Facebook photo hell: please buck me up/encourage me <needy>

[JodieHarshHasALumpyPennie]

Oh fuckfuckity fuckbugger.

Someone has put photos of me up on FB (I'm mid FB flounce so can see it through DH's page). I look absolutely enormous.

I used to be absolutely enormous and had managed to get down to merely pleasantly plump, but have obviously inflated back up to absolutely enormous again. To make matters worse I am, in all the pictures, standing next to a friend who is despicably handsome and very slight. We look precisely like a gender-reversed version of Beauty and the Beast.

To make matters even WORSE I was wearing an outfit that I thought looked OK because I KNEW there'd be a proper photographer there and I was WRONG, it looks HORRIFIC and I am going to go home and BURN the fucking thing.

I want to a) cry, b) chop my arse and belly off with a machete, c) cry, d) rub my head off with a belt sander, e) cry.

I KNOW all the things I need to say to myself but I am tired and sad and fed up so can someone come and give me the MN equivalent of boxed ears and a thorough talking-to?

Thanks in advance and yes I am aware this is pathetic.

It's not pathetic, you're just human! The same thing happened to me. Tagged in a FB photo next to skinnies and was completely mortified and cried my eyes out. Told the person never to tag me again. She hadnt thought anything of it and didn't realise how hurt I was. I am massive by the way and despise having my photo taken anyway. Bloody FB, wish i had never joined ( too nosey to come off though)

Oh thank God it's not just me. It's the yawning chasm between what I think I look like and the brutal reality that's so hideous

RIGHT. But I don't have to put up with it, no?

I carry on with myfitnesspal.com and get back to going jogging before work and I don't have to vomit every time someone shows up with a camera, yes?

It's always the same bloody man that tags me as well. I think he literally doesn't realise that I care. He must think, well she must KNOW what she looks like so why would she mind yet another photo of her vast thighs spilling over the sides of her chair/triple chin/haggard complexion

And I'm not exaggerating either!

I have my fb set, so I have to 'approve' photos I am tagged in, before they are posted on my wall/timeline ;)

Mine was like that too, and so is DH's, so no-one has seen it...except for the literally hundreds of mutual friends on the bastard tagger's page.

Anyway it's not so much people seeing how fat as I am as the fact that I am that fat. IYSWIM.

GNgngngngn

You know, maybe, just maybe, people dont think like that about others?

I know you think it about yourself, but others dont. They are not going to be saying OMG look at the size of her!!!!!!

They will be thinking, oh what lovely pictures of the......what ever day you were at!

Divster I know you are right. And ye gods, i never fix on the size of people's bottoms when I look at pictures - I mean: I know what they look like, right, so it's not a shock in a picture - they just look like my pal! It's just that I did get slimmer, and I'm CROSS with myself, and I just didn;t think I looked like that I guess.

Don't get mad, get not-obese though, right? Just been for a walk with bits of jogging in and shall have carefully cal-counted tea and I'm not going back on FB until I've lost a stone

This is about how you feel about yourself, not how you think others see you.

At the moment, I feel like the fattest mum at the school gates, mainly because I cant hide my arms in this warmer weather. I am no fatter, I just feel exposed now, like its all on show, every last bite!

We need to crack on with our weight loss