What should/can I do?

[Shybairns]

Hi ladies, been carrying 2 extra stone sinve the birth of my first DC in 2007.

I have tried on various occasions to loose i and failed. My youngest DC is now 3.

I am in the middle of getting divorced. exh moved out 4 months ago. Was along time coming.

I am sitting here night after night staring at my generous gut. My arse is enormous as are my thighs. I'm a classic pear. I'm not massively over eating, though I'm certainly not making low cal food choices either.

I do feel the need for abit of emotional eating. But as I say I'm not that bad.

I feel the need for a bit of damage control. My head is not in the right place to diet right now. And yet I am hating my body.

Not sure there are any real solutions to my mumblings.

Thinking that any kind of control will be easier in term time, when I have more routine.

Urgh! Sorry guys...

Hello shybairns, mumble away and I'm glad you've posted. :)

You've obviously got lots of stuff to contend with so maybe 'babysteps' is the way forward.

As you're not obviously massively overeating but looking for damage control, maybe logging your food and exercise on something such as myfitnesspal.com might help you gain some perspective on your eating?

Are you able to exercise? Walking is a really good way to start moving more or a dvd in the evening when the children are in bed?

There are lots of threads on here giving either general or specific diet support and they're great with help and information.

Thanks for your replies. Not sure when I'll wake up ready to focus on food.

I should probably start by cutting out alcohol. Or at least cutting down to one or two evenings.

Emotionally exhausted and feel like I ought to give myself a break. But have bright moments when I feel like I'm coping. So I guess I'll hope for more bright moments. When i can pause and think about what I'm about to eat.

I think when you've been through big life changing and stressful events you need to take small steps, or it can become overwhelming. I started this year the heaviest I've ever been and feeling very unfit, and started going for a short walk every day after dropping the dcs at school. Sometimes it was 10 minutes and sometimes 40 but I did it nearly every day and that time and mental energy dedicated to my own health became a kind of habit. Can't say I really lost weight that way but it was a first step, after a few months I was ready for some more challenging exercise and to tackle diet.
I can really recommend walking as it helps with stress too, but you could also think about other small steps you could take such as deciding when and when not to drink alcohol, cutting out/down on fizzy drinks, not eating dcs leftovers, whatever: identify 1 thing and address it. When you've mastered that make another small change.
Good luck :)