Desperately tired, desperately unfit

[Pesofanclub]

Please someone help break this vicous cycle. I am so so tired all the time that the thought of exercise makes me want to cry but I want to get fit to see if it will give me some much needed energy. I just don't know how to break this cycle I am in and it is making me very depressed. I feel like I have developed some sort of phobia to exercise and I am scared of feeling even more tired than I do already. The exhaustions blots my life.

Just start small, a short walk, a swim. You don't need to run a marathon on day one. As you start to feel better you will increase it.

Maybe have a check up at the DR first.

Good luck

What's causing the tiredness...sleep deprivation? Could you be anaemic?

First off, go to a doctor who can check there's nothing underlying wrong with you - could be the depression that's causing the lack of energy? Second, start walking. Walking's not exercise, it's just..walking! Set yourself teeny tiny goals and aim to gradually increase them every day. Are you overweight?

I am overwieght and very upset about it but mostly I get very very anxious about my health but then get kind of paralysed with anxiety. I am too scared to go to the dr. I keep thinking if I get fit and lose weight first then I will not be so scared to go to the dr. It is lots and lots of vicious circles I am in. I am in a mess.

I may be sleep deprived as my kids climb into bed with me at random hours throughout the night and it probably disturbs my sleep a bit but I am too knackered to tackle it as it will involve nights of hideous tantrums.

Oh no, it's all gone a bit tits up hasn't it? Right, time to take back control! Of your life and the kids! How old are they? Ok, tomorrow how about you set yourself just a small goal...say, right I'm going to go for a very small walk, just around the block. I think if you just DO it you'll feel so proud of yourself when you get back, you'll actually have done something you told yourself to do. I recently lost some weight and it came after YEARS of wanting to do it...one day I just said right, just for today I'm not going to eat any crap just for today. And I surprised myself by being able to do it - so I kept on doing it, just day by day. Then I started walking every day...6 months later I'm at my pre-pregnancy weight (and DC1 is nearly 9 so you do the maths) and feel fab - I even run up the stairs all the time.

Thank you UnSkink, I will try that tomorrow and I will report back. I don't know if anyone else is in the same boat as me but maybe we can all help each other.

That sounds like an overwheming tiredness. Do you have other symptoms as well? Could be hypothyroid, iron deficiency or something else easily treatable. I'd get some bloods done with gp then start exercise once you're sure all is ok

That sounds like an overwheming tiredness. Do you have other symptoms as well? Could be hypothyroid, iron deficiency or something else easily treatable. I'd get some bloods done with gp then start exercise once you're sure all is ok

Pesafan Have you tried removing ALL wheat from yr diet for a couple of weeks and seeing how you feel? Of course yr broken nights won't help yr exhaustion but a lot of people find an amazing difference to their inexplicable exhaustion and evil tempers when off the wheat. You can substitute with rye bread and ryvitas (waitrose does a good selection of wheat free breads) , whole rice instead of pasta etc. If you Google Wheat Belly by William Davis it gives good scientific reasons for it. Good luck

Go straight to GP (unless underlying reason eg up all night with kids, or can't sleep due to eating too much). Assuming you are getting 7 hours sleep sounds like anaemia or thyroid probs.

BTW I developed an underactive thyroid 10 years ago, I was going to the gym at the time 3-4 times a week, and I just didn't have the energy to go, had to literally force myself, so being fit didn't help the tiredness!

Are you taking any supplements?
If you're low in iron then they could help.

Other than that, just eat plenty of fresh fruit and veg, limit wheat(or remove it like ppeatfruit suggests) and start walking outside every day for a bit.

The more crap you eat, the worse you feel.

Yes very true exex also drinking crap like high additives and sugar fizzy drinks and or alcohol will make you feel shxx.