Self sabotage... slimming world..

[BirdFromDaNorf]

I'm doing slimming world, but just not managing to stick to it in the evenings. I end up on the sofa, eating pom bears and raw cookie mix dough.

I need to do something else don't I? Go to bed earlier? Have a bath? What do I do? If I've done bath and bed time with the boys on my own, or had a difficult day, I think I deserve something sweet and treat esque because I've been good in the day time. This is nuts. Does anyone else self sabotage?

I want to shift the weight from around my belly. I'm happy enough with the rest of me. Can someone hit me over the head with a saucepan please? Why do I self sabotage like this? It's pants.

Does this make sense? I'm all annoyed with myself.

Do you allow yourself "treats" at the weekend. I always have chocolate and wine at the weekend, I find the week goes really quickly.

I also have a chocolate brioche for breakfast every day as well as coffee, yoghurt and fruit salad. It really fills me up and satisfies any sugar cravings I may have.

I'm calorie counting so it is easy for me to do that. Not sure how it would work with sw.

I do Slimming World & feel the same as you in the evenings - so if I have enough syns left I will have something, but if not will have an Alpen light cereal bar (any chocolate flavoured one). Not quite the same but a cup of tea with a banana or melon is lovely and gives the sweet taste. The fact that you recognise you are sabotaging yourself though is a good start and if you can tell yourself that you're worth more than chocolate that might help - sorry, probably sounds a bit woolly, but it does work for me thinking that no piece of chocolate/alcohol is worth me feeling crap in the long run for - they really aren't that nice overall and imagine how amazing you'll feel when you weigh in with a loss and get to target. Good luck (and if none if that works-try sex if available - good distraction and exercise killing 2 birds with one stone so to speak!)

Hi Hazie - yes, maybe trying to be better in the week and treats on the weekend is a practical thing. And TooBlunt I'm all up for wooly, mantra esque chanting if needed - what's the point of me doing couch to 5k to undo it all with crap? grrr. And sex with DH is what I want to do more of, and shift flubber to have more confidence for it!! DH is very supportive and keen on it as an exercise god love him!

I do wonder about sticking something on the fridge of what I'm working towards? A size 14 skirt or similar. That's all I want to do!

I was so annoyed to think that Ruth thingy, had lost 4.5 stones - she went from being a big ish girl, to curvy and I would have thought she had lost a couple of stones, NOT 4 !!! So I think it feels like a huge hill to climb. I think that's why I give in when tired, too tired to climb / fight it.

I totally appreciate where you're coming from and it's not easy - if it were, we'd all be at our perfect weight without any problems! The thing is though, Slimming World does work - I lost almost 5 stone a couple of years ago after DS2 (to get to a size 10 again - what I had been pre DS1). I've now lost 1 1/2 stone after DS3, although still have over a stone to go (as I put on quite a bit again with the third pregnancy). I wish I could say something to help - but all I can say is when you do get tired, if you can remind yourself of how amazing you will feel when you get to your ideal weight and that whatever it is you're craving doesn't taste as good as being slim will feel!

Also, if you can avoid buying the stuff that tempts you, that would help too!

At our group, we use a teddy bear that goes home with someone each week and keeps an 'eye'on them, and then whatever the person loses that week, gets written in the teddy's book. It acts as extra motivation to keep on track as you don't want a gain written in the teddy's book! Might sound silly, but seems to work for whoever takes him home! Good luck!

Hi, yes sweet things are a problem. I buy the frozen berries and have a berry & banana smoothie made only with syn free no fat yoghurt or muller light.

Also banana with the toffee muller light is quite good.

I also try to take the effort to present the food really attractively as though I am in a health spa or something so it looks enticing. My nature is to speed eat a family bag of m&ms so I have had to fight this problem too.

I used to love Quark mixed with a sachet of options (turkish delight was yummy) or low fat yoghurt, fruit and low calorie jelly.

Hope i helped and hasn't grossed you out!

Up until Easter and a horrible comment from my DH I used to be an evening scoffer. It is possible to stop but I found it hell for the first two weeks and then it gradually got easier. I used to eat a whole box of chocolates as well as pringles or crisps and nuts.
This is how I stopped.
Ate more during the day so not as hungry in the evening.
Either had dinner much later than I used to or split it in two and half with DC and half Later.
Went to bed earlier.
Said to myself I can do this.
Did not swap junk for eating healthy stuff in the evening. I had to kick the whole eating and watching t.v habit.
After three months of no evening snacking I started my diet proper, knowing I had got my sugar addiction out of my system.
Have lost over 4 stone which is 31% of my body weight.
Good luck.

Wow fantastic weight loss Fluffy