
Find something you love doing, so you don't have to force yourself, everyone loves some kind of exercise, you just have to find out what it is!
As for setting goals, I did set myself a very ambitious goal, I wanted to be no more than 11 stone. But I didn't set a time frame, I just did what I described and waited patiently, and the pounds dropped, continuously. After I reached my goal I just let my body find the right weight, and that seems to be 10 stone (I'm 5'7). I've been this weight since March.
Btw I didn't cut out cakes, etc completely, just ate them only once a week, and only a small piece, and really really enjoyed it, took my time. No more snacking in front of telly, computer, while reading. And I did drink alcohol as well, so there is a God ;)
I tell you what though, it costs a lot of money clotheswise, you will need a complete new wardrobe.
Good luck, start today, sort out any emotional issues around food (make lists of what you eat and when and why) you're worth it, you can do it!

[nearlyfinisheduni]

hi everyone, i had no idea people were still replying to my post thank you all so much for the advice, especially coffeeformeplease, you have summed up how to tackle this in one small post and have made me feel really motivated. I have always thought eurghh 4 stone to lose it loads and become overwhelmed but i will change my mindset to wanting to weigh no more than 10 stone and take a day as it comes, thank you so much

[nearlyfinisheduni]

actually coffee your post wasn't small but rather large and full of useful thoughts!